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  • David Jeremy
    February 20, 2012 | Permalink |

    Women don’t need all this. Men do not need all this. The only thing that makes a relationship successful is: Honesty, Trust, Respect. Grooming is unimportant. The dirtiest, ugliest stud can seduce and bang the top broads that rich, clean, powerful men can if he follows the basic principles. Women follow this principle, too. That’s why they’re doing so well in this game but so many men are struggling.

  • Susan
    July 12, 2012 | Permalink |

    David, you’re right, we don’t need “all of this”. But I do like a man who grooms himself and isn’t “Homer Simpson”. It shows that he takes care of himself, is at least a little ambitious (at least doesnt sit on a couch all day), and if he dressed nice for a date it means he possibly likes me as he made an effort. That’s also a compliment to the girl! I don’t expect a movie star/natural uber-handsomeness, but I LOVE it when the guy ‘dresses up’ for me a little as a way of trying to woo his girl. It is something you are doing both for yourself, and for the woman you are with.

    And umm. If he looks healthy, that also hits ‘basic attraction buttons’ in most women. Again we don’t expect a bodybuilder, sportsperson, he-man etc but looking healthy, working out a bit, is attractive to almost all girls. This is my personal taste too as I’m a gym girl.

  • Guitar Guy
    July 15, 2012 | Permalink |

    Wow… Looks like I’m doomed to be forever alone. There’s no way I’m ever going to be all of that. :(

  • Cat
    August 9, 2012 | Permalink |

    Not a bad list, but two points of contentions.
    #7 – Not only do I not want chivalry, I actually don’t like it. It’s a pointless social game based around the idea that women are weak and incapable, and men are basically expendable. I don’t want chivalry. I just want decency and manners, and I do the same in return. I like to trade off who pays for lunch, who opens the door, etc. Those are all little opportunities to show you care, and I like it best when we’re both doing them.
    #8 – The grooming thing. Yes, I want a man who’s hygenic, of course, but the way this is describede goes beyond “grooming.” I genuinely don’t care how he dresses. He doesn’t have to spend any real time in the bathroom to impress me. His personality will make him sexy, if he’s a great guy. Likewise, I don’t want him to expect me to doll up to impress him all the time. I want to be myself. I was getting dressed the other day while my boyfriend was over. We were just running out for errands, and I just threw on skinny jeans and a black t-shirt, no make-up, my hair was still a bit wild, and he said, “So simple, but so stunning.” That was a wonderful compliment, and it’s nice to know he loves me for the way I look naturally, rather than some fake version of me.

  • boogaloob
    September 21, 2012 | Permalink |

    Got a gripe with 3,4, 6 and 7 (mostly 3 and 7). I’d like to think the woman of my life agrees with me on this – that we face obstacles together, hand in hand. That we help eachother in our own ways when we need it. That I’m not ashamed to take help from her when I need it. I’m not superior to her, even if this area. Not every woman likes to be saved, especially if she knows how to save herself! i really respect that.

    So many of these things ought to be mutual, actually. I love a woman who can dream too!

  • Kirsten
    September 21, 2012 | Permalink |

    Every relationship in order to be healthy has to have an equallity among the sides. The educational level, the job, the appearance, the character, all these have to be relatively on the same level. For instance a 25 year old beautiful woman with a graduate degree, a post-graduate degree, three foreign languages, seminars and lectures, a driving licence, a computer licence cannot be with a 35 year old guy who has only got a diploma and nothing else. Things just don’t match. Even if he’s the most good-looking man in the world, or if he’s the most amazing character.

    And vice versa, a 35 year old goodlooking man with a good job, a degree, foreign languages, a computer and a car license cannot be with a woman who has only got a high school leaving certificate, no matter how beautiful she is. He will never respect her, and she will always feel inferior and undeserving. A person has to have aspirations in life and if you don’t reach them, work towards them, don’t just sit there and wait and ask from the person you are together to admire you and look up to you and commit to you, because they never will. Not unless they respect themselves, they won’t.

  • MARK
    September 25, 2012 | Permalink |

    it seems to me that many women out there can’t accept a man for himself, and are looking for a man that has a lot of money. and when you compare the women of today to years ago, they were much more educated back then. today many women are very picky, and many of us straight guys are not like that. there are many women today that have an attitude problem, and have become so very nasty to start a conversation with. why are you women so very messed up? if you were abused by men years ago, i guess that would explain it. this is certainly the reason why many of us men can’t seem to find a decent woman now, that is if they still exist.

  • Darex
    November 5, 2012 | Permalink |

    I believe men need to be ready for every kinds of challenges they are to be faced by the women in this life. That was why they were made to be. How to handle women, how to impress them, how to make them happy and feel comfortable. These make them want to hold on to you the more.

  • Andy
    November 15, 2012 | Permalink |

    So according to the article, you’re supposed to be chivalrous and masculine, while at the same time being sensitive and full of emotion. No wonder so many guys struggle.

  • How True Says
    December 20, 2012 | Permalink |

    women are looking for men that have a very large bank account, and can’t seem to accept a man for who he really is. women certainly need to be much more educated these days like most of them were years ago. with their parents being so very badly messed up themselves, that is what made them so dysfunctional today too. a real good honest down to earth woman is a rare find nowadays, especially one that doesn’t cheat. i myself seem to come across so many very nasty women that have an attitude problem, and the way that they have changed makes it worse.

  • Frank
    December 26, 2012 | Permalink |

    A man could be all this and more. But truth be told, what I have found out is this. Women only want 1 of the following three types. A man who is lazy, plays video games and is a mooch. Number two guy is the one who is loaded with money and so long as they sleep with him and run to his every call, he will take care of them. Three is the good looking guy, women are wanting a guy who looks good. The funny thing is all three of the above treat women like dirt, yet they are the ones who women flock too. I am done trying to find the one, I will just stay single. I do not want to keep falling into the BS now or selfish, self centered b i tches…

  • andrea
    January 7, 2013 | Permalink |

    My experience when I did try to go out with men weren’t good ones. A couple of men on here were talking about women with nasty attitudes. First of all not all women have attitudes and if they did it’s because men are disgusting animals. Like I said I tried going out with a couple men and they were disgusting filthy pigs and they wonder why they can’t get a decent woman without an attitude.

  • Billy
    January 11, 2013 | Permalink |

    all i have to say is where are the women that were ladies years ago?, instead of the trashy ones that we have now.

  • Jay
    January 20, 2013 | Permalink |

    many of the women out there must of had a very horrible childhood while they were growing up, and it is very sad that we have so many dysfunctional women that are out there today. it certainly makes it much more harder for us straight men that are looking to meet a good woman now, especially that many women are so very hard to start a normal conversation with. it is a shame that we can’t meet a good woman like our mom’s were back then, and that certainly would have made it a lot easier than today.

  • April 19, 2013 | Permalink |

    Well. I don’t think anyone can say what each other really knows the answers.
    I feel in love with a women after a failed marriage of my spouses fault.
    She admits it too. But I had a relationship for 3 and a half years with this goddess.
    From the start we both loved each other truly equal. Into the second year. I got sick. I had to have
    Back surgery. Even when I had surgery we loved each other to the “T”.
    But. I then became disabled. Failed back fusion. I could still make her eyes roll In the back of her head in bed. And we were best friends. Always talked on a weekly basis if there were any problems in our relationship. But her mother talked her into letting me go because I was disabled.
    Money wasn’t a issue. I pulled my weight. She even told me she never been so happy.
    She also said her mom was a problem in her life because they never got along.
    She talked to her mom. Explained she was happy and never more loved even in her first marriage. But in the end she listened to her mother. I heard all the excuses. Here is the flip to the coin. In the beginning she had sex with me for a week before telling me she had herpies 2. I was shocked and I stopped. I talked to her. Yes I was upset. But I got educated about it and I excepted her even though she wasn’t perfect. But at the end. She couldn’t except i wasn’t. It was the best 3+ years of my life. So no one has the answers. It’s just being lucky enough to have the time that we do with someone we love. And keep it with us always. Love ,,,, relationships ,,, men or women. It’s what you get. Except. Work at. And keep in your heart and mind. That’s all you get. Nothing lasts forever! I’m just a average guy. That had the honor of falling in love twice in a life time.

  • Joe
    May 25, 2013 | Permalink |

    well first of all, i never expected to be cursed at by a woman at one time that i was very attracted to. and yes, i had this happen to me. i am a good down to earth straight man looking to meet a good woman to share a life with like so many very lucky straight couples have together, and being cursed at just shows me how many rotten women today that are out there now. it is normal for a man like me that would certainly want to have a woman in my life, and why should i have to be alone? can’t blame me for that can you? it is very sad that there are so many gay women today that are certainly adding to the problem as well. and since i know other men that had this happen to them too, well that goes to show you that the women of today are nothing like the real good ladies that we had years ago.

  • Destiny
    August 12, 2013 | Permalink |

    The way you all talk about girls makes them sound like trash! If your negative about women why do you think women would like you?!? I’m not saying there aren’t jerk women but not every woman is the same. I don’t care if a guy makes loads of money but I want a guy that makes enough to support himself (or family) because that shows that he’s a hard-working guy that doesn’t sit around like a lazy bum. Think about that. The way that some of you have commented might make usually-nice women be offended and get nasty with you!

  • sean
    August 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    Funny article. In an ideal world this would make sense, but unfortunately most women don’t even know what they want. So…..

  • Dominic
    August 15, 2013 | Permalink |

    I checked out everything on this list. I am all of the above and I work on all of them regularly. Nonetheless, I cannot attract the type of women I desire. I just get rejected, ignored, or friendzoned. I’ve had some limited success, and I’ve even done some rejecting myself, but for the most part, women have succeeded in making me feel unattractive. This was a good read and perhaps it is reassuring in the sense it might not even be my fault.

  • Elizabeth Ndegi
    August 21, 2013 | Permalink |

    This tips are all the fact though am not yet married, but my opinion is that since this are usefull i found is good to follow them on my marriage and i wanna do them .

  • Shut up bitch
    September 6, 2013 | Permalink |

    Men are not filthy disgusting pigs. Women are just oversensitive and difficult.

  • Adrian
    November 17, 2013 | Permalink |

    Hi guys, I can’t understand, I fulfil all of these things and yet I get friendzoned with almost any girl I meet. This especially happens for the dependable part, it’s like once you do something for a girl, they just see it as an opportunity to use you. I’m turning 25 and I’ve never had a girlfriend before, in fact I’ve never even been hugged by a girl or anything, they just hate me. I’m just destined to be alone, because all the other guys I know have someone, and a few are real jerks and they can get away with anything. I truly loved this one girl and I tried to show her so many times, but she insisted going out with this other lazy, unambitious slacker guy, he cheated on her, she stuck with him, he got done for DUI, she bailed him out. All I ever was to her was a person to use to get what she wanted, a friend to misuse. I told her I loved her and now she hates me, gives me the silent treatment, and has forgotten about me being her friend all that time. I don’t think there’s a secret law of attraction for me, just a secret law of repulsion. Everything I want I never get, I only get other stuff I don’t want.

  • Jeff
    November 19, 2013 | Permalink |

    It would seem in my experience, now a days all those ‘good looking women’ want a ‘good looking guy’ way beyond their level, does not matter if they are cave man, nasty, and stupid. Many have a government check as daddy war bucks so that really destroys social natural selection. So these same beautiful women tainted by societies fixation on wealth beauty and money to no end combined with the digital age today to spread it every where instantly. They cry and moan when that guy leaves them or it does not work out. Beauty gets your foot in the door but personality last forever, they all get older, wrinkly and then no one wants them. Better work on your soul character than worry about bimbos and studs matting each other. In the end, it is your soul and who are that will count and we will ‘older’ much longer than forever young in our 20′s this society that worships it like God. They will never know true happiness that they all claim they want and the honesty and respect that comes with it.

  • AJ
    November 24, 2013 | Permalink |

    Most of the women today are just too very Stupid to know what they really want.

  • Sb
    April 21, 2014 | Permalink |

    Hogwash. The women who left me in the past were the ones I did everything for. The ones I treated like crap were the ones who even to this day I can call them up and have them naked at my house in minutes…whether married, boyfriend or single. Take my advice and treat women badly (85% of the time) and they’ll chase you to the ends of the earth for all time.

  • double take
    August 18, 2014 | Permalink |

    This list is just perfect, hypocrisy-wise. The pic shows a provocative blonde showing her cleavage and the number one item of what women want from a man is “respect”…

  • Mickey
    November 18, 2014 | Permalink |

    The same women who claim they can’t find a decent guy will be the same ones on their back with their skirts over their head for the first bad boy thug or corporate player who looks their way. Chivalry my a$$.

  • Cosmin
    November 24, 2014 | Permalink |

    I have most of the traits above but all women reject me. Or give me the “go fuck yourself” look. I wounder why?

  • andy
    December 14, 2014 | Permalink |

    I stopped reading because I realized it was written by a woman

  • Lionheart
    February 8, 2015 | Permalink |

    Those men who complain about being friendzoned, or that women are bitches…… Really? Keep that attitude, and men like me will keep stealing your women. Women don’t leave you guys because they are hard to please….but because you so called ‘men’ act like little bitches. Its not her, douchewad….its you.

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