Everyone talks about cuckqueans, but do you really know what it is? And if you do, do you know how to be a cuckquean? We’ve got the answers for you.
I’ve heard the word cuckquean, but I had no idea what it meant. Honestly, I can’t keep up with all the different terms for sexual preferences. I mean, I knew cuckold was a man with a wife who has sex with other men, but I had no idea there was a female equivalent.
But now, thank you, internet, I’ve learned something new. Now, if you consider trying to be a cuckquean, be mentally prepared. It’s not as easy as it sounds. Why? Because we’re used to a societal norm when it comes to sex and relationships. Are there other types of relationships rather than monogamy? Of course. Are they mainstream? No.
Being a cuckquean – What you need to know
So, if you want to try out being a cuckquean, go for it. However, before you go into it, you need to ask yourself a couple questions and prepare yourself for it. Maybe you’ll really like the experience or maybe you’ll find out it’s not for you.
But before you get to that part, it’s time to really look at what it takes to be a cuckquean. It’s always good to be prepared.
#1 What is a cuckquean? A cuckquean is the opposite of a cuckold. So, to simplify, a cuckquean is a woman with a husband who has sex with different women.
#2 What are the roles like? In the cuckquean subculture, the man usually takes on a dominant role while the woman is submissive. Now the cuckquean engages in sexual activity with her husband and other partner but usually only when he allows her to. [Read: Strap in and kink out: Your guide to submissive sex]
#3 It’s a heterosexual fetish. For the most part, a cuckquean relationship is a heterosexual relationship. So, the wife will only have sex with her husband. It can be bisexual, so the wife may engage in sexual activities with the other woman and husband or only with the other woman.
But that’s usually the extent of that, the husband usually won’t engage in sexual activities with another man.
#4 The fetishes with a cuckquean relationship vary. There aren’t any rules when it comes to what you can and cannot do sexually. This really depends on what you and your partner like, usually this is just swinging. However, it can include humiliation, BDSM, orgies. It really depends on the couple. [Read: Soft swap – How to ease your partner into the swinging lifestyle]
#5 Talk to your partner about it. If you’re curious about it, then you talk to your partner about it. Let them know how you feel and see what their opinion is on it. If they’re not comfortable with it, don’t push them. Leave them to think about it for a while and then ask them again in a couple weeks.
You need to have a mutual consensus on it or else you simply cheat on your partner.
#6 Set boundaries. If your partner wants to try this out, the most important thing is to set boundaries. You may not think you need to set boundaries, but trust me, boundaries are necessary.
#5 There isn’t any cheating involved. Many people think this is a form of cheating. It’s not. If they think that this is cheating, they just don’t understand the concept. But don’t judge, it’s hard for people to wrap their heads around this. I mean, at first, it will shock them that you want to have sex with other people but also be with them.
#6 The minute their permission is not given, it’s betrayal. This is when it becomes cheating. If there’s no permission granted, and you go ahead and do it anyway, well you just cheated. This only works if your partner agrees to do this. If the boundaries are not followed, this is betrayal to the agreement you made.
#7 Have a strong understanding of your sexuality beforehand. If you want to try this out, make sure you have a strong sense of yourself. Know what you look for sexually and know where the line is. The last thing you want is to develop feelings for the third person you’re sleeping with.
#8 Test it out with your partner. If you both agreed to do this and you’re both new at this, you probably don’t know what to do.
Do create some general boundaries beforehand, however, you’ll notice what you do and don’t like during your first cuckquean experience. Maybe you want to be more submissive or maybe less, so throughout the experience remember the things you do and don’t like. [Read: How to date kinky girls: 19 ways to go from vanilla to spice]
#9 After your first time, sit down and talk about it. This only works if you fully communicate with your partner. You need to know how they feel and what they like and don’t like.