Ever had to ask yourself this question, is it love or career? While it’s never really easy to choose, here are a few things you need to keep in mind.
When it comes to choosing between the two, it’s never an easy answer.
You have the diehard romantics who’d tell you to choose love.
And on the other hand, you’d have the ladder climbers looking down and yelling to give up your personal life and reach out to your ambition.
But seriously, if it ever comes down to choosing between love and career, there’s never an easy way out.
Unless one side wins by a mile or you have no regrets, whatever the decision, you’ll always be bitter, unless you’re whole heartedly convinced with your decision.
Love or career – What you should know
If you ever do find yourself having to make the big love or career decision, here are a few things you really need to understand.
True love is hard to find
Love is special, and that’s what makes it so rare.
While falling in love may be easy, staying in love needs two soul mates that understand each other and are selfless in love.
Do you have that relationship that makes you feel lucky at the end of the day?
A better career can give you a better life
There’s no beating around the bush here, a good career can make for a better life. You can have your perfect partner but if you’re suffering in a bad career, will you ever be happy in your “miserable” life? [Read: What does your office table tell about you?]
True love can withstand all odds
Now this is true. If both of you truly love each other, you don’t have to worry about separating for a few years or having to spend less time with each other. Instead of worrying about love or career, think of ways to make it work better.
You’ll always be ambitious
Will one promotion in your career satiate your ambitious heart? Will you ever settle down and be happy with what you have? All of us want more. And sometimes, we decide to give up on a perfectly good relationship and pursue something that will never really satisfy us.
When it comes to deciding between love and career, we’ll help you understand what really matters to you and how you should deal with it. After all, every relationship is unique and all of us have our own requirements and paths to achieve happiness.
When you choose love
If you decide to stick with love and give up on getting a better career prospect, here are a few things you always need to ask yourself.
# Would you ever forgive yourself for letting go of a career opportunity? Most lovers who choose love over career end up remorseful and regret their decision the very next time they have a fight or argument with their lover.
# Would you feel bitter? Bitterness is a slow killer of relationships. If you ever do regret giving up on your career, your bitterness would turn to hatred towards your partner. And over time, you’d end up feeling grumpy or annoyed all the time, especially when you can’t afford what you want to splurge on. And at times, the bitterness could also take a toll on your happiness and you may end up blaming your lover for your shortcomings. [Read: Money can buy happiness in love]
If you choose work
# Can you find a partner as loving as caring? Is your career move a once in a lifetime opportunity? You may end your relationship and move on, but you have to remember this, finding the love of your life is a miracle that few people ever experience. Have you found the one? [Read: Is he the one for you?]
And is this promotion or career move a once in a lifetime opportunity? If you’ve decided to focus on your career, then don’t look back and ponder over your lost love. It’s a decision you’ve taken, and you have learn to give up on love and move on.
# Can you move on and forget all about it? Sometimes, you may have second thoughts about moving away from your lover or having to end the relationship even if it’s a perfect one. Can you really put it all behind and avoid regretting it? There’s really no point in ending a relationship for a career and then spending several months regretting your decision and ruining your career at the same time. [Read: How to end a relationship]
Choosing love and work
You don’t always have to pick one and stick with it when it comes to making a decision between love and career. If both of you do love each other, you can always figure something out that can keep the relationship strong and yet, help both of you progress in your careers. [Read: How to be successful in your career]
Perhaps, the only hard part comes in when both of you have recently started dating each other. The relationship would be new and too fragile to face a relationship test. And that’s the only time when you really need to ask yourself if your new love has the potential to blossom into true love. And on the other hand, you have to make up your mind on how badly you need your promotion or a new job that may require more of your time or you having to move to another state.
Making the right choice
It isn’t easy to meet the right partner and find your soul mate, so if you genuinely think you’ve met the one who can warm the cockles of your heart for the rest of your life, then decline the career opportunity.
But if you’re not very happy in your relationship and think you deserve something better, go full speed ahead and choose your career. If you’re not happy with your relationship today, what are the odds that you’ll feel better after giving up on your career? And you’d definitely feel worse about giving up on your career on those tough relationship days. [Read: Is your partner serious about you?]
But whatever you decision may be, stick with it and never look back. Life is a box of mysteries and no matter what you decide to stick with, love or career, coincidences and circumstances have its own way of playing your life out.
Why we think love wins over career
Weighing the pros and cons could help you decide between love and career, but if they’re both even or if you’re confused, we’d still suggest you stick with love. It’s a gamble, yes, but one that can have a huge payoff for the rest of your life.
True love can give you more happiness than money ever can.
And at the end of the day, you want to earn more money to create happy memories and spend more time with the one you love. But if making money means having to give up on love, what are you fighting for anyways?
All of us need someone in our lives to share the happy moments and those sad times when we need a hand and a hug. Love can make your life so much more fulfilling and worthwhile. [Read: How to find true love]
Today, you may assume you don’t need anyone to share your life with. You may love yourself too much to care about anyone else. But as the years pass by, you’ll soon see that self-love, career promotions and money will have no value, when you have no one to share it with. Love completes you when you share it with someone selflessly, and gives more meaning to your life.
You can earn all the money in the world, but it’ll never really give you the happiness that a happy smile or a warm hug from your lover can give you.
If you have a tough choice to make, always close love when it comes to choosing between love or career. Better a romantic with lasting memories and happy times than a workaholic with no life and all money.
[Read: Are women fickle in love?]
But then again, when you have to make a choice between love and career, are you really happy in love or do you think you deserve better? That would make all the difference to your answer.
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