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Why Am I So Horny? The Big Reasons Why and Ways to Curb It

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If you find yourself dry humping your pillow eight times a day, you may be wondering if something is wrong with you. Is it even normal? Why am I so horny?

Trust us, we know there are times when even looking at a banana gets your panties wet, but don’t panic—there are many reasons for it. If you find yourself wondering, why am I so horny all the time, we’ve got five reasons why your horniness notched up, and three ways to curb the appetite.

How horny is too horny?

It’s getting hot in here—wait, it’s not, it’s just you, put your clothes back on. There have been times when looking at two dogs hump has put me in heat. The sound of a gentle clap or a simple hug got me going. And in my early twenties, it’s even worse. I can’t stop looking at men. Their shoulders, their torsos—what is a girl to do? I want them all.

I even start to beg the question, why am I so horny? Is this simply psychological phenomenon or is there something more? When you’re developing bags under your eyes from dry humping your pillow at three a.m. four nights in a row, it’s a good time to start looking for answers and solutions. There are a couple of easy reasons as to why you’re always horny and some easy solutions to go with it.

#1 Hormones. Ah yes, those hormones have done it again. And they’ll keep on doing it… until you’re fifty, then it’s all downhill from there. Hormones are a huge factor when contributing to your sex drive. When I was going through puberty, aside from either being in a constant state of angst or sheer rage, I was extremely sexually frustrated. I blame the hormones. However, most of us have made it past that stage of life. [Read: Sexually frustrated? 13 ways to calm the ants in the pants]

So, then what could be the reason for your spike in sexual energy? If you find yourself asking yourself, why am I so horny just before your period, it’s because your estrogen and testosterone are increased during ovulation. I recommend having sex during this time, it just feels better or maybe that’s just the hormones talking. [Read: When women are at their horniest and what you can do about it]

If it’s not your period, you have a couple of other reasons for this spike in horniness. Firstly, it could be a spike in testosterone or if you’re on hormonal birth control, that also plays a huge factor in your hormone levels. Or you’re pregnant… Surprise! Yeah… I’m sorry.

#2 Aphrodisiac foods. I never really thought about how foods affect my sex life unless they’re used during sex *do not use honey, I repeat, do not use honey*. Alright, I don’t wanna be all, “You’ll feel good if you eat healthily,” but I will be all, “You’ll have better sex if you eat healthily.” Which is completely true.

If you’re bloated or constipated or lethargic—you won’t want to have sex. You most likely just want to sit on the couch and watch The Simpsons. Why? Because your body is full of crap and is cockblocking you. But, if you’re constantly horny, not wanting to have sex isn’t the issue. But, food still may be a culprit in your excessive horniness. Whaaaat? Yeah, you heard me. Your dinner plate is making you horny. [Read: Aphrodisiacs and food hell: A lover’s guide to eating well]

The list below of foods are aphrodisiacs. Meaning, if you’re eating four bananas a day and can’t stop masturbating, maybe take it easy on that penis-shaped fruit. Try an orange. Mix it up a bit. Because these aphrodisiac foods only help to increase your sex drive. So, if you’re constantly horny, cut these foods from your diet for a bit.

-Celery

-Avocado

-Watermelon

-Blackberries

-Almonds

-Garlic  *within reason*

-Steak

-Bananas

-Broccoli

-Oatmeal

-Mangoes

-Sesame seeds

#3 Chemical influences. It’s not always the hormones *even though most of the time it is*. We’ve all had a drink or two and felt suddenly much hornier than when we first walked in the bar. That’s what the chemical influence can do to someone. It lowers our inhibitions and lets us relax. [Read: True sex talk: Alcohol’s effects on sex and your libido]

Even the scent of a specific lotion or perfume chemically enhances our perceptions of a person or situation. Drugs also have an influence on the sexual drive, which I don’t condone, but if you’re doing them all the time and wondering why you end up masturbating in the middle of a music festival, that’s why.

#4 A new love. What a beautiful period in life—when you cannot get your hands off of someone. When you’re in love or starting a new relationship, that sexual energy is peaking, making it impossible not to want to have sex. We’ve all experienced this.

Think of it like being on really good drugs. You can’t think straight, you’re laughing at everything, food tastes amazing. What I’m trying to get at is, to reduce your horniness, break up with your boyfriend. You’ll thank me later. [Read: Do phermones work like a love potion, or is it all hype?]

#5 The small things. It’s amazing how such simple and subtle things get your engine turning. I remember in high school when this one guy would walk by, his cologne drove me insane. He smelled like a lumberjack, it was delightful.

So, maybe it’s just the scent of cologne or how someone quickly glances at you. Becoming turned on isn’t so ABC as many people think. So, if you’re asking yourself, why am I so horny, think about what went on right before you started feeling the sexual urge.

So, how can you stop being so horny?

Good question, everyone. You’d think being horny all the time would be an amazing feeling, trust me, the feeling gets old after two hours. Not only that, it really affects your daily activities and relationships. Sure, guys love sex, but probably not for consecutive hours for consecutive days in a row. They need a timeout too. So what can you do?

#1 Have regular sex. This may be obvious, but many people overlook this option. You guys, it’s okay to have sex. Perhaps you just need to relieve some compressed stress and hormones from your system. If you’re feeling horny all the time but are not having sex, then I recommend finding a partner.

It doesn’t have to be a serious relationship. You can have a FWB or a one night stand—just as long as you get the deed done. Wait, at least be sexually attracted to them. That’s a healthy minimum standard. [Read: How to start a friends with benefits relationship]

#2 Workout. You don’t always need to masturbate or have sex to relieve sexual tension. Take for example, when I worked at a kid’s camp. I couldn’t have sex nor could I masturbate, so, I worked out.

Sure, it’s not as fun, sweating sucks when it doesn’t involve sex. But, I can say for sure, that I was much more relaxed at the end of my workout session. So, grab your runners and water bottle and go for a walk. [Read: 12 benefits of exercise on your mind, body, and libido]

#3 Masturbate. Good ol’ masturbation. Who says you need someone to get off. As long as you have a functioning hand or vibrator, you can give yourself an amazing orgasm. It doesn’t matter what you use while you masturbate, whether it’s a vibrator, porn, or photo—just get yourself comfortable and in the zone. I recommend not working at a kid’s camp for starters. It really kills the mood.

[Read: Mind games: How your body’s chemistry affects love]

You never thought you’d be asking yourself “why I am so horny all the time?” Or even wondering how to stop being quite so horny. Understanding why helps you understand your sexual appetite and how to care for your needs.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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