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What is Pegging? All the Backdoor Facts to Get You Started

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What is pegging? If you are wondering what it is and if you should be getting down with it, here are all the facts you need to know to help you decide.

But what is pegging anyway? Pegging is a form of anal sex where a woman penetrates her male partner in the anus with a strap-on dildo. It is anal sex in a reversed role. Shocked? Don’t be. Nowadays, more and more couples are easing into anal play. And this time, guys aren’t always the “giver” during anal sex.

If you’ve been watching Comedy Central’s “Broad City,” you might recall this humorous episode where Abbi finally gets down in bed with her neighbor, Jeremy. During the moment, Abbi suggests they “switch” to which Jeremy promptly agrees.

Having a different idea, he excitedly retrieves a bright green strap-on dildo from his dresser and hands it over to a shocked Abbi, unwittingly revealing his thing for pegging. In the end, Abbi concedes and Jeremy got what he wanted.

What is pegging? Pegging FAQs answered

Asking the boyfriend to bend over might be a shocker at first, especially if you’re the traditional type of couple. However, those sexually curious who have the guts to try vouch for its number of exciting benefits!

#1 Wait, isn’t this a form of BDSM? Yes and no. While BDSM role playing occasionally incorporates pegging in its routine, most straight couples do pegging without all the ropes, chains, leathers, and the hurting. Pegging is simply a role reversal during anal sex, and you can do pegging in a normal sexual setting.

It may also include elements of femdom or female domination where the female takes a more dominant and active role during sex. The male receives that treatment from his partner. [Read: 8 “facts” you think you know about BDSM debunked]

#2 Isn’t pegging a form of gay sex? Definitely not! As mentioned, pegging is specifically defined for heterosexual couples, hence the strap-on dildo. The main point of pegging is role reversal. Male gay couples wouldn’t necessarily need a strap-on for penetrative sex. For lesbian couples, strap-on intercourse is pretty much a common deal.

#3 Are guys into anal play considered bisexual or have gay tendencies? No. This kind of negative view on anal sex is pretty unfounded and causes a negative view of anal play.

First, bisexuals are people who get attracted to both their own and the opposite sex so pegging has nothing to do with it. On the other hand, guys who are interested in anal play are not automatically gay but are merely sexually explorative. Anal play = gay is mostly attributed to the traditional male image which is kind of outdated nowadays. Guys have the right to enjoy anal pleasure too.

#4 What’s in it for the guy? Pegging brings a lot of surprises into a couple’s sexual relationship especially for guys who we assume had some misgivings when they first tried pegging. So far, most enjoyed the experience and got so into it that they made it a permanent part of their bedroom routine. [Read: 20 new things to try in bed with your lover at least once]

     – Experiencing a submissive role. In heterosexual sex, the guy is mostly the dominant half and does all the moving. He is considered the “giver” because he obviously possesses the tool of the trade. During pegging, the guy gets a firsthand experience of being on the “receiving” end of sexual intercourse and feels what his partner feels during sex.

     – Anal pleasure. Frankly speaking, the pleasure is the first thing that invites curious guys to try pegging. There’s a whole different kind of pleasure to be derived from anal play, for guys specifically, a prostate orgasm.

#5 What’s in it for the girl? The role reversal itself gives a whole lot of possibilities. The main pleasure of role reversal during pegging is that the girl suddenly is given a more dominant and active role during sex. She suddenly becomes the giver of pleasure which gives a sense of empowerment, in addition to experiencing the role that her partner usually takes. The role reversal alone gives a form of psychological pleasure to both parties.

In terms of physical pleasure, there are special kinds of strap-on sex toys catered for pegging couples. Some of these provide mutual pleasure in the form of a vibrator built in the harness so she gets pleasure while she plows through her man.

#6 So we’re interested. How do we get into this? As mentioned, pegging could be a daunting request at first and would need the consensus of both parties before you could enjoy it both. Let’s assume that the guy has not brought it up first, what you need to do is:

    – Talk about it. Just like any novel or extreme form of sexual activity, the couple should discuss about it thoroughly first. One of you can bring it up casually and express your interest in trying it. You should then discuss how you intend to do it and make your boundaries clear before engaging. [Read: The top 10 taboo sex topics we love but don’t talk about]

    – Ease him up. The first thing you need to do to prepare him for pegging is to ease him up into anal play. During your next session, try to fiddle with his anus a little bit, and check his comfort, pleasure, and pain boundaries prior to actual pegging.

Some guys want the outer anal area played with but can’t handle anal penetration. So start him slow and carefully incorporate anal play during sex to prepare him for pegging.

   – Choose the right equipment. Guys might be unenthusiastic at first, so you need to make sure your equipment provides him the best comfort and security. Basically, what you need for pegging is a strap-on and some lube. Let the guy pick the strap-on so that he can choose the right size dildo you’ll use on him.

Check if the manufacturing is certified to ensure your toy was made safely and is made of safe materials. For the lube, choose something that is equally safe and hypoallergenic.

   – Proper hygiene. Even if your strap-on has the FDA’s highest praise, you still need to practice proper hygiene when engaging in pegging. Always clean your persons and equipment after sex and store your toys properly.

   – Be gentle. Remember just as you want your man to be gentle to you during anal sex, you should consider the same thing for him. For girls, remember you’re wearing a synthetic dick so you’d better be careful when traipsing through your man’s back door.

Anuses are meant to get things out, not in, so make sure that you’re not too rough when penetrating him. Make sure you are generously lubed up and start with slow, long thrusts. Ask him if he likes it and let him control your pace verbally. [Read: Backdoor fun: Here’s how to have anal sex the right way]

#7 What are the health and safety risks of pegging? The risks involved are similar to the risks in normal anal sex. However, since you’re using a foreign object for penetration, there’s an additional risk of injury and infection especially if your strap-on dildo came from a shop with questionable manufacturing. So to be succinct, here’s what you need to remember:

   – Choose the right and safe equipment. Check for the quality of the dildo and the lube prior to use.

   – Proper hygiene. To avoid any tainted toys, guys should clean themselves up prior to sex.

   – Clean your equipment before and after use. Needless to say, stuff that goes through door number two can be extra filthy.

   – Be extra gentle during penetration. Being a guy doesn’t mean you can be extra rough on him. Anuses are made up of the same vulnerable flesh.

[Read: Weird sex: 10 strange sex acts you might want to try tonight]

Switching roles does not only give that extra kink in your sex life, but creates a bond between you and your partner by experiencing what it’s like to be in their place. Just remember to bring extra lube when you’re pegging him.

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Paul Timothy Mangay
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