If you’re feeling stuck in a rut and aren’t sure what to do, then it sounds like you need to be your own hero and start taking action in your life.
How many times in your life have you sat around waiting for someone else to “rescue” you? Probably a lot. The truth is, many of us have no idea what it means to be your own hero.
Do you really know what this means? I think it can mean something different to each person. However, the biggest takeaway from learning to be your own hero is about no longer making excuses. Stop blaming others for the way your life is. It’s your responsibility and you have control over it.
Relying on yourself can help propel you to success
It can be scary to take the reigns of your life. Many of us do this when we move out of the house or get a real job. However, there are also people who still don’t have full control over their life.
They sit around and wait for life to happen to them. What happens when they do this is that they’re allowing someone else to be their hero. They’re searching for that one person to save them from their boring, mundane life. But if they just took life in their own hands and learned to be their own hero, it would be much different. [Read: How to take the next step toward success]
How to be your own hero and take control of your life
Humans as a species like to make excuses. We don’t like to hold the blame for anything negative. Therefore, when something bad happens, we point fingers everywhere but at ourselves.
That’s a load of shit. You have the power to change your life and you have all the control you need to live happily and find success. All you need to do is learn to be your own hero and you can make that happen.
#1 Look at your life as a whole. Take a step back and see your life as a whole. How is it? Do you feel like it’s boring and you have very little happiness? If that’s the case, it’s time to do something about it.
When you can take in the entirety of your life, you can pinpoint the problems. Your relationship may be great, but is your work life suffering? Finding out which area of your life you need to be your own hero for can help you transform it as a whole. [Read: 12 steps to change your life and find happiness]
#2 Stop making excuses. This is important. Shut your mouth the next time you want to make an excuse. Just don’t make it. Are you tired? Oh well. Are you stressed out? Too bad. There are no excuses good enough for you to stop living your life.
When you take responsibility for your actions, you’ll find that you get a lot more done. You’ll have more motivation to go out there and live the life you want.
#3 Take action and stop waiting. You’re not supposed to just go through life allowing it to unfold before you. You should be pulling those pages back and forcing your way through it. It should be unfolding as a result of your steps forward.
So instead of waiting for that job offer, call them and see how they felt about the interview. Taking action can get you moving in the right direction a lot faster than if you just wait for a free ride. [Read: 15 ways to live your life to the fullest]
#4 Think about your decisions wisely. No decision should be made on a whim. That sounds like it would be very hard, but it’s not. Think about each decision wisely and ask yourself if it will help your life overall. Does it get you closer to reaching your goals and bettering your life? If not, then don’t do it. It’s as simple as that.
#5 Don’t let others influence you negatively. Life is full of downers. You’ll run into them everywhere. But if you want to be your own hero, you’ll have to learn to ignore them.
These people will always try to influence you because they think it’s the “right” thing. Ask yourself if those people are living a life they can be proud of. If they’re not, then you know to ignore them and follow your instinct. Don’t let someone else’s insecurities hold you back.
#6 Gain some confidence. Are heroes insecure? Psh, NO! While everyone struggles with things they don’t particularly like about themselves, they’re still confident. Learn to love yourself. You have so much to be grateful for and if you start focusing on those positive things, you’ll see that confidence can help you be your own hero. [Read: How to build self-confidence and know your worth]
#7 Stay true to your morals and values. Never compromise these. If you feel like doing something is immoral and clashes with your values, then don’t do it. I don’t care if it means you lose your job.
Never give these things up. They’re what make you who you are. These beliefs are what will make you be your own hero and giving those up would be like shooting Superman out of the sky.
#8 Cut out the negative people. I think you knew this was coming – and for good reason. Those negative people are only holding you back. If they’re making you feel bad about yourself or are just sucking the positive energy out of you, get rid of them. Even if they’ve been in your life forever, you still need to ditch them. [Read: 12 ways to stop negative people from ruining your life]
#9 Suck it up and deal with the issues. We all have problems in our lives. You’re not alone in dealing with shitty situations and people. In order to be your own hero, you have to suck it up and deal with it. Find a way to get past it.
If you get stuck and end up feeling down about a bad situation, it’ll ooze into the rest of your life. Your energy will be zapped and you’ll just stop caring about more important, positive things. So take a deep breath, and deal with it.
#10 Never give up. And I mean never. If you have an idea or a belief that you truly think will change your life, then go for it. Do everything and anything you have to – within reason – to make it happen.
Being your own hero means never giving up on what you know is possible. No matter how long it takes you to get there, you will get there eventually if you keep going.