Women generally play down their confidence in the workplace just to fit in and make friends. But if you’re serious about climbing that ladder of success, you better be ready to play the confident woman’s part.
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Here are a few tips that can help you create a persona of confidence and assertiveness without coming across as arrogant or bitchy.
This is one of the most important features that can portray your confidence. Don’t look down or look away when you feel awkward or uncomfortable. If you want to be taken seriously, you have to hold your head up while talking. You don’t have to stare hard at the person you’re talking to, but a confident woman communicates with her eyes. So make sure you’re looking straight up while you want to make a point. It helps you read the person’s mind and it also shows your confidence.
Another important aspect to show your confidence is through your expressions. Many women find it very easy to express warmth and friendliness. It’s easy for women to smile and be nice, but when it comes to showing their displeasure or anger, women at work find it hard to express themselves. Use a mirror to see how you look when you want to express different expressions. Practice your different emotions, because when it comes to women, it’s not just what we say that makes the difference. It’s the way we look while we express the emotions that matters. Try making it look good!
When it comes to your posture, a mirror can be a great advisor. Look into your mirror and see the way you stand or walk. Your posture can talk a lot about your confidence and can change the way you feel about yourself. Stand in a meek and passive manner, and then shift your body to assume a confident stance, by leaning slightly forward with your feet grounded with half a feet of distance between them. See how confident you would feel with that stance. Also try discovering your optimal distance. Figure out how much distance you’d like to keep between yourself and others you’re communicating with.
You can find your comfort zone and optimal distance either through experience or by asking a friend to remain stationary as you move closer while conversing with her. Make eye contact and see how close you can get before you feel uncomfortable, and too close.
Have you ever paid attention to your gestures? Would you be comfortable talking to someone without moving your hands around? Make sure your gestures don’t distract anyone when you are delivering a speech or having a conversation. You might have heard people say that you should move your hands a lot while communicating, which may be true. But once you notice that the audience or the person you’re conversing with is paying more attention to your hands than what you’re saying, its time you put a stop to it. On the other hand, don’t hold your arms rigidly to your sides or fold them across your chest. Learn to move your hands and gesticulate without looking like you’re trying to control the traffic.
You don’t need to go for a course on confidence nor do you have to get a degree to sound confident. It’s just those little things that make you stand out in a crowd that matter.
If you could just follow these simple pointers that have been mentioned here, you could very well be on your way to becoming the powerful and confident woman you have always aspired to be.
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