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What Does Sex Feel Like For a Woman? 7 Avenues of Pleasure

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What does sex feel like for a woman? To most men, a woman’s orgasm is a sexually appealing mystery, and we’re intent on solving the case!

It’s no secret that sex feels great; it’s why humans have been shagging with delight for thousands of years! But have you ever wondered what sex feels like for your partner? Many couples have taken turns asking each other what sex and orgasms feel like, and have been curious to know how it differs from their own. After all, we experience different orgasms, varying in duration and intensity. The age-old adage is that, while women have to work a little harder to get their big Os, theirs are often more intense *and longer-lasting* than their male counterparts.

While it’s true that no one, regardless of gender, will experience the exact same length of pleasure or levels of sensation felt while climaxing, you’d still be hard-pressed to find anyone who thinks an orgasm isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. So, what does sex feel like for a woman?

Emotions and mental turn-ons

Leaving the physical behind for just a second, many women find that engaging in any form of sex with a partner they are in love with enhances their pleasure. Emotional and mental stimulation are just as important for some as physical attraction and arousal. [Read: Sex in a relationship and what that means to a woman]

What does sex feel like for a woman?

Sex for a woman feels great—but how great, exactly? Rushes of warm water, waves of pleasure, full-bodied tensing, an eruption, a sweaty build-up of pressure, a deep exhale or a deep tissue massage, and “absolutely exhilarating” are just some of the terms used to describe exactly how amazing sex and orgasms feel to women. We’re exploring 7 avenues of sexual pleasure, as experienced by a woman.

#1 Foreplay. Kissing, caressing, and clitoral stimulation are all part of a glorious little thing called foreplay. All of this arousing behavior tells the brain to increase blood flow to the vagina and causes the lips and clitoris to swell. The brain also sends signals to her nether regions, saying it’s time to get filled up, and lubrication is in order.

Basically… she gets very wet. But enough with the technical jargon. The state of arousal feels absolutely sexy and causes an almost “pulsing” sensation around the clit area that demands to be satisfied! [Read: 18 scary-good sex tips for men to make a girl crave for more]

#2 Vaginal sex. The feeling of a penis inside the vagina is like no other and, when done correctly, the orgasms involved are beyond explosive! When properly aroused, penis insertion feels warm and smooth. Women often have no way to describe vaginal intercourse other than to say they feel “filled up,” like an electrical charge is running through their core.

Rhythmic thrusting of the penis makes the vagina feel tight and wet. The penis rubbing up against the vaginal walls and G-spot almost create a sensation like the woman has to pee, usually welling up in the lower stomach. Once orgasm is reached, the sensation is a full-bodied release of intense, pleasurable waves that create contracting sensations within the vagina. [Read: 5 goofproof moves to make a girl squirt like she’s peeing]

#3 What oral sex feels like for a woman. Oral sex, when performed correctly, is easily a sex favorite and, for many women, is the only way they will experience orgasm. Unlike vaginal intercourse, oral sex is much more focused, and much more relaxing. Oral sex is a warm, wet session of teasing that almost always leads to an intense build-up and release. Oftentimes, the orgasm involved in oral sex is so exhilarating and so intense, she may actually make you stop the moment she comes.

#4 Digital penetration. Compared to vaginal intercourse, finger insertion isn’t nearly as exciting, especially considering fingers are nowhere near the width *or warmth!* of a snuggly penis. While digital insertion can be pleasurable, it should be an accompaniment to other things, such as oral sex. [Read: Magic fingers – How to finger a girl to orgasms]

#5 Anal sex. Some women find anal sex intensely painful. However, when performed with plenty of lubrication, lots of clit rubbing, and a gentle—slow—partner, the uncomfortable “pain” sensation can make for a full-bodied, fabulously strong orgasm.

Anal sex should NEVER be done without simultaneously rubbing your girlfriend’s clit with your hand or using a vibrator. A woman is not likely to experience any pleasure from anal sex alone. To make it even better, spoon while trying anal sex; the spooning position is best for low-discomfort anal. [Read: Anal sex tips – The first time guide for the curious]

#6 Clitoral stimulation. Clitoral stimulation, on the other hand, is one of the most amazing feelings a woman can experience. This form of stimulation is the key ingredient to making your girlfriend cum, whether you are performing oral, using your hand, inserting your penis, or using a vibrator.

See how versatile the clit is? A clitoral orgasm can vary, depending on the pressure applied and consistent motion used—aka up and down, around in circles, tapping, etc.—but most clitoral stimulation leads to an explosive orgasm.

#7 The after feels. While women are plenty capable of having multiple orgasms during a sex session, many women find the thought of this far too intense, due to the sensitivity of the clitoris following orgasm. This means that when your girlfriend comes after oral or digital stimulation and instructs you to stop, STOP! Continuing right after her state of sensitivity isn’t arousing; it’s painful. [Read: How to push the right buttons and experience multiple orgasms]

When it comes to sexual preference in the bedroom, every woman is different, just like every woman experiences different types of orgasms. If you’re looking to better understand your lover in the bedroom, our guide of 7 sexual avenues is a great place to start. Your next step? Ask your girlfriend! Hearing your lady love tell you exactly what she likes and how tantalizing your touch feels on her is foreplay in and of itself!

[Read: 15 things women wish men knew about the female body]

In the end, unless you’ve experienced it for yourself, it’s hard to truly understand the depth of a clitoral or vaginal orgasm, and exactly what it feels like to have a penis inside you. Ultimately, what does sex feel like for a woman? Pretty amazing!

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  • Brenda

    “Filled up” definitely is the best way to describe intercourse. When a man is inside me, I have no other words to describe it – it really is one of the best possible physical feelings and I know why guys are so keen on wanting to swap genders if only for a moment just to see what it all feels like. I’m definitely happy to explore various positions with my partners in order to find out what works best for us both, but when it comes to tried and true missionary, there’s nothing that beats it really. Boring? Sure, but nothing feels better. That’s all that matters to me lol.

  • Janica

    Just Imagine that the head of your penis was smaller but more sensitive, while the shaft of your penis was surrounded by some kind of insulating fabric to where stroking it still felt sexy and still made you feel desired, but might not be enough to let you physically reach orgasm. With this analogy in mind, stroking the head of your penis with a slippery hand might be a little bit like what your girlfriend experiences during oral sex, and stroking the shaft of your penis through this insulating fabric might be a little bit like what your girlfriend experiences at least physically during intercourse. It can also be painful sometimes when there is a careless guy who is using you as a human punching bag with his penis. When he is attentive and putting in the effort to really figure out how to make you wet and to alleviate the arousal that makes it awesome. Sometimes I still feel aroused after and annoyed. like I know it could feel good I’m just not really sure if its possible with every guy. He should be able to get her off in many different ways. Fast, slow, soft, hard and still know what level of compassion and restraint he has to have to make it work. It’s about feeling your partner and listening to their body language. make sure she doesn’t have to fake her orgasm.

  • Patricia

    Agony is the best word to describe it.There is no pleasure at all.The first time is the worst but it never really gets better,it always still hurts a lot but the pain is something you learn to endure.Vaginas are numb without any contact thankfully so the incredible pain eventually stops after sex.Men wonder why we cry during the act,it’s because they are causing us pain but they do these mental gymnastics convincing themselves that we somehow enjoy it.What guys should know is that a woman’s vagina is nothing like a mans penis.I have heard absurd things from men saying that a woman’s genitals are simply an inside out penis,that the clitoris is like a small penis.This is totally nonsense.A mans penis can feel pleasure and they can achieve an orgasm but a woman’s vagina does not feel pleasure,it only feels pain.

  • Come for me Argentina

    It’s similar to when you have an intense craving for something, and you finally fulfill that craving. Like when you are on your way home from somewhere, and it occurs to you that you are more thirsty than you’ve ever been in your entire life, and you can’t wait to get home, walk in the door, poor yourself a glass of cool water, and chug it. And then that sensation of total fulfillment when the water pours into your mouth and down your throat. It’s like that, except the sensation is located somewhere else in your body. You know. In your vagina. Which makes it ultimately more pleasurable. It is like having an intense desire satiated, and it’s like a warm, hot hug that pushes from the inside-out instead of from the outside-in. There’s nothing like it.

  • Maria L

    If she’s being honest,every woman will tell you sex is pure hell.Horrendous amounts of pain.If a man had his penis shot with a nail gun multiple times then maybe they would get how sex feels for a woman.Guys wonder why women never masturbate,well of course we don’t do that because that is also painful.Our vagina is not a thing that brings us pleasure except for the emotional happiness we have when we bring a new life into this world,childbirth also being a very painful thing.All this aside,i think most women would tell you that even though all women can’t ever feel sexual pleasure or have an orgasm they wouldn’t want to be born a man.I am happy letting men go off fighting in some stupid war why i am safe at home.Wouldn’t trade that for sexual pleasure any day of the week.

  • Malco47

    I direct this comment towards the women who describe sex as painful and without pleasure for a woman. I am sorry you feel that way. 95% of the women I have been with would disagree with you, and they would tell you that they find sexual intercourse VERY enjoyable physically. I am sorry you don’t receive physical pleasure for sex, sad commenters. But don’t be mistaken…..most women do. There is nothing better than enjoying a woman who is experiencing intense sexual pleasure and orgasm(s). I’m sorry a few of commenters are missing out!

  • Malco47

    Listen, I’m not saying you enjoy sex. I believe that you don’t. That is unfortunate for you, and I am truly sorry. I just want you to realize that most women do enjoy sex. They crave it, ask for it, and enjoy it thoroughly and completely. Their physical pleasure and gratification is very apparent during sex. Very apparent. That is why the vast majority of physically (and mentally) healthy women actively seek and enjoy a fulfilling sex life. I am sorry you are not a member of that majority. Whether or not you enjoy sex is of no consequence to anyone but you. But you should accept the fact that most women do not share your unfortunate limitation. Perhaps you could try to be happy for the vast majority of women who do enjoy sex, and try to be less bitter?

  • Malco47

    I shared this response with Julia, and I’ll share it with you, since you both seem to be passengers on the same bitter boat.
    Listen, I’m not saying you enjoy sex. I believe that you don’t. That is unfortunate for you, and I am truly sorry. I just want you to realize that most women do enjoy sex. They crave it, ask for it, and enjoy it thoroughly and completely. Their physical pleasure and gratification is very apparent during sex. Very apparent. That is why the vast majority of physically (and mentally) healthy women actively seek and enjoy a fulfilling sex life. I am sorry you are not a member of that majority. Whether or not you enjoy sex is of no consequence to anyone but you. But you should accept the fact that most women do not share your unfortunate limitation. Perhaps you could try to be happy for the vast majority of women who do enjoy sex, and try to be less bitter?

  • Estella

    Are you even a woman or are you one of those manosphere trolls that come to female-centric websites to spout nonsense? If you are indeed a woman I’m very sorry your sexual experiences have been so negative, but trust me when I say that they are not the norm. We women absolutely can (and do) cum and they enjoy it and want more!

  • Estella

    Don’t make generalizing statements like “neither has any other woman.” You don’t speak for all of us!

  • Estella

    Well said, hon. If these sad comments are indeed written by women (and not demented manosphere trolls), then these women may benefit from psychological help.

  • Estella

    If you can’t handle that you don’t speak for all women then that’s too bad.

  • Bev

    The only thing more painful and traumatizing than sex for a woman is child birth.Men get to have all the fun and cum.We however do not.It sucks to be a woman in some ways because we never can enjoy sex but we have more of a connection to our child because we give birth to them.It is a trade off of nature.We can’t like sex or have an orgasm but we are more mentally and emotionally connected to people than men.

  • Mizu Miko

    It feels amazing, it’s hard to describe but it’s top 5 on the best feelings ever 😀

  • Mizu Miko

    Written beautifully.

    I am one of the women who enjoy it.

  • Mizu Miko

    I’m a woman who enjoys sex, so stop speaking for the entire female populace.

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