Wondering how to move out of your parents’ house? It may sound exciting, but there’s a lot that comes with it. I mean, who’s going to do all your laundry?
I just moved out recently, and I find myself at my parents’ house more than at my new place. I spent almost every day with my family and now I’m on my own. Yeah, you could say I’m having a bit of separation anxiety with this whole growing up thing. This is how to move out of your parents’ house with a smooth transition.
Honestly, I would probably have stayed at home until I was thirty if I could. But you know, it’s time for me to make my own home. This is probably what you’re wanting to do as well, build your own home.
How to move out of your parents’ house and stay out
Well, here’s the thing, I only moved two buildings down from my parents. I know, I know. You probably think I didn’t really move out, but I did! I swear! Cut me some slack, this is a huge transition.
On top of moving out, you now have a whole slew of responsibilities to take care of. So, if you want to make this a smooth transition without too many speed bumps, here are some things you’ll have to do if you don’t want to be moving back into your parents in the next six months. Follow these steps and you’ll never move back.
#1 Do you know how much it costs to live alone? Have you done your research? If not, this is the first thing to do. Depending on where you want to live, look at the cost of living in that area. That way, you’ll be able to see if you can actually live there. If not, time to find another neighborhood. [Read: 15 mature ways to grow up and behave like an adult]
#2 Make a budget. How much money do you make and how much can you spend? It’s not that hard to figure out. If the rent is $500 and you make $600, well, you won’t have enough money for your expenses. So, write down a list of expenses, including rent and compare it to your income. You can also use budget apps which help you to figure it out as well. [Read: Being brutally honest: 13 scenarios when it’s an obligation]
#3 Have some backup cash. You’ll want to have some savings in the bank for emergency situations. If you live far from your family and something happens, you’ll need a plane ticket. So, make sure you have at least $500 in savings to use for emergency situations.
#4 Time to get a credit card. Sometimes, you won’t have enough money at the end of the month to pay your bills. This is going to happen at some point, which is completely normal. If your car breaks down or you had to fix the plumbing, these are expenses out of your monthly budget. Have a credit card in your name that you can use if you absolutely need to. [Read: The lazy 20-something’s guide to saving money]
#5 Figure out where you’re going to live. You need to research in advance what neighborhood you want to live in. Look at your lifestyle, where the neighborhood is located in proximity to work, transportation available, and how much rent is.
There’s no such thing as a perfect apartment, but you need to figure out what your priorities are before looking for one. Is being close to work important? Or are you wanting to be in a hip area?
#6 Get your friends and family to help you. If you’re not using the help of your parents or friends, which I highly recommend, your move will be costly. What else are friends and family for if not to help you out when you need them? Exactly. So, if they offer, take it. If they don’t, ask them to help you. Trust me, they’ll be asking you for help when they move out. [Read: What it means to be your own hero and take control of your own life]
#7 Expect the first month to be the most expensive. You just moved out. There are going to be many things that’ll be missing from your apartment. The first month was expensive for me because I was filling up my place. I didn’t have plates, cutlery, or bedding. These are all one-time purchases, so this isn’t going to happen every month. Save some extra money on the side for these extra expenses.
#8 Look for a job well before moving out. If you don’t have a job, don’t move out. Try to lock down a job a couple months in advance. You don’t want to move out during your probation period at work just in case they decide to let you go. So, plan a couple months ahead and have a steady income.
#9 Keep all your receipts for the first couple months. You’ll need a couple of months to settle down and see how much the cost of living really is. Sure, you made an outline before you moved out, but you never really know until you move out and experience it on your own.
So, for the first couple months, keep all your bills. At the end of the month, tally up all your bills and see how much you spend in one month. After a couple of months, you’ll know exactly how much you spend.
#10 Don’t cut yourself off from your family. You’re not leaving them! You’re just moving out of their house. This isn’t supposed to be a tragic event. You’ll still see your family whenever you want. Honestly, they’ll love seeing you. Since I moved out, I spend more quality time with my family rather than sitting and watching TV with them. [Read: 21 steps to raise your sense of self and feel like a million bucks]
#11 Change your address on your bills. You can leave your address unchanged if you live close to your parents. However, if you move further away, change your address on your documents.
It’s a weird feeling getting mail. Wait, I should rephrase. I mean, it’s a weird feeling getting bills. No one sends postcards anymore. Your excitement for mail dwindles over time, trust me.
#12 See your parents as much as you/they want. I don’t know if I come over too much, but honestly, I don’t care. I miss them, so, I go over to their place and hang out. Why not? They’re your family. Just because you moved out, doesn’t mean you’ve been disowned.
#13 Celebrate this big step. To be honest, my first night sleeping in my new place was horrifying. It wasn’t scary, but it was weird to sleep alone without anyone else around. But after that night, you start to become excited about making your new place your home.
Have a house warming party, celebrate with your friends and family. Make this a joyous occasion, because it is.