Reading a girl’s mind can’t get any easier. Understand these 23 things girls wish guys knew, and you’ll be a charmer and a better lover, all at once. By Layla Quinn
Most guys assume girls are mysterious.
And many other guys think girls are manipulative and play hard to get all the time.
But is that really true?
Well, yes, we do like it when a guy that likes us can make the effort to prove that he’s worthy.
But that doesn’t mean we toy with a man’s mind when we like them already!
The dating game girls wish guys could understand
Even before we get to the list of things girls wish guys knew, I think guys really need to understand this.
Girls almost always take time to fall in love.
But when they do fall in love with a great guy, they fall pretty hard.
So if a girl you’re pursuing takes her time to start dating you, it doesn’t mean she’s playing hard to get *even if that’s what you believe*.
It only means she’s still evaluating you as a dating potential.
The playing hard to get part of the dating game isn’t a game at all.
It’s just the way things work.
A guy gets attracted to a girl immediately, but it takes a while for a girl to fall for the guy’s charm.
Give that sweet girl you like so much a bit of time to actually fall for you, because when she does fall, she’ll fall pretty hard and stay in love too! [Read: How to woo a girl and make her fall for you]
Well, so now that I’ve got that big thing girls want guys to know off my chest, let’s get to the rest.
23 things girls wish guys knew about girls
A girl isn’t mysterious. The way you think and the way girls think are just a wee bit different. Women are more compassionate by nature and are more forgiving. Guys, on the other hand, are more aggressive and violent, and hold on to grudges for a lot longer. [Read: 12 giveaway signs that a girl definitely likes you]
Just because men and women are different in the head doesn’t make women complicated confusions. It is pretty frustrating though, when a guy just doesn’t take the effort to understand a girl better.
To help you understand a girl and her mind, here are 23 things girls wish guys knew about girls. It’ll definitely help you understand the girls in your life better, and they’ll appreciate you for the nicer guy you’d become once you know these things too.
#1 The staring game. Girls don’t like being stared at, unless we’re reciprocating to your stare by staring back. So the next time you’re sitting at a coffee shop trying to catch a girl’s eye, look at her a couple of times. If she seems disinterested and doesn’t lock eyes with you, let her be. She’s not interested in you, and you boring through her brain with your x-ray vision won’t change her mind. [Read: 1o subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]
#2 Staring at other girls. If you’re on a date with a girl or spending time with your girlfriend, try to avoid staring at other girls. And if you can’t help yourself, take a quick, casual peek at the girl in the next table and avoid looking at that girl again. Trying to exchange eye contact with another girl is disrespectful and insulting to your date.
When you’re with your new girlfriend, don’t flirt or compliment another girl about something you haven’t complimented your own girlfriend at some point of time before. It’ll upset her, because she’ll assume you’re more fascinated by the other girl. If a cold shoulder comes your way after that, don’t assume that your girlfriend is too complicated to understand. It’s just your big foot that’s stuck in your mouth that messed up this time. [Read: 10 biggest dating turn offs for women]
#3 The special days. Yes, we may have more special days in our lives. But that’s only because we try to make every other day feel like a special occasion that’s worth celebrating. If you can make the effort to remember our special days and plan for it in advance, we’d only fall more in love with you with every new special occasion. And don’t forget anniversaries and birthdays, that just hurts a lot more than you think.
#4 Shave encounters. We take a lot of effort to look our best for the special guys in our life, even if it takes an hour a day to look perfect. But sometimes, when we’re feeling really comfortable in love or on a lazy weekend, we could let go now and then and overlook shaving our legs or grooming the little bits of hair here and there.
Yes, hair does grow on girls too, as surprising as that may seem. So don’t make a big deal about it. Be nice to your lady, and wipe that mortified expression off your face when you see your girlfriend’s unshaven legs. And really, pulling your own pants up and comparing the length of your leg hair with her leg is so not funny!
#5 We love talking about feelings. Almost all the time, as humans, what we say isn’t always what we mean. So instead of just using our imagination to decipher harsh words, accusations and sweet words, girls like talking about it. Have a warm conversation with a girl, and it’ll definitely bring her closer to you. After all, all girls think a great conversationalist is an excellent catch.
#6 Chivalry is not dead. Many girls may not like to wait for a guy to hold the door open for them or pull a chair back for them all the time. But it’s definitely a nice feeling when a guy treats a girl chivalrously when he’s on a date with her. We find it very uncomfortable to be with a guy who doesn’t understand basic courtesy, especially when all other guys around know how to behave and treat a woman with respect. [Read: Chivalry is dead because men are lazy]
#7 Cuddling and spooning. This is just as important as sex. For a guy, penetration is sex. But for a girl, penetration is just penetration. Sex is foreplay, penetration and a bit of afterplay. Sex is an emotional connection for women. When you have sex with your woman, make love to her and spend time with her, not just while having sex, but at all other times too. [Read: How to satisfy a woman in bed and make sex more exciting]
#8 Shopping sprees. Girls love shopping. It’s like therapy and it makes most of us feel good even when we’re feeling down. So instead of behaving like a stereotypical male who pretends like he hates shopping, join us now and then. It’ll be fun, and we’d really appreciate it if you could help us pick the stuff that looks great on us.
#9 Our girl friends matter. The opinions of our friends matter, and we take them into serious consideration. So if you’re trying to impress a girl or win her over, pay attention to winning over her friends too. If you can win over her friends, you’re already half past making her fall in love with you because her friends will turn into your evangelists. [Read: 10 steps to make a girl want you and think of you sexually]
#10 Trust a girl with her hands. Girls are more dexterous and have better hand skills than men, so trust her when you need to pull a splinter out or jiggle a key. I could go as far as saying girls better drivers too *based on statistics* but hey, we won’t go there now!
#11 Don’t beef up. Girls don’t always like brawny men who can’t reach around and wipe their own ass. A bulked up hulk may awe other men but they almost always never impress women. To a girl, machismo doesn’t always mean bulky muscles.
#12 We fake it. Now and then, we fake it to make you feel better even if we’re not having the orgasmic scream of our lives. But that doesn’t mean you should take it easy in bed, and avoid trying new things in bed.
Even if we don’t always say we want something better in bed, we do drop a few signs later to let you know you could have done better. We’re not trying to puncture your ego, we’re just trying to help you get better in bed. [Read: 15 ways to turn a girl on and excite her mind]
#13 Fair and square. In a relationship, we want the same rules to be applied to both partners. If you don’t like us talking to a particular guy or don’t want us to go out on a ladies night, the same rules should apply to you too. Don’t try to control us and on the other hand, do whatever you like. It’s unfair and we’d never be happy in a relationship that’s biased. [Read: 15 subtle signs you could be a controlling boyfriend and not know it!]
#14 Funny guys. We love humor, in any way you can bring it, just as long as it doesn’t hurt us emotionally or physically. Girls are always drawn to guys who have a sense of humor. If you’re not a funny guy, memorize a few jokes. We’ll love you anyway! [Read: How to be a funny guy that girls love]
#15 Revenge. This is more of a warning than a thing girls wish guys knew, but it’s important for you to know this nevertheless. A guy may use brute force or throw a punch to get his revenge. But a woman’s mind doesn’t work that way. A girl always gets her revenge psychologically. So if you’ve pissed a girl off and she’s smiling at you, you have every reason to be afraid… very afraid!
#16 We love talking. Girls love socializing and talking to their friends for hours. And at times, a girl would also want to talk to her guy and spend a while talking about nothing in particular. So even if you aren’t into gossip or giggles, humor your girl. She’ll love the fact that you’re so understanding and cooperative.
#17 Reading your mind. A girl likes talking about the future and asking her boyfriend questions that can help her decipher her guy’s mind better. After all, it is the best way to spend a lazy weekend and get to hear each other’s opinions on compatibility and future plans. It can also help you understand your girlfriend a lot better too. [Read: 50 questions to test your relationship compatibility]
#18 We withhold sex. And that’s only because we know what hurts you most when we want to get back at you for something you’ve done. We really do want to talk to you and clear the air, but when you walk away or just laugh at us, evolution has taught us that the best way to get a man’s attention is by withholding sex. Talk to us, and understand us, and we’ll never have to resort to low blows like this.
#19 The dependable you. A girl always wants her man to be dependable and reliable. Your girlfriend may not always ask you for a favor or your help, but when she does, let her know that you’re always around for her when she needs you. It makes her feel more secure and protected, and that’ll make you feel great about yourself too.
#20 We love compliments. Girls aren’t insecure in a perfect relationship, but that doesn’t mean girls don’t like hearing compliments often. If you like something about your girl, tell her what’s on your mind. Girls absolutely love compliments, especially when it comes to appearances and romance. [Read: 50 really cute things to say to your girlfriend]
#21 Raking old issues. Girls bring up old issues during a fight, not to hit you with a low blow, but because we remember it. Women have a better memory than men, and we just can’t help it. When we’re angry with our man, we can’t help but pour out all our frustrations at once. But we’ll also give you the cutest smile while making it up after a fight!
#22 Public display of affection. A girl may behave coyly when her boyfriend puts his arms around her in public or kisses her cheek. But it definitely does bring a tingle of excitement for girls too. Public display of affection makes us feel good, just as long as you don’t make a horny face or indulge in PDA just to show off in front of another guy. [Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a girl and make her wet]
#23 Awe us with your machismo. If it’s something we can’t do, we’ll fall in love just watching you do it! A guy’s physical strength is a big turn on for girls, because evolution has hardwired a girl’s brain to awe a man’s brute strength. Win your date a big prize after pounding a high striker at a carnival game and you’ll definitely impress her and leave her blushing with delight!
Just understanding these 23 things that girls wish guys knew can make you a smoother man with the ladies and a big charmer in no time. And it’ll definitely make girls like you a lot more too!
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