When you were in college, you knew you had to work towards getting higher grades.
And if you weren’t ready for those big tests, chances are, you didn’t want to write them. You knew you were going to perform badly, so why bother giving the tests, right?
And that’s the same way marriage works too. If you’re not mentally and physiologically prepared for marriage, chances are, you wouldn’t like them too.
Life is all about stages. You can be pushed into a new stage, but unless you’re mentally prepared to go to the next stage, you’ll never enjoy it.
And just like school, college, your first relationship, your first job and so many other moments, marriage too is a big stage that has the potential to change your life. For the better or worse, well, that depends on how ready you are to experience it. [Read: The stages of love for men and how they really fall in love]
20 important and meaningful reasons to get married
Almost always, if you’re not ready for marriage, it’s because you haven’t found the right partner yet, you don’t have a secure job, you don’t think you have enough money, or you like your life just the way it is.
There may be a few special instances, but more often than not, these reasons make up all the good excuses to avoid marriage.
If you’re in a long term relationship already or are wondering how you can evade the big noose around your neck called a marriage, here are 20 reasons to get married that you should consider. If you do give these 20 reasons a serious thought, you’d understand the good side of a marriage and whether you’re ready for one just yet.
#1 A big commitment. There’s no bigger proof of love than asking your lover for their hand in marriage. Don’t look at marriage as a lock without a key. Look at it as the highest commitment you can give to the one you love to prove your love for them. [Read: The most unique way to propose to your girlfriend]
#2 Sharing your life with someone. As humans, we’ve evolved to be social creatures that need attention. Living life as a single forever may sound appealing, but at some point, all of us feel the need to be watched by someone else, and have someone else to share our happy and sad moments.
#3 You’ve enjoyed your single life. Do you remember how your teen years and your single years were? You’ve partied and had your share of fun, almost until those one night stands and meaningless flings make no sense to you anymore. At this point, your mind’s telling you that you’ve changed, and you want someone to share your life with, and not just your bed for a night.
#4 The stages of life. As I’ve said earlier, life is a game of stages. And when you’re mentally prepared to enter the next stage, your mind convinces you of the benefits of moving to the next stage. And marriage is a pretty important stage in life. If you truly love someone, take the plunge. It’ll be a whole new experience that’ll be worth the ride. [Read: 9 relationship stages that all couples go through]
#5 Tradition. Marriage is a tradition that’s stood the test of time. And just like how we tend to believe things that have been tried and tested, marriage is one of those traditions that has worked for almost all couples, as long as they’ve truly love each other.
#7 A great support system. Marriage is the best support system that life offers. When you’re going through a difficult time, just knowing that you have a spouse who can share and ease your burden can help you get a better outlook towards life.
#8 Motivation. Just the thought of knowing that you have a significant other who loves you and cares for you can give you the strength and determination to become a better person and pursue your goals and ambitions with renewed vigor. If you truly love the one you’re married to, you’d be motivated to create a better life for you and your spouse.
#9 A name for your relationship. So you’re dating someone for several years. But dating someone and being married to someone just doesn’t sound the same. A dating relationship is always considered to be more casual than a marriage. And if you really do love your boyfriend or girlfriend, wouldn’t you want to be taken more seriously as a couple? [Read: If you love someone should you ever let them go?]
#10 The norms of society. A marriage is universally accepted and even demanded in society through the ages. And just like we’re all meant to work, earn money, live in a house and lead our lives within the unwritten and written laws of a well functioning society, getting married to the one you love is the right and respectful way to live with each other. It may sound archaic, but marriage is still the norm and not the exception.
#11 Maturity. With marriage comes maturity in life. A marriage requires trust, faith and commitment which makes a boy grow into a man, and makes him feel more responsible for himself and the relationship. At the same time, it gives a woman the emotional security of a stable relationship because her man’s commitment proves that he truly loves her and won’t stray into another woman’s arms. [Read: 25 relationship rules for successful love]
#12 You want children. Do you stare at those commercials on the telly where they show happy kids doing cute things and running around a park? When you’re ready for marriage, you’ll find yourself getting drawn to children and babies with curiosity and affection.
#13 Marriage gives financial dependability. As a girlfriend and boyfriend, you can definitely share each other’s monetary good fortune and deal with tough times. But when you’re married to each other, there’s more financial security because both of you lead your lives and aspirations keeping each other in mind.
#14 You respect values. Values in life give more meaning and make you a person of principles. Marriage is an ethical bond that defines your relationship with your partner as more than just a casual fling. Your parents were married, and their parents before them. And you want to continue that legacy and follow the same principles.
#15 Your achievements feel empty. You’ve achieved what you want in life so far, money, a house, a fast car, and what not. But all of these are material possessions that give happiness, but don’t give meaning to your life. Knowing you have someone who loves you and unconditionally cares for you waiting for you at home will always give you more happiness than any material possessions that surround you. [Read: What is unconditional love really?]
#16 You have someone to call your own. The world is filled with billions of people. But when you’re single or still just dating someone, you’re just an individual living the lonely life with no one to call your own. But when you get married, you have someone else who’ll share your life with you legally, and have someone you truly can call your own. And when you have someone who sees life through your eyes, your life will feel more meaningful and important.
#17 Growing old with someone. This may not make much sense if you’re still young. But as you get older, you’d enjoy the pleasure of spending time with a special someone that you love more than anyone else in the whole world. Just knowing that you have someone to take care of you, understand your preferences and your principles in life, and vice versa, can make you feel more satisfied in life and give more meaning to your existence. [Read: Reasons behind why couples end up falling out of love]
#18 You found your soulmate. Have you found the one who makes you feel more alive and happy? If you’ve met your true love and can’t wait to spend the rest of your lives together and grow old together, what better way to make a serious commitment than by proposing marriage? [Read: How to get him to propose by reading his mind]
#19 Your parents. A marriage can help your parents feel more reassured about your future. Even though they may not voice it, getting married to the one you love is reassuring for both families because it makes them feel happier to know that you and your lover have found happiness in each other, and would always be there for each other through thick and thin. And let’s not forget the joy of playing with their grandkids. [Read: How to meet the parents for the first time and make a great impression]
#20 Meaning to life. A marriage can make you more focused in life. When you’re married to someone, you’re not just responsible for yourself. You’re responsible for your partner too. Together, both of you have created a new entity that breathes life as a couple. Like a bigger, better job, a marriage means more responsibilities, but it also gives you more satisfaction and meaning to your existence.
When you’re ready, you’re ready. It’s as simple as that. These 20 reasons to get married may not make sense to you if you’ve made up your mind to stay single.
But if you can gives these reasons to get married a serious thought with an open mind, you’ll understand just how meaningful and satisfying a happy marriage can really be and how easily it can change your life and a special someone’s life for the better forever.
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Alison Ricard loves sunshine, good books and contagious laughter. And when she isn’t writing, you’ll find her sitting in a café, people watching and commun...