Everybody has their moments when they’re feeling down in the dumps. It’s your job to get yourself out of that hole and get the positive vibes going.
I recently got my heart somewhat broken. When I say somewhat, I mean it was torn out of my body and tossed in the bin. You’ve all probably experienced something like this, you know that you feel anything but positive. Sure, you have your good days, but there are more days spent watching Netflix alone or with your parents. It’s time to welcome back the positive vibes.
You want to get out of that rut you’re in. However, once you’ve been down in the dumps, it can sometimes be hard to pull yourself out of it. This is where you need to focus on bringing back the positive vibes you’ve lost. What this means is that you’ll need to focus on yourself. But how do you do this?
How to get those positive vibes
You don’t need to go to Woodstock to attract positive energy. You can foster it in your own body.
#1 Accept that you’re not where you want to be. Finally accept the fact that where you are in your life is not where you want to be.
#2 Know what you want and need. This is really hard to do because most of us don’t know what we want or need. But how about you start with the things you don’t want. You may find it easier to then see the things you appreciate and value. If you know what you want and need, focus your energy on achieving it.
#3 Switch your focus. If you want to attract positive energy, you’re going to have to change the way you look at things. Now, I’m not saying you’re a Debbie Downer, but, you probably don’t see the glass half full most of the time. It’s time to change that.
#4 Get spiritual. Now, you don’t have to start believing in god or become a Buddhist, that’s not what this is about. However, you should understand that everything is made of energy. So, acknowledge that we are not the highest form of energy. You can view this in a spiritual or religious way. For example, I view Mother Earth as something greater than myself.
#5 Be honest with yourself. Oh god, this one is a struggle, trust me. Being honest with yourself means coming forward and acknowledging who you really are as a person. It’s not easy. You may realize that in many situations you’ve been a complete asshole or that you’re not as good of a friend as you think.
#6 Start breathing! We’re so busy running around and getting distracted that we forget to breathe. Okay, I mean, we breathe or else we’d all be dead, but what I mean is, we need to sit down and really breathe.
Take deep breaths in and out, focusing on your body. It’s all about relaxing the mind and body to allow positivity to cultivate within. I know this sounds like hippie stuff, but it works.
#7 Laugh. Laughing is so important for cultivating positive vibes. It’s the moment where you feel true joy. If something’s funny, laugh. Who knows, maybe you’ll make an entire group of people join in because laughing is contagious. So, spread the love by giving out a laugh.
#8 Recycle positivity back to your community. If you want to receive positive energy, you need to give out positive energy. So, compliment someone you see or help an old lady cross the street. If you recycle positive energy back out to your community, not only will you feel good, but you make other people aware of the power of positivity. [Read: 11 simple ways to inspire and connect with people around you]
#9 Let go. You need to let go. I know, it’s really hard, and it’s going to take you some time to be able to. However, you have to do it. Let go if you want to attract positive vibes. You have no control over anything except your reactions. This is just something you need to accept.
#10 Visualize a positive life. Every day we’re burdened with negative thoughts. You won’t get that job promotion, you’re not smart enough, not thin enough—they’re constant. But to break this cycle, spend more time visualizing yourself having a positive life. [Read: 25 memorable life lessons to perfect your life]
#11 Be aware of the ego. The ego is a dangerous thing and holds a lot of power over you when you let it. To be aware of your ego, you need to be fully conscious of what you’re doing. How you feel, your actions, and your thoughts. It’s going to be a challenge, and it’ll be tiring. However, it’ll help you relax and feel the positivity.
#12 Get out in nature. Nature has an amazing power to relaxing the human mind. If you really want to be positive, you’re going to have to relax. Sure, you can go to a fancy spa or the gym, but you can also just take a walk through the woods or sit by a lake. Being with nature is a form of meditation.
#13 Learn gratefulness. Gratefulness is one of the most important things you can practice. Though there may be struggles in your life, acknowledge the positive in your life as well. Maybe you have children, an amazing partner, or good health. These are things you should be grateful for. [Read: Negative Nancy: 17 traits and ways to deal with their attitude]
#14 Let emotions flow through you. Sometimes, we have a tendency to bundle up all our emotions, and then one day when you’re on the bus and somebody accidentally elbows you, you snap.
Instead, allow yourself to feel the emotions you’re feeling. You’re feeling them for a reason. If you need to cry, cry. If you want to laugh, laugh. Okay, sometimes you won’t be able to release your emotions. But take some time at the end of the day to reflect on them.
#15 Use your creative side. You cannot believe the positivity that can be created from making something with your two hands. It’s an achievement and allows you to unlock emotions, putting them into something positive. Join a painting class or try songwriting. Whatever it is, it acts as a way for you to emotionally relieve yourself and connect.
#16 Clean up. Clean your house, go through all the paperwork that’s lying around, clean your bathroom, declutter your closet, and get a haircut. Clean it all up. When you do this, you automatically feel lighter, and now you have a space that’s bright and spacious. If you’re living in a mess, your mind’s in a mess. How can you let positive energy in? [Read: Stop being lazy: How to confront and overcome your excuses]
#17 Put a spin on negative situations. Obviously, there have been situations where you think your life is coming to an end, and that you’ve really screwed up. We’re only human. But, what you need to do is start looking at these apparent negative situations as a lesson to be learned. Because that’s what these are, learning lessons.
You probably thought that attracting positive energy was going to be a breeze. But, it definitely takes practice and energy. However, once you accept positive vibes to enter into your life, you’ll start to see the light.
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A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...