You love your lady, but do you know how to treat your girlfriend? Here’s a look into the mind of a girl so you can make your girlfriend happy.
They say that women are a mystery. Maybe you agree, and maybe you don’t. But think about it – women are human beings just like everyone else. So, they are not as complicated as you might think. In order to have a good relationship, you both have to treat each other right.
But do you really know how to treat your girlfriend well? You know what I’m talking about. Like the kind of man who all other women want to be with because he treats his lady like a queen. Do you do that? If not, read on.
How to treat your girlfriend right – What you need to know
Have no fear! I have spent many years researching and studying what makes relationships healthy. And trust me, it’s not rocket science. Some of these tips may be easier for you than others, but if you just put a little effort into learning how to treat your girlfriend, your lady will be bragging about you to all of her friends. And then they’ll be jealous that you don’t belong to them. Here are some tips for how to treat your girlfriend.
#1 Have empathy. For some reason, people find is difficult to show empathy. I find this quite odd, actually. But it’s true. Empathy is the ability to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and really, truly care about how they feel about something. It’s seeing the world from their perspective. [Read: 20 ways to make your girlfriend incredibly happy]
I know that’s difficult to do sometimes, but you at least need to show your girlfriend that you are trying.
No one likes it when another person doesn’t care about how they feel or doesn’t try to identify with their experiences of the world. So, if you want to know how to treat your girlfriend, it all starts with showing her empathy.
#2 Care about her needs. This goes hand-in-hand with having empathy. If she really, really wants to get a “good morning” and a “good night” text every day, well, just do it. It might annoy you, and you might even think it’s a bit silly. But you have to remember that is her need. And if you want to know how to treat your girlfriend well, then you have to cater to her needs.
Everyone has needs and desires. And sometimes people are naturally compatible with fulfilling each other’s needs, but often, that’s not true. So, first you need pay attention and ask her what her needs are. Then, take action! It’s not that hard. And trust me, your efforts will be worth it. [Read: 12 really sweet ways to show a girl how much you love her]
#3 Do nice things for her. Girls love it when you do things for them. Maybe it’s filling up her car with gas, or changing light bulbs at her place. They may sound simple to you, but to her, it’s everything. You’ll be her hero.
So, give her foot rubs, bring her flowers for no reason, clean her house, or do just about anything that you know she would appreciate. It’s always the little things like this… that are really the big things. [Read: 10 things you shouldn’t do when you have a girlfriend]
#4 Listen to her. Yes, I know. Girls can ramble on and talk forever, and you’re not always interested in what they’re saying. I get it. But have you ever had someone ignore you or not listen to what you are saying? Of course you have. We all have. And how does it make you feel? Not good. Right? It makes you feel like the person doesn’t care enough to even listen to you.
So, listen to her. I don’t care if the big game is on TV. Either pause it and listen to her for a few minutes, or politely say something like, “Baby, I really want to talk to you about this. But right now, I’m kind of distracted with the game. Do you mind if we talk about it later? That way, I can give you my full attention.” Everyone likes to be listened to. [Read: How to comfort a girl – 15 thoughtful ways to do it right]
#5 Pay for things. Newsflash: chivalry SHOULDN’T be dead. I know that women are independent and self-sufficient these days, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t want our man to pay for us… at least some of the time. Even if she makes more money than you, it doesn’t matter. You should at least pay for some things.
When you pay for things, it shows that you’re putting in effort to take care of her and treat her like a lady. Being a chivalrous man is just about respect. So, don’t mooch off of her. Be the man sometimes and pay for her. [Read: How to be chivalrous – The code of modern chivalry]
#6 Communicate with her. If something is bothering you, then talk to her. Even if it’s something at work that’s bugging you *but it’s affecting your behavior toward her*, let her know. She wants to know what goes on in your mind.
Communication is especially important when it comes to discussing what’s going on in your relationship. Let’s face it – there is virtually no couple on the planet that doesn’t have ANY disagreements. But learn to work through problems by talking about it. If you don’t, then you might not have a girlfriend for very much longer.
#7 Keep in touch with her. Girls hate it when you ignore them. You might not mean to ignore her, but she might interpret it that way. If you don’t keep in touch every day, she might think you’ve lost interest or don’t love her anymore.
I know, it might be a bit silly. But it’s not silly to her. Remember some of my earlier points about respecting her needs? Well, here you go. Girls love to keep in touch with their man on a regular basis. It makes her feel loved and secure in the relationship. [Read: 23 Things girls wish guys knew about a girl’s mind]
#8 Give her space… if she wants it. Contrary to some stereotypes, not all girls want to be joined at the hip with you 24/7. She has a life outside of you. She has a job, friends, and family. And many girls just like their alone time too.
So, if you’re the kind of guy who tends to be a bit clingy, smothering, or simply a bit over-eager, well, tone it down a bit. Let her go out for girls’ night out. Let her stay home and read a book in her bathtub with a glass of wine. Give her space if she wants it.
#9 Speak to her – and treat her – with respect. If you are not speaking to your girlfriend with kind words – all the time – then you are not being a good boyfriend. Every human being deserves respect. And respect comes in two forms… words and actions.
#10 Compromise and fight fairly. As I said earlier, every relationship comes with disagreements. But you can’t let the disagreements break your relationship. You have to think about conflict as if you are a team.
When you have problems, think in terms of problem-solving together. This is not a football game. There doesn’t have to be a winner and a loser. In fact, when you think of it that way, you both end up as losers. So, you have to do some give and take, and fight fairly. [Read: Dating a highly sensitive person – 20 things you can’t ignore]
#11 Don’t be selfish or lazy. Your girlfriend is not your mother. She does not want to pick up your dirty socks or underwear off the floor. She doesn’t want to be the only one who cooks and cleans. She wants you to be a partner to her, not a child.
So be a man. A real man who takes personal responsibility for everything. Don’t just sit around on the couch all weekend drinking beer, not showering, and messing up the house. If you do, she will get disgusted very quickly.
Knowing how to treat your girlfriend right isn’t too difficult. Even if some of these tips seem like they are outside of your comfort zone, you really need to do them. That is, if you want to keep your girlfriend and make her happy.
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Dr. Carol Morgan
Dr. Carol Morgan has a Ph.D. in communication and is a professor at Wright State University where she loves corrupting young minds. As a relationship and succes...