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How to Date Kinky Girls: 19 Ways to Go from Vanilla to Spice

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Who doesn’t like to spice it up in the bedroom? But if you aren’t sure what to do with kinky girls, don’t worry. We have your guidelines right here!

If you’re a guy who wants to date kinky girls, you need to remember that these women aren’t looking for vanilla sex. They want passion, spice, and flavor in the bedroom. Can you blame? Not at all. Sex isn’t supposed to be serious and uptight – it’s supposed to be fun, filled with laughter and experimentation.

What to do with kinky girls

I mean, you’re only alive once, so you might as well have fun while you can. So, if you’re a guy who has no idea what to do with kinky girls, don’t worry, I have some ideas to help you get introduced into the realm of kinkiness.

#1 Use restraints. If you have control issues like me, well, you probably won’t be jumping for joy at the idea of being strapped down, but once you try it, it’ll be a relief to let go of the control.

In the beginning, I would recommend using light restraints, nothing too serious, and test out the boundaries and what you both like. You can bring in handcuffs, rope, shackles – kinky girls will have no problem cuffing their man to the bed and making them moan in delight. [Read: 20 new things to try in bed at least once with your lover]

#2 Spanky spanky. Women love being spanked, well, not to the point where they’re bleeding. Okay, some do. But if the woman asks to be spanked, the man should start at a gentle level and increase it slowly.

Guys, don’t be scared to grab her ass and spank her. Kinky girls usually let their man know that they want to be spanked, and also let him know how hard you can spank them.

#3 Bring out the toys. Kinky girls love experimenting with sex toys, and you totally should try as many toys as you’d like. As a kinky girl, she’ll probably already have a couple toys such as dildos, vibrators, strap-ons, whips, anal beads, butt plugs, collars – the list literally goes on and on. [Read: 13 must-have couples sex toys for naughty first timers]

#4 Use your teeth. She’s not a steak, but, as a woman, we like being nibbled on. Remember: nibble. We don’t want bruises all over our face from the guy eating us like it’s his last supper.

If you bite your girl, you’ll most certainly get her aroused and chasing after you for more.

#5 Choking. Choking is possibly one of my favorite things. I don’t like it when they really squeeze my neck, but the feeling of a hand on my neck really turns me on. What can I say? So, if you’re a man, you want to make sure you’re not choking her too hard unless she wants more.

If she’s thrashing around and grabbing you… perhaps ease up on your grip, let’s not make her unconscious. But usually, kinky girls love being choked – it’s not as taboo as it sounds, it actually involves a lot of trust between the couple. [Read: How to be a freak in the sheets without being creepy]

#6 Wrestling. There’s something very arousing about play fighting with your partner. You’re pulling and pushing them, they’re pulling and pushing you, flipping you over, pinning you down as you’re struggling to break free.

It’s a great way to get into the mood and get yourself into some slightly aggressive foreplay. Then you can incorporate choking, spitting, and punishing. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever!]

#7 Sensory deprivation. It’s all about blocking out one of your main 5 senses, which will heighten your other senses and increase arousal.

You can be blindfolded or blindfold them, use earplugs to block out the sound, wear gloves to block off touch. You can start off easy and then increase the blocking of multiple senses. It’s pretty hot and arousing. [Read: Blindfold sex – 14 sensual ways to use blindfolds in bed]

#8 Master/slave. Master/slave is basically when one person is dominant and the other is submissive. The slave will adhere to all the commands of the master. These commands usually start off gentle like, to worship the master’s body, kiss their feet, show them your ass.

Then they can increase in kinkiness, for example, striptease for me, stick your ass in the air, crawl on me, etc. Of course, before doing this, you’ll need to sit down with your partner and create rules and boundaries.

#9 Public sex. Have sex at the movie theater or while waiting in the doctor’s office – that’s kinky. The fact that not only are you doing it in a public place, but you also have a very high chance of being caught, is what makes it exciting.

I mean, if you want to be caught, you’re already kinky. So, why not just go the extra step and try it out. [Read: The 20 best and hottest places for outdoor sex]

#10 Gags. You’ve probably heard of gagging thanks to 50 Shades of Grey, and aside from this film, it’s actually very popular amongst kinky girls. Gagging is kind of like sensory deprivation because it prevents you from speaking.

You’ll definitely need to have some sort of safety word and agree to the boundaries of how far you’ll go while gagging or being gagged.

#11 Add another one to the mix. Have a threesome. Just find someone that you both are attracted to but aren’t friends with and have a threesome. It’ll be an experience you won’t forget.

I would recommend two women over two men, however, some kinky girls prefer having two guys – completely personal preference. However, it’s pretty kinky and also a lot of fun. [Read: The threesome invite – How to make the amazing happen]

#12 Who doesn’t like food? Have you seen the scene in 9 ½ Weeks with Mickey Rourke and Kim Basinger? Okay, well, I don’t want to ruin anything, but it involves a fridge and sex – so, watch it. Don’t underestimate the power of food.

Honey, whipped cream, strawberries, chocolate – you can basically hit up all the food groups. Kinky girls are more than willing to play with food – licking honey or chocolate off of the man’s chest, chewing a strawberry out of his mouth, or licking whipped cream off of the inner thigh. Oh, yes, I know, I know.

#13 Anal sex. Many women are nervous to try anal sex because of the negative connotation around the subject. However, kinky girls already know everything about anal sex and are more than willing to give it a try.

If she wants to try it as her first time, as a man, you want to make sure that you’re well prepared beforehand. However, if you prepare in advance, she’ll love it. [Read: The curious guy and gal’s guide to first time anal sex]

#14 Watch porn together. Watching porn is incredibly arousing, so why not watch porn with your partner – it’s pretty kinky. Have you seen some of the things they do on film? Men are very visual and let’s not kid ourselves, they all watch porn.

But when you’re with kinky girls, don’t be scared to ask if she wants to watch porn with you – she probably does. You won’t make it through the whole film – I’d be surprised if you made it past the first five minutes. [Read: How to spice up your bedroom – 22 tips to set the bed on fire]

#15 Find a new place to cum. Yes, that’s right, you just read that. I don’t know what type of contraception you’re using *please use some*, but the guy doesn’t have to cum in a tissue or in a condom if there’s a kinky girl in the room.

The guy can try out – consensually, of course – new places on her body to cum. There’s probably some place that really turns her on. For some kinky girls, it’s the face or in/on her ass. It really depends on whether she thinks it’s a good way to finish off with a bang – no pun intended.

#16 Role play. Sitting at the bar and a mysterious stranger sits beside you, asking what your name is? Sure, it may be your kinky girl, but for now, it’s a Russian girl here for one night on a business trip. She slips you a napkin with her room number on it.

No, that’s not the opening to some Hollywood film. That, my friend, is your Friday night. If there’s a kinky girl in the room, she’ll have no problem developing some story line that’ll get everyone in character.

This is a great opportunity to have sex with someone *completely new* but is still the same person deep within. [Read: Naughty sex games for couples to feel really horny all over again]

#17 Get it on film. Film you and your partner having sex. It won’t end up online if you trust your partner, but it’s a fun way to get turned on. It’s also kind of interesting to see what you look like when you’re having sex – also a little embarrassing, but whatever, get over it. This will totally turn kinky girls.

#18 Group sex. If you’re thinking about having a threesome or already tried it, why not throw in another person into the mix. Group sex is not only kinky, but it’s a great way to experiment and experience sex with other people while still having sex with your partner.

If you’re not the kinky one in the relationship, you may be a little hesitant to give it a try. However, sit down and talk to your kinkier half and they’ll help you through it. [Read: 9 really wild and crazy sex parties you can have at your own place]

#19 Bring on the pee. Okay, most people probably squirmed in their seat reading this one, but really there are many people that are into the golden shower. It’s probably best to discuss this one before having sex.

Kinky girls will probably be down for it, but, it may come as a shock when all of a sudden the guy is peeing on her or vice versa. Mention this before sex and just test the waters – oh, that was a good pun.

[Read: Top 50 kinky ideas for a really sexy and naughty relationship]

Kinky girls are not meant to be tamed, they have to let their energy out – it’s the only way. So, try out these various activities if you’re dating a kinky girl.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic
A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...
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