When it comes to knowing how to make a girl happy, people often think it’s way harder than it really is. Here’s how simple it is to make her smile.
Far too many people get it wrong about what it takes to really make their women happy. They think girls are so complex it’s like they think we’re aliens. Knowing how to make a girl happy isn’t as complicated as you think it is and in fact, it can be super easy.
Why you think pleasing a woman is so complicated
What guys tend to misunderstand most is the fact that men and women don’t always want the same things. So they do nice things for their girls, but they aren’t things that they really want. It’s what the guys would want.
It’s not that guys aren’t making an effort or that they don’t know their girls but rather, it’s about the fact that they don’t think much about what the girl would want. They assume what would make them happy would also make her happy. [Read: Why are women so fickle?]
How to make a girl happy with ease
If you’ve found that you just can’t seem to do anything right when it comes to making your woman happy, you’ll benefit from some help. It doesn’t have to be as complicated as you think it is.
These are very simple, doable ways to make your girl smile – and it’s stuff she actually wants from you. Here’s how to make a girl happy in ways that aren’t complex and overcomplicated.
#1 Listen intently. It’s not hard to just pay attention. I know your girl won’t always be talking about stuff you care a ton about, but you have to listen. It’s about more than just nodding along, too. Contribute to what she’s saying and be engaged when she’s talking about her life and day. [Read: 10 ways to be a better listener in your relationship]
#2 Remember the little things. I’m not talking about her birthday – because that’s a big thing. I’m talking about what’s going on in her life. Maybe it’s her friend’s birthday or better yet, her mom’s.
Remembering the things that are important to her, even if they’re not vital to you, can make your girl happier than ever. It shows you care and appreciate not just her, but all the things in her life.
#3 Make her feel special. All girls want to feel like the only girl you ever think of. Even if that’s not the truth – because that’s impossible – making her feel that way is possible. Tell her secrets you don’t share with anyone else and keep your eye on her when walking past a group of attractive women.
#4 Be a gentleman. Open the car door for her, open the door to the restaurant, clear her car off when there’s snow on it, and do that chivalrous stuff I know you probably don’t do enough. I know it can be annoying sometimes, but it’s worth it to see her smile. [Read: 15 courteous ways to be a gentleman and keep her happy]
#5 Know when she’s stressed. She has her tells. Just like she can tell when you’ve got a lot going on, you can tell when she’s overworked or stressed about something. Instead of just ignoring it or avoiding her because of her upset mood, do something about it.
Make her a lunch to take to work so she doesn’t have to worry about it. Do some chores you know she won’t have time to get to. Just make her life easier when she’s having a hard time and you’ll see how happy she’ll be.
#6 Do stuff the first time she asks. Girls don’t like nagging just as much as you don’t like hearing them nag. Believe me. The point is that if you do something when she asks the first time, she’ll be ecstatic. If you have a hard time remembering, then write it down ASAP and get to it.
#7 Do stuff without being asked. Better yet, do stuff without having to be asked. You know she’ll tell you to clean your facial hair out of the sink or take out the garbage. So do it before she has a chance to. If you see some way you can help her out, jump at the chance. [Read: 20 sweet things to do for your girlfriend that she’ll love]
#8 Ask if she needs help often. Sometimes your girl won’t want to admit that she needs help. She could be the very independent type and just won’t want to. So ask her as much as you can. Being helpful and wanting to make an impact won’t be lost on her.
#9 Notice the little changes. There are changes, too. She may wear her hair different or get it cut or even get a new piercing. If you notice, and you should notice, tell her. Compliment her and make an effort to pay attention to those things. After all, she probably does it for you.
#10 Show her attention in public. There’s not much better for a girl than showing the world you care about her. It’s as simple as showing her some extra attention when you’re out and about. Hold her hand, kiss her forehead, and just show her you’re into her in front of everyone else.
#11 Bring her around your friends. This is also how to make a girl feel special. She knows your friends are important to you. If you bring her around them and even show her off to them, it’ll make her happier than you can imagine. Obviously she doesn’t need to tag along all the time, but having her with you is a surefire way to make her smile. [Read: 13 signs your friends are ruining your relationship]
#12 Compliment her personality traits. It’s fine to tell her how beautiful she is but what will truly make her happy is if you tell her how smart she is. You can even talk about the traits you admire about her that aren’t her looks. This means a lot more than something she has no control over, like her looks.
#13 Compliment her looks. After a while of being together, guys often forget to tell their girls just how attracted to them they still are. And while those deeper compliments mean a lot, she still wants to hear that she looks good to you.
#14 Be nice to her friends. Just like your friends mean a lot to you, hers mean a lot to her, too. That means you being nice to them and gaining their approval will make her extremely happy. Better yet, if they’re envious of her having you, that’s the best of all.
#15 Just try. Girls really just want the effort. We want guys to just try to make us happy. Even if it’s not successful, the fact that you’re trying will be more meaningful than if you did nothing. So just put forth the work and she’ll be happy you’re actively trying to make her happy.