Does being a third wheel among your partnered friends make you hate happy couples? With a change in attitude, you’ll find that flying solo can be a blast.
If spending time with couples sucks the happiness right out of you and leaves you feeling drained of hope, perhaps you need to take a step back and look at all the benefits of being the so-called third wheel. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, try finding your own warm sunbeam in your friends’ happily-in-a-relationship sunshine. You can build a mutually beneficial relationship that may even make you glad that you’re single and part of this unlikely tricycle.
Consider the perks of being the third wheel
Feeling bummed out about being the third wheel? You may not have considered the benefits of tagging along with couples! Read on to find out why you should revel in your *temporary* third-wheel bliss.
#1 You get a lot of free stuff. Whenever your friends invite you to tag along to their Sunday brunches and movie dates, you don’t have to spend a thing! Haven’t watched that latest comic book-adapted movie? Maybe your BFF and her man are going to watch it and will invite you to join them. Want to try out that hip new restaurant down the block? Say yes when your roommate and her boyfriend ask you to go with them. And the thing is, they’ll probably throw your ticket in with theirs. It’s really a steal to be the third wheel!
#2 You don’t have to share your food. Since couples seem to always go out to eat, you can get in on every dish—and you don’t have to share. When your BFF confides that she hates it when her boyfriend sneaks bites of her sundae, you’ll smile because you get to eat ALL of yours. So if love’s escaping you right now, at least you don’t have to begrudgingly answer to, “Can I have a bite of that?” [Read: 20 annoying things it’s okay to hate about your partner]
#3 You get in on their vacations. Not only do you get free food and movie tickets, but you also get free trips! When your BFF goes on a long weekend getaway to her boyfriend’s lake house, you’ll likely be invited along to get your mind off your single-life problems. And when they head off to Mexico for a week, tag along and get yourself some free margaritas and a tan. [Read: Why it’s so great to be single in your 20s]
#4 You constantly have access to the male point-of-view. Your BFF’s BF instantly becomes your new male BFF! You get the inside scoop on the male psyche because you have him to go to for advice about guys and how to approach potential dates.
#5 You get twice the friends. Not only do you have your own clique, but you also get to hang with your BFF, her boyfriend, and her boyfriend’s friends. Your social circle gets bigger and bigger. Want to throw a huge party? You don’t have to text everyone. Plan a bash with your best friend, have her boyfriend text his friends, and you’re all ready to go. [Read: Are guy best friends nothing but trouble for girls?]
#6 You have two people to look out for you. When you’re tagging along on a date, you don’t have to worry about yourself, because you know you’re in good hands. They both make sure you’re comfortable, and since they feel bad that you’re single *which you don’t mind at all*, they will try to set you up with their other single friends. Furthermore, if you find yourself in boy trouble or car trouble or any kind of trouble, you know they’ll both be there for you.
#7 You are the go-to peace-maker. You’ve been the arbiter between them for so long, you should win the Nobel Peace Prize! If they’re giving each other the cold treatment, you’re the first person they’ll approach when they are ready to give in and make amends. Of course, you may also find yourself standing in the middle and listening to their issues so much that were you to charge them for every fight, you would be rich. [Read: How to better a relationship and improve your love life]
#8 You become a sex-pert. Not because you’ve been romping in the bedroom a lot, but because you’ve spent plenty of time over cocktails listening to all of your best friend’s TMI sex stories. You get to find out what sex positions are the hottest, what sexts get the best response, and just the right Marvin Gaye song to quickly kick things up a notch in the bedroom. [Read: 10 songs you should never play while having sex]
#9 You get the 411 on what makes a great relationship. Aside from sex tips, you also get to see what makes your friends’ relationship work, and you find yourself growing and learning with them. By observing the many loving gestures between your BFF and her beau, you’ll also see what makes relationships real.
If you’ve seen your BFF pop her boyfriend’s zits, or him buying her tampons, you have a pretty good idea that relationships aren’t all about sunsets and butterflies. You get the VIP seats to their daily quirks and can see how good things could be when it’s your turn to be in a relationship. [Read: How to have a long term relationship that lasts]
#10 You see the upside of being single. Despite the snooze-fest brought on by seeing them constantly kissing and holding hands, you also get the chance to see that couples really aren’t perfect. Being a third wheel, you will likely see them argue on occasion and do things they wouldn’t have done if they were single.
#11 You feel less alone. Instead of staying at home on a Saturday night eating leftover pizza, you can choose to go out with your BFF and her bae, having fun and feeling less lonely. The couple can become really effective wing guys, and who knows, you may hit the bar solo with them and end up coming home with a guy in tow.
#12 You are reminded that love really does exist. Anytime you hang out with your couple friends, you can’t help but see that love really does exist. You see how great they look together and, even better, you are a witness to how love is able to conquer all. No matter how much you want to puke at their PDAs, seeing them gives you hope that someday, love will also come to you. [Read: The 10 types of love you’ll experience in your life]
Instead of wallowing in your singleness, enjoy the perks that come with being a third wheel. You get all that free stuff, you expand your social circle, and you have more appreciation not only for your carefree single life, but also for the promise of love in the future.
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Tiffany Grace Reyes
Tiffany is a wordsmith who has played with words ever since her letter-to-the-editor was published nationally at the age of 9. Since then her writing has gone f...