Fantasized about having an orgy? Curious about BDSM? Life is meant to be lived, so don’t be too embarrassed to turn your sex fantasies into reality.
Sex fantasies are meant to stimulate your senses, break down barriers, and offer you a risk-free glimpse into a world fueled with intense energy unlike any other. It is a place where your deepest, darkest, and kinkiest yearnings are brought to life. The thing is, many of us choose to leave these fantasies exactly where they are: in our imagination.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to usher these fantasies into real life? Ever wondered whether you would be as satiated doing these acts for real, rather than just in your mind? Well, there is only one way to find out.
Don’t be afraid to try it because, honestly, what’s the worst that can happen? You broaden your sexual horizons? You try something new? You have mind-blowing orgasms? As long as your sex fantasies don’t lead to jail time, there is no reason why you shouldn’t try them out in real life. [Read: 22 playful ways to make sex more fun & interesting when it’s boring & lame]
Exploring Sex Fantasies
When it comes to sex fantasies, you might wonder, “Why not just stick to the usual and comfortable?” But here’s the thing: diving a bit deeper into the world of sex fantasies isn’t just about spicing things up. It’s a journey that offers some pretty amazing benefits.
First off, exploring these fantasies can seriously level up your intimacy game. Think about it – when you share and explore new aspects of your desires, you’re not just learning about different scenarios that turn you on. [Read: What turns a girl on? 65 emotional & sexual moves to arouse & seduce her!]
You’re also discovering new facets of who you are and, in the process, getting closer to your partner. It’s like opening up a whole new channel of communication that’s been waiting to be tuned into.
And speaking of communication, it’s incredible how much closer you can feel to your partner when you start sharing your sex fantasies.
It’s not just about the fantasies themselves, it’s about building trust and understanding. You’re saying, “Hey, I trust you with these inner thoughts, and I want to know yours too.” This kind of exchange can strengthen your relationship in ways you might not expect.
But there’s more to it. Exploring sexual fantasies can be like a mini-rebellion against all those taboos and norms society has placed on us. It’s about saying, “I won’t be bound by what I’m ‘supposed’ to like or do.” It’s a chance to explore your sexuality on your own terms, without the baggage of societal expectations. [Read: 41 signs & steps to stop caring what people think & start living your life]
Adventure Awaits in Fantasy Land
They say that the type of sex fantasies you have says a lot about the type of person you are—and some even go so far to say that it draws on your fears and dreams. Personally, I’m not up for discussing the technical and scientific side of things, and want to dive right into the sexual fantasies that you can try in real life.
So, ladies and gentlemen, here are arousing suggestions you can try the next time you feel like spicing things up in the bedroom.
1. Playing Dress Up
As tame as this may sound, many people don’t have the courage to approach their partners for dress-up play time. Don’t worry, because you’d be surprised by how many people are willing to don a costume to appease a sexual fantasy.
Whether you end up dressing up as Princess Leia and Han Solo, or start with something simple like naughty nurse and patient, the sky is the limit when it comes to playing dress up. Don’t forget the crotchless underwear! [Read: The sexual roleplay guide for beginners with dress up examples]
2. Using Toys
We’re not talking about the usual staples, like handcuffs and vibrators. There is a whole world of sex toys out there just waiting to be played with. From the Picobong Transformer, to the Tantus Juicer, bring your kinky fantasy to life by playing around with these highly sought-after toys.
Whether solo or with your partner, I’m sure that you will have a ball of a time. Oh yes—don’t forget to buy extra lube. [Read: The vajankle and other creepy sex toys you probably have no idea about]
3. BDSM
BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. The movie 50 Shades of Gray turned this taboo topic into something acceptable, so why not turn up the kink and indulge in this sexy lifestyle?
Keep in mind that there is a vast array of practices out there, so be sure to only consent to things that you feel comfortable doing and receiving. Start by gathering more information from chat groups and blogs before seeking out a partner. [Read: 50 shades of dangerous? The right way to get risque!]
4. Rape Scene
According to a piece published in Psychology Today, “From 1973 through 2008, nine surveys of women’s rape fantasies have been published. They show that about four in 10 women admit having them (31 to 57 percent) with a median frequency of about once a month.”
Sexual assault is a horrible thing, yet many women indulge in these erotic fantasies. There’s no harm fooling around, so grab your partner *with prior consent, of course* and force them to sexually surrender to you. Whether you are a man or woman, it works both ways. Go all out together and stage a kidnapping scene for good measure.
5. Role Playing
The difference between role playing and sexual dress up is that role playing focuses more on the storyline than on the costumes. This is perhaps the easiest fantasy to indulge in. Examples include hooker and customer, plumber and bored housewife, and pool boy and MILF.
6. Practice Cuckoldry
Cuckoldry is more common than you think. It is so popular that the internet has even come up with a term to describe it. It basically entails a husband letting his wife sleep with other men. He doesn’t have a problem with this and, in fact, gets aroused from it.
Don’t be too ashamed to bring this up with your wife, because at the end of the day, her being able to sleep around with Alpha males while you watch in enjoyment may turn her on, too. [Read: How to explore cuckold fantasies and have fun doing it]
7. Threesomes
Why not invite a third party into your bedroom? Many couples love doing this, so there’s no reason why you shouldn’t give it a whirl.
Whether you invite an open-minded friend to join in the fun or source for someone outside of your circle of friends, the sexual world of threesomes is your oyster. It may be a complicated topic to broach with your partner, but certainly one worth trying. [Read: Threesome sex or three times the trouble? The complete guide to the ménage à trois]
8. Orgies
Also known as a sex party, an orgy is something that satiates everyone involved. Think of it as achieving multiple orgasms as a team.
Whether you have several people working on you at once, or you take turns doing everyone in the room, orgies are basically threesomes with twice or even thrice the number of participants. [Read: Types of wild sex parties you can have at home]
9. Swinging
If you’re not up for something as crazy as an orgy, or are too embarrassed to have more than one person working on you, swinging is just the thing you need. It’s basically cheating with consent. It entails switching sexual partners with someone else, so there’s still privacy and intimacy.
There are parties that cater to this lifestyle, so do the research with your partner and do yourselves a favor by attending one.
10. The One That Got Away
Both women and men constantly fantasize about the one that got away. Whether you have slept together in the past or made it to the door, but were never invited in, it is time for you to bust out your little black book and make some booty calls.
Whether they’re already attached to someone else or single, they may just be up for a little one night stand.
11. Public Sex
From joining the mile high club to doing it in the bathroom of the local pub, many sex fantasies entail doing it anywhere but at home. Whether you want to do it on the down low or make others aware of what you’re doing, there are a myriad of places you can get down, dirty, and loud at.
Examples include fingering your woman at the cinema, giving a blowjob in a changing room, having sex in the VIP room at the club, or indulging in a good ol’ quickie in the car. [Read: 7 sexiest places you can ever have sex in]
12. In Front of an Audience
If you are proud of your sexual prowess and want the world to know what you can do, then making a little porno and posting it online is the way to go. You can either go all out and show off, or you can artfully position the camera so that it doesn’t capture your faces.
Another way to have sex in front of an audience without worrying about your mother coming across it is live streaming. ChatRoulette, a website that randomly connects people from around the world for webcam chats, is a good option. [Read: The top 10 sexual fantasies for women and the top 10 sexual fantasies for men]
13. Exotic Location Escapades
Imagine getting intimate in a place that’s completely out of the ordinary, like a deserted beach, a lush forest, or even atop a mountain. It’s all about breaking away from the bedroom routine and adding an element of adventure and novelty.
There’s something thrilling about the combination of natural beauty and passion. Plus, the risk of being somewhere slightly unpredictable adds a bit of extra excitement.
14. Power Play
This is more than just your typical BDSM scenario. It involves playing with different dynamics of control, where one partner takes a commanding role while the other submits.
The beauty of this fantasy lies in the exchange of power and trust. It’s a way to explore dominance and submission, but within a safe, consensual space. It’s all about pushing boundaries and exploring control in a sensual context.
15. Sensual Massages
Transforming into a masseuse or masseur for your partner can be incredibly erotic. It starts with setting the mood with candles and oils, then gradually transitions into a more intimate and arousing experience.
The scenario is great for foreplay, helping to build tension and anticipation. Plus, it’s a fantastic way to get to know your partner’s body even better. [Read: The perfect romantic massage to turn your lover on]
16. Mystery Lover
This fantasy involves pretending to be strangers with your partner. You could meet at a bar, act as if you’ve never met, and flirt like it’s the first time.
It’s a way to recreate that initial excitement and mystery you feel when you first meet someone. This sex fantasy can add a fresh, exhilarating layer to your sexual relationship.
17. Age Play
Age play is really about stepping into roles where one of you might act younger or older, but it’s not about the actual ages themselves.
Whether there’s a real age difference between you and your partner or not, this kind of role-playing is more about the dynamic it creates— like one of you being the nurturing type and the other feeling taken care of. It’s a cool way to explore different sides of each other in a safe and totally consensual setup.
You get to mess around with ideas of care and protection, which can really shake things up and bring a new layer of fun to your relationship.
18. Voyeuristic Adventures
Unlike being watched, this one’s about watching others. It could be as simple as watching your partner pleasure themselves or watching other consenting adults.
It’s a way to explore arousal from a different perspective and can be incredibly exciting for those who are turned on by visual stimuli. [Read: Sexual voyeurism, the horny rush & naughty ways to enjoy it as a couple]
19. Sensual Food Play
They say don’t play with your food, but that rule definitely doesn’t apply when you’re in the bedroom! How about bringing some strawberries and cream, or maybe some chocolate, into the mix?
Using edible treats during your intimate moments can be a playful and delicious way to discover each other’s bodies. It adds a whole new layer of sensory pleasure to your experiences, making each encounter uniquely tasty and memorable.
20. Historical Role Play
Historical role play is perfect for anyone who loves a bit of history or gets swept up in period dramas. Why not dress up and recreate scenes from a specific historical era?
Whether it’s embodying the refined elegance of the Victorian era or the vibrant wildness of the roaring ’20s, it adds a unique flavor to your role-playing games.
And hey, bonus points if you can throw in some Shakespearean lines or old-timey speech—nothing spices up the bedroom like a well-timed “thee” or “thou.”
Tips for Exploring Sexual Fantasies
Now, if you and your partner are new to the world of sex fantasies, it might feel like you’re stepping into uncharted territory. Don’t worry, it’s all about taking it one step at a time. Here are some general tips to guide you through this exciting journey:
1. Starting Small
Begin with something light and easy. Maybe share a simple fantasy during pillow talk or try a new position.
The key is to go at a pace that feels comfortable for both of you. As you get more comfortable, you can gradually introduce more elaborate ideas.
2. Inspiration from Literature and Films
Books, movies, and erotic stories are great for ideas. They can spark your imagination and give you scenarios to consider.
Plus, discussing a sexy scene from a movie or a book can be a subtle way to introduce the topic with your partner. [Read: Sexual voyeurism, the horny rush & naughty ways to enjoy it as a couple]
3. Role-playing Basics
Start with familiar roles to ease into the experience. It could be as simple as pretending to be strangers meeting for the first time. The idea is to have fun and explore different sides of your personality in a playful setting. [Read: Sexual role play: How to try it & the 35 best roleplay ideas for couples]
4. Communication is Key
Talk openly about your desires and boundaries. It’s crucial to ensure both of you are comfortable and on the same page.
Remember, it’s about enhancing your experience together, not pushing anyone into something they’re not ready for.
5. Setting the Scene
Sometimes, the right atmosphere can make all the difference. Create an environment that complements your fantasy.
It could be dim lighting, specific music, or even a particular room setup. This helps to get you both in the right mindset.
6. Using Safe Words
Especially in fantasies involving power play or bondage, agree on a safe word. This is a word that either of you can use to pause or stop the action immediately. It’s an important aspect of ensuring that things stay safe and consensual.
7. Educate Yourselves
We know you’re probably eager to jump right into the fun stuff, but hear us out—doing a bit of homework first can really pay off. There’s a ton of resources online that can guide you through whatever new thing you’re trying to explore.
Getting a grasp on the basics not only amps up the experience but also keeps everything safe and enjoyable. Trust us, a little reading ahead of time means you can dive in with confidence!
8. Respect Each Other’s Limits
It’s totally okay to have limits. Not every fantasy needs to be acted out, and some might just remain as fantasies. It’s all about mutual respect and understanding each other’s comfort levels.
So if you’re someone who’s really into a particular fantasy, say something adventurous like public role-playing, and your partner isn’t quite on board, that’s perfectly alright. The key is to find a middle ground or explore other areas that you both are excited about.
9. Fantasy Debriefing
After trying out a fantasy, have a chat about it. Discuss what you liked, what didn’t work, and how you felt. This can help refine your experiences for the future and ensure continuous improvement.
10. Keep It Fun
Remember, at the heart of it, exploring sex fantasies is about having fun and adding excitement to your relationship. Don’t take things too seriously – laugh off any awkwardness and enjoy the experience together. [Read: 42 happy & naughty ways to keep a relationship exciting, fun & fresh]
There’s a Whole World of Experiences Waiting For You
We all have some sort of sexual fantasies, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with exploring them as long as they’re approached with consent, respect, and an open mind. Embracing these fantasies can bring a whole new level of excitement and intimacy to your relationships, enhancing your understanding of yourself and your partner.
[Read: 42 happy & naughty ways to keep a relationship exciting, fun & fresh]
There is truly no point in being a prude when it comes to sexual adventures. Sex is a pleasurable act and should be enjoyed as such. The better you make it, the happier you will be. So, what are you waiting for? Try these sex fantasies, and turn up the kink today. Whether you’re a seasoned explorer or just starting out, there’s always something new and exhilarating to discover.