At times, a relationship can do more harm than good for you. Recognize the signs and understand how to let go of a relationship that’s bad for you. By Morgan Miller
Relationships are always a happy experience.
Well, until things start to go bad.
That’s when a beautiful relationship can actually bring your life to a standstill and trick you into a world of complications and pain.
Are you in a relationship where you’re not experiencing the happiness you think you deserve?
If you think it, there’s a good chance that it’s true.
[Read: How to stop thinking about someone you still like]
How to let go of a relationship
The funny thing about relationships is that it’s all in your head.
A relationship is over when you think it’s over.
If you’re not as happy as you think you should be in a relationship, you should let go even if you still love that person.
It’s that simple really.
You’re not being selfish. You’re doing both of you a favor.
It’s always better to let go of a bad relationship than hold on when you see no happiness at the end of the tunnel.
[Read: Signs of a good relationship]
The 9 steps to let go of love
If you want to understand the different ways to let go of a relationship, use these nine steps and follow the way.
#1 Why should it end? Do you really know why your relationship should end? If you want to let go of someone you love, you have to understand the real reasons behind why you think your relationship is making you unhappy.
#2 Can you fix it? Are you giving it your all to make the relationship work? If you’re in a relationship where you’re doing all the work while your partner is just coasting along on the ride, that’s never a good sign. If you are willing to take a chance, give your relationship one last chance to fix it. [Read: How to fix a relationship]
#3 Don’t force love. Don’t try too hard to bring the old romance back. It’s not worth it. Love should be effortless and mutual, and even if you try to force it, it’ll just slip away again, causing you more pain.
#4 Is it love or fear? Why are you holding on to a relationship where you see no future in it? Ask yourself why you’re holding on even now, are you still in love or are you just afraid of being single again? [Read: Are you ready to be friends with your ex?]
#5 Work your courage. Breaking up is not easy. And it takes courage to take a decision that can make such a big change in your life. All of us love stability in our lives, even if it’s a bad life. But just because you’re getting used to a certain routine doesn’t mean it’s a good thing for you.
#6 Brace yourself. Prepare yourself for the pain and the loneliness after breaking up, especially if you still have a soft corner for this person. Taking a chance to face loneliness is one of the hardest things you can do. But you’ll never really know what life has in store for you unless you take that step in the dark.
#7 Accept your decision completely. Unless you’re convinced about your decision, it’ll only leave you confused and sad. Write a list of reasons on a piece of paper and look at it now and then, until you’re completely convinced so you don’t regret it or backtrack on your words again. [Read: Signs you're not in love anymore]
#8 There is no easy way out. If you’re sure you don’t want to be in a relationship with your lover, you have to learn to face the end. Don’t get drunk or isolate yourself, and try squirming out of the impending break up.
#9 End the relationship. Once you’re sure you have the strength to let go of the relationship, learn to end it the right way using these conversation examples in the last step, how to end a relationship the right way.
Letting go of a relationship can seem very difficult when you look your partner in the eye for that final conversation, but as soon as you speak up and walk away from your new ex, you’ll feel a heavy burden lift itself off your chest.
When should you let go of a relationship?
There are different reasons to let go of a relationship and walk away. Here are 10 reasons why a relationship may be doomed to failure and pain. And if you find yourself experiencing any of these symptoms, perhaps it’s time to end your romance.
#1 You’re convinced that you can never have a happy ending.
#2 It’s a complicated relationship. [Read: Tips to deal with a complicated relationship]
#3 You think you’re way better than your partner and deserve someone who treats you better.
#4 You don’t respect your partner or your partner doesn’t respect you.
#5 Your partner constantly cheats on you, even after getting caught.
#6 You’re being taken for granted by your lover.
#7 There’s no focus on your life and your wants in the relationship.
#8 When you’re not ready for the relationship and the commitments it requires.
#9 You don’t trust your partner anymore.
#10 If you’re constantly frustrated and you don’t know why.
After letting go of the one you love
Prepare yourself for what could happen after you let go of the relationship.
You may meet someone who loves you and treats you better. You may be happier than you could ever imagine. [Read: How to love again after being hurt]
On the other hand, your lover too may date someone else, may spread rumors or even stalk you. Think of possible future scenarios and work your own solutions to how you would want to handle it. It’s always better to be prepared for anything the world throws at you after you let go of the relationship. [Read: I miss him but he doesn't miss me anymore]
If you make a conscious effort to get over it, you can. Learn to walk away and the rest of your life will sort itself out. [Read: Signs your ex is thinking of you]
Should you date your partner again after breaking up once?
If you ever find yourself having second thoughts about getting back with your ex again, try to weigh the pros and cons. Remind yourself of the reasons for breaking up and ask yourself if you’re ready to face those same frustrations all over again.
[Read: Should you date an ex again?]
If you feel like ending a relationship because it’s draining the happiness out of your life, remember these tips on how to let go of a relationship to help you walk away happier and lead a better life.
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wow.. I honestly have an over protective bohfriend it gets on my nerves help anyone?
i am in a relationship and after two years of sharing love and joy, but today my girl friend does not trust me anymore and is accusing me of having another girl friend. which i know is not- i still love her and i want her back. it will be really hard to let go my first lover.