Why is Inner Beauty More Important Than Outer Beauty?



inner beauty

Is inner beauty something that ugly people say to themselves to feel better? Find out the real truth about inner beauty that’ll reveal another side.

Inner beauty is such a misnomer, if you give it a second consideration.

What is inner beauty even supposed to mean anyway?

Is it a kind of beauty that’s on the inside?

So is that something we can never see, and only imagine?

Inner beauty isn’t just inner beauty. As you dwell on the idea for a while, you’ll realize that inner beauty is the only beauty there is.

I’m not trying to say that outer appearances don’t matter.

All I’m saying is that inner beauty plays a much bigger part even in first sight than you think.

[Read: Signs your negative thinking is ruining your life]

What is inner beauty all about?

By definition, inner beauty may be described as something that’s experienced through a person’s character rather than by appearances.

It’s the real beauty of a person that goes far beyond just physical appearances.

To most people, inner beauty is a joke. People say that inner beauty is something ugly people say to themselves to feel better. Of course, that makes perfect sense too. I mean, if you can’t see it, who can really tell whether it even exists in the first place?

The real truth about inner beauty and all its confusions

You may assume that inner beauty is something you can only feel and never see. But how true is that? There’s a big confusion between outer beauty and inner beauty, and in all that confusion, we’ve overlooked the true effort of inner beauty and given all the credit to outer beauty.

You may assume that you never notice inner beauty at first sight. But is that really true? Almost all the time, you notice a person’s physical appearance only for a moment, until the real inner beauty starts the attraction game.

You may speak to someone for a minute and find them pleasant or not-so-pleasant at first. But as the conversation goes on for a minute or two, you may start to pick qualities and traits, and without even realizing it, you may start to find a person more and more beautiful or charming. [Read: How to get someone to like you immediately]

What makes attractive people so attractive?

You may think it’s a chiseled face or a gorgeous physique that makes a person attractive. But more than anything else, it’s a person’s inner belief that they’re attractive that makes them more appealing to others.

It’s true, physical appearances can be a bonus, but it’s something that’s easily overlooked when other traits are brought into the picture.

The glow of confidence and sex appeal comes from within yourself. Some of the most fancied personalities like Oprah, Lady Gaga or Tom Hanks aren’t really the prettiest of people. But their glowing confidence and self-belief makes them attractive to every member of the opposite sex.

Even Shrek the ogre seems loveable and nice once you get to know him, don’t you think?

First impressions don’t always depend on your physique or your facial features, but you need to believe that from within yourself. And that’s where your true beauty lies.

Are you beautiful on the inside?

Inner beauty helps you appreciate outer beauty. If you love, appreciate and feel good about yourself, you would feel more confident about facing and interacting with other beautiful people in the world. Remember, outer beauty can give you a glance, it’s inner beauty that makes someone stay. [Read: How to make new friends when you can’t find any friends]

Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?

I personally believe that beauty isn’t really in the eye of the beholder. I think beauty is within ourselves. What others see when they look at us is a projection of what we want them to see.

When you fill your thoughts with positive energy and inner beauty, you’d appreciate the things that are around you a lot more too. Even when you look at an inanimate object like a painting, or even a view of the ocean, it seems more beautiful to you because you see the beauty that overflows within you reflect in everything else around you.

If you feel beautiful, your own self belief and confidence brings out a glow of beauty that no outer beauty can compete with. But if you feel ugly, your inner beauty will reflect the same idea and project it on your outer beauty. If you truly feel beautiful on the inside, you’d never seem unappealing to anyone else.

Yes, it’s true that some people may want a 36-24-36 body in their partner or never ending legs, but that’s only a preference. Just like how some girls see wealth as an important criterion when it comes to dating a guy, it’s all just a preference. And you really need to understand that from within.

Inner beauty can be seen by everyone else

And it’s so much more beautiful than outer beauty. So what if you’re several pounds overweight, or short or bald? Truly believe in yourself. But if you seem unconvinced that you’re truly beautiful, start working on what you perceive as flaws about yourself. [Read: 10 steps to a more graceful and elegant you]

Flaws are perceptive and it’s a flaw only because you believe it’s one. A girl who wants to lose 10 pounds may think she’s fat, while another girl who wants to be size zero may think she’s fat. To a third girl’s eye, both those girls may already be skinny! Beauty is just a perception that begins from within.

Just look at Nigella Lawson, she’s so pretty, flirty and gorgeous, that no one would even notice that she’s not exactly skinny! Any guy would be willing to date her in a flash. If that’s not the power of inner beauty, perception and self confidence, really, then what is?!!

The real beauty that everyone sees

If inner beauty is the true beauty that everyone sees, why is it even called inner beauty? Shouldn’t it just be called outer beauty then because that’s what everyone notices anyway?

Well, a better word would be just beauty, there’s nothing inner or outer about it.

You’re beautiful if you believe you’re beautiful. You’re attractive if you feel attractive. Everyone only sees you as a projection of what you see when you look into the mirror.

You’re beautiful if you know it and feel it. So go on out there, because there’s a whole world waiting for the beautiful you. And if you still feel like there’s a flaw holding the beautiful you back, learn to overcome it.

[Read: How to be perfect in everything that you do]

At the end of the day, call it what you want, inner beauty or outer, there’s just one kind. And it’s the kind of beauty you see when you look into the mirror.

20399 7

We’re trying hard to create better relationships in the world. But we can’t do it without YOU!
Did this feature help you better yourself or your relationship? You can change someone else’s life too!

  • Donny

    Inner beauty is about confidence but also about what is in a person’s heart. If a person has a good heart, is kind, loving, humble, and selfless that is beautiful. This inner bearuty will be evident by what they say and what they do.

  • Bere

    “”I personally believe that beauty isn’t really in the eye of the beholder. I think beauty is within ourselves. What others see when they look at us is a projection of what we want them to see.””
    I couldn’t agree more with this: however, I think beauty may still be in the “perception” of the beholder because in my opinion, “seeing” inner beauty is an ability many don’t care to develope. So, sometimes no matter how much inner beauty someone may project, the other person may simply not see it because he/she has not allowed him/herself to “detect” that kind of beauty.

    I really like your topic =) thanks, i enjoyed it.

  • Hay

    Inner Beauty = a beautiful mind + a beautiful heart. And both start and finish with the spirit of God’s love. Therefore know God, love God, trust God and serve God.

    By the way, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. If not, Jesus would not have been crucified. The ability to appreciate inner beauty indicates a level of spiritual discernment.

  • ao

    I love this article. <3

  • women’s beauty

    I believe that it is all about attitude and confidence…and about all being sweet and classy at all times.

  • Joanna

    There’s definitely some truth in this. When I started believing in my own beauty, I found others were quick to compliment and become more drawn into me. Now, that’s not to say I don’t make the effort because I do and I enjoy flaunting all of what I got, but that alone isn’t enough. I have to project that confidence I feel in order to win the affections of everyone else. It would definitely be worthwhile to give some of these tips a try for yourselves. They do work!

  • Worthlessperson

    All of it sounds so sweet and nice, just like a dream, but when it comes to reality inner beauty is the less important and most unworthy thing, outer beauty is always the most valued thing, cuz don’t matter how nice you are, people will always see you as a good labor-wheel, not as someone desirable, attractive person, if you’re man, it’s worse, cuz if you’re nice, but not handsome or at least good looking the max you can get is the friendzone and once you there, there’s no way out.
    Even in the Fairy tales that we used to read when we’re children show clearly that if you’re ugly outside, you won’t really win in the end. Like, in The beauty and the Beast, if inner beauty is the most important thing, why the necessity of the beast turn back into a human? but if there was that necessity, why he was so handsome? couldn’t he be a average guy or a ugly man? have you seen a ugly or not so beauty and shinny princess? in the ugly duck, when he grows up he turn into a handsome swan? if the idea was teach looks really didn’t matter, why he was a handsome swan? and in the hunchback of Notre Dame, I think Quasimodo had the greatest inner beauty, but still, he protects the gypsy, he saves her twice, he bleeds for her, he almost got killed a lot of times and still in the end, the Gypsy makes out with the handsome Captain and don’t even give a damn for Quasimodo’s feelings.
    And I’m not just saying this, there’s even researches that shows that beautiful people have higher chances getting things in life, they’re have more changes to get better jobs, more money, people believe more in people that are beautiful outside than ugly people, they even have lighter punishment when are judged for a crime than people who are ugly.
    So inner beauty may sound as something good, very sweet, a real good excuse for ugly people, just like a dream, but in fact that won’t make others see you as beautiful person, an attractive person or a potential partner for a relationship more serious than friendship, the max you’ll look like is just as a good labor-wheel and that’s all.