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How to Overcome Regret and it’s Negativity

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Regret is a powerful emotion that can break you and make your lose all your confidence from within. But once you learn to control and overcome your grief and regret, you’ll see that this world can be a great place to live in.

While going through a frayed, yellow novel, I paused a while to reflect on the bit that I was reading. No, it wasn’t a steamy coiling and uncoiling of the hero guy and the lead chick, nor was it a nail biting scene in which the murderer was revealed.

It was a scenario in which a regret-stricken friend of the protagonist, when his wife leaves him, out of his drunken habit, drowns himself in alcohol and finally dies. Before his death, in quite the typical old novel style, he apologizes to his ex-wife. His ex-wife, who was still in love with her drunken husband regrets her moving out and “realizes” that if she wouldn’t have moved out of the house, her husband wouldn’t have died.

Why do I care, considering it was just a side-plot of a boring novel I was reading. It was boring. I should have chucked the novel back into the attic, instead of wasting the four hours on that book. I regret having spent my precious time on that book, when there were a million other things that I could rather have done. You’ve been there, haven’t you? At that point when you do something and wish you hadn’t. All of us feel that. And all of us just hope we had magical time turners so we could erase and rewrite our history. So we get to the big zit of emotions here, Regret.

What have you regretted about recently?

You regret that you are not able to spend quality time with your spouse?

You regret that you are not handling your children well?

You regret that you are not doing justice to your job?

You regret that you forgot your best friend’s birthday?

You regret that your dog died out of neglect?

You regret that you misbehaved at last night’s party, in which you drank like a fish?

It may be one of these, or anything else. But regret is inevitable.

A very strong statement to make, I know. But tell me, have you ever seen a person who has never ever regretted any of their moves.

A Dead Past

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves, regret for the past and fear of the future.” – Fulton Oursler

Regret symbolizes the negative memories. The word ‘regret’ comes from the Old French word ‘regreter’ which means “bewail the dead”. Of all the negative emotions, regret is one of the most difficult to extricate as regret indicates, by definition, those actions of the past that we are unable to be change. The underlying factor is that regret cannot change the past, it only keep our mind locked within the past. The grieving is one of the greatest reasons for holding us back.

Regret sounds sweet in the drawling country ballads and often leaves us wiping our wet cheeks. But in reality, regret is the one thing that can turn us into something that walks around, but doesn’t exist, let alone live.

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  • Regil

    Regret is always followed by negativity because I think they are actually brothers. Negativity can have a huge impact in your life because the more you think about how something would happen, the more it would become what you perceive in your mind. That’s just the law of attraction and you should all believe that it’s actually true. Why do you think pessimists all have shitty lives? It’s because they think they have shitty lives and it ruins the outcome of their every endeavor.You have to think positive and do what you have to do with all out effort and surely, you would get what you deserve. I really think that we should think about regret as something of the past that we can no longer change and regretting something can lead to thinking negative about something and that something is usually being pessimistic about doing a specific endeavor that you have had regret with. You know what I’m saying? I know it’s a lot to take but if you develop a clearer perspective in life, you would get to understand what I truly mean. You can never truly be happy if you make regret and negativity a major portion of your life. Sure, you can never really avoid them but you can keep them minimal. I’m just going to give out a rough percentage of how much negativity you need on your life and it’s approximately 0.0000000000000000001 percent and that’s the minimum amount of negativity you should have in order to have and live a successful life. Good luck to all of you and I sure wish you all the best that life has to offer.

  • musically

    This is going to sound like some Zen bullsh*t, but maybe that’s too simple a view. There is no “right” or “wrong” girls, majors, so forth. There’s only what did and didn’t happen. My point is all of us look at what we didn’t do with a rose colored lens. No doubt if we did do the thing in question, we’d have many a negative thing to say about it. Since we didn’t, we imagine it so much better. An example from my own life is the same – this school or that school. I chose a lesser education, and regretted it for some time… That is until I met someone that had gone to said other school and reminded me THAT school was $50k a semester. Meanwhile I’m 3yrs graduated from that “lesser” school, and I have paid all of my loans off, I’m debt free.