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The Real Meaning of Nagging

How to Stop Nagging

We all know the definition of nagging, but what is the real meaning of nagging? It’s easy to find a nagging meaning in the dictionary, but understanding it and realizing it takes a deeper insight into yourself.

The meaning of nagging and nagging definitions are aplenty everywhere, but almost all of us are nags, without even realizing it.

And the worst part, your partner may be dealing with your nagging silently, until one day, they decide to burst it all out.

What is the real meaning of nagging?

From Adam? From Eve? Genetic patterns? From the cradle? Or is it because a man is a man and a woman is a woman?

Nagging is as old as families. Solomon the Wise in all his wisdom laments, ‘a nagging wife goes on and on like the drip drip of the rain’ and he continues in his book Proverbs, that “it’s better to stay outside on the roof of your home than to live inside with a nagging wife”.

Having had a thousand wives and wisdom to boot, one would suppose that he would be quite the expert on such domestic issues. But he fights shy of offering us a definite solution and the nagging still continues down the ages… drip, drip, drip.

Are you a nag?

So you’ve told him again and again till you’re going blue in the face and he still hasn’t picked up the clothes from the cleaners.

You’ve coaxed, you’ve pestered, you’ve demanded, you’ve rephrased in a million different ways, ranging from sarcasm to ultimatums, but he still continues to do whatever you’ve asked him not to. [Read: Anger management in marriage]

Or worse, if you are one of those beast-of-burden sorts who will uncomplainingly shoulder most of the chores, in quiet desperation or active frustration, which then manifests in other acts of marital dissonance like bitching, and unreasonable mood swings. But if you just feel dead inside, what you need is a wakeup call!

Okay, so he won’t be bothered to share in the responsibilities of the traditional roles of homemaking, and you’ve managed to keep the peace. Yes, but at what price? And who pays the price? Life is too short for you to be shortchanged.

If either of these scenarios seems vaguely familiar, then you need help.

Understanding the meaning of nagging and how it works

Many faults that incite nagging can be directly traced to a bad upbringing or rather a spoilt and pampered child, their stubbornness, their insensitivity, their selective hearing et al. Consequently when they engage in a relationship with another adult, the gears don’t mesh causing abrasion. Nags are never born, they are made!

Parents, more often than not never realize the gravity of their blunder when they fail to teach their little darlings to deal with the consequences of the little choices they make. [Read: How to deal with hate]

The reason behind why we nag

When the honeymoon lights fade they are replaced by sunlight, when the candlelight flickers, the fluorescent bulbs are switched on, and the glare reveals the not-so-perfect imperfections of your partner. [Read: The right age to get married]

In an effort to perfect your partner, the nagging begins. Primarily in the mind, but slowly it finds a voice. If you are a newlywed or head over heels in love, a word of caution. Sow carefully, because relationship patterns are always set early in a marriage and it’s difficult to switch roles and chores later.

Though women forage far and wide, storming hitherto male bastions, the home is still primarily the woman’s domain and control issues come to the forefront when this is threatened. Sometimes women, who nag consciously or unconsciously, also sabotage their partners’ efforts to participate in household chores or child rearing by criticizing or sneering at their mates in an effort to show who is boss.

This is a conundrum that women have to resolve in their minds before they can desist. A common factor and by far the most universal cause that triggers nagging are the unhealthy habits of a spouse. Generally however, nagging is prompted when a partner feels that his or her valid claims said or unsaid, have not been responded to adequately. [Read: How to be happy in life]

The real meaning of nagging is beyond the dictionary, it is experienced in every household where one partner tries to dominate the other subconsciously, or while trying to get a point across. Click here to continue reading this article on nagging wives and nagging husbands.

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  • blessing grace

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  • Jeffrey

    The real meaning of nagging is inherent with all women. I don’t know any woman that doesn’t nag. I know that they don’t mean anything by it and they only want us to improve ourselves, but come on. We don’t need to be nagged on all the time. Men hate women that are naggers and that’s even the reason why I broke up with my past ex girlfriend of 5 years. She was the ultimate nagger and she just got better at it over time. I think she could’ve even won the best nagger alive. She would’ve broke a guiness world record of how many times she would nag me per day. It’s like she is practicing for the nag Olympics or something. It’s always me that is wrong and never her and when it’s her own real fault, she still blames it on me and start to nag again. She never says sorry for the wrong things she does but she always wants me to feel sorry for doing something I have never ever done. Like cheating on her, I have thought about that but I have never done it because I’m not that type of guy but every single day, she was always doubting me and always nagging about the girls I meet at work. Would you just shut up already, gosh I’m so glad that I broke up with that psycho. Yes, that’s what I call her, a psycho. She could’ve been institutionalized because she met the maximum requirements. I really hated her because she was a nagger. I could’ve not have left her if she would have just changed for the better and just stopped nagging even for a day or so. I even gave her a chance. I made a deal. If she could go on for one week without nagging at me, I will never ever break up with her no matter how hard it may be. So we started the deal and at first, so far so good! She became an angel but at night, at the end of the first day, she nagged again! I just had it and just packed her stuff and let her leave immediately. I told her that I would call her a cab and I did. I told her to stay at a motel or something because I just couldn’t take it anymore or just stay at a friend’s house. I didn’t really care and she left me. At first I was sad, of course because we were together for 5 years but then, I realized how happy my life was without her and I never regretted it. I loved it and now I became a free man of my own without anyone that nags me every 5 minutes or less. Now, the only thing that I have to worry about is finding a long term partner again, one that isn’t a nagger and can spend the rest of her life with me. I know it will be hard but I already started dating this new girl I met at starbucks a few weeks ago and I must admit, I am kind of rusty at this dating thing but so far so good. We have been hitting it off quite nicely. I would just want to take it slow and step by step. Small steps baby, and that’s where the magic happens. Wish me luck guys and I do wish that you will not encounter what I encountered and stay away from any girl that’s name Mary Greyson. She was my ex and if you happen to run into her and she talks you into dating her, say no at the first word that comes out of her mouth. You won’t miss her because she has the blondest hair you’ll ever see and stands at 6 foot. It’s rare for women to be 6 foot and a nagger. So be careful out there guys.