If you’re not having luck with how to get girls, stop listening to your friend’s advice. If you want to know how it’s done, listen to women. We know.
I think the problem with men is they think women are complex and indecisive. Listen, we’re not. We just act accordingly to you guys. Sometimes you guys start well and then derail. What are we supposed to do? Sit there in admiration? Of course not. We say we’re going to the bathroom and the avoid you for the rest of the night. That is not how to get girls.
So, instead of getting the ol’ bathroom excuse, let go of your pride and just listen. I’m not going to sabotage you. I’m a supporter of love and sex, so I’m on your side. But you’re going to have to pay attention.
How to get girls – 16 little things that make all the difference
No, you’re not going to do a card trick. But if you want to know how to get girls, here are a few tricks to win the ladies hearts.
#1 Do the opposite. You can always spot someone at the club who’s “hunting.” This goes for both men and women. Men don’t pick the girl desperately walking around the club trying to find a guy.
#2 Look clean. This is basic 101 to human hygiene. Go take a good shower, wash your hair, trim your nose hairs. You know, just look like you’re somewhat put together. Sure, you may be a mess, but people can find that out later after a couple dates. People like clean people.
#3 Don’t jump from one to the other. I literally spot every guy that hops from one girl to another. Those guys do eventually find someone. However, by the end of the night, they’re trying to take whatever they can get. Don’t be that guy. Talk to girls, I’m not saying not to, but don’t be jumping from one to another every two minutes. Women notice that.
#4 You can’t get a woman because you don’t “get” us. Women aren’t complicated, but we do think differently than men. How she shows interest is also much different. So, you need to know the signs women show when we’re interested in someone. [Read: How to approach women: 15 tips you absolutely need to know]
#5 Make her curious. If you want to have a conversation with her, you’re going to have to make her curious about you. That’s the only way you hold her attention. If not, she’ll get bored and you’ll lose your chance. So, say something about yourself that sparks her interest.
#6 Don’t turn it into an interview. The problem with most guys is that they ask too many questions, and then we get bored and uninterested in you. So, keep the questions to a minimum. Ask questions. But don’t turn it into an interview. You want to keep the conversation flowing. [Read: How to talk to girls and leave them swooning]
#7 Be playful. This isn’t some meeting with the president, so keep the conversation playful and fun. You want her to enjoy herself around you. If she’s more of a serious personality, then you can go into deep conversation. Usually that’s not the case.
#8 You can’t be too easy. You approached her, so she already knows that you’re interested. However, you don’t want to look overly interested. Why? Because then we’ll just play around with you. Give her attention but don’t tell her how much you like her, etc. [Read: How to play hard to get with a girl – And do it just right]
#9 Dress to represent yourself. If you’re a painter, don’t dress like an accountant. If you’re a skater, don’t dress like you’re a rapper. Just dress how you feel. Also, how you dress attracts specific people, so keep that in mind as well.
#10 Don’t be too handsy, but still touch her. You don’t want to throw yourself here before she even says her name. But, you do want to touch her. Touch her arm or shoulder. Areas which aren’t overly sexual. Then you can slowly increase your touch if she allows it. [Read: How to flirt by touch without making it obvious at all]
#11 Be brave. There are times when you’ll be just standing on your own with a beer and a girl approaches you. However, most of the time, you have to get some balls and make the first move. There’s nothing to be scared about with rejection, you just have to keep moving forward.
#12 Don’t focus on a pickup line. When it comes to knowing how to get girls, pickup lines are lame and overdone. She’ll probably be impressed by you if you don’t use a pickup line. You can talk about something that’s happening in the bar or club or just approach her and say hi. There’s no right way. The pickup line needs to be left in 2008.
#13 Use a wingman if needed. There are going to be some moments when you’ll be needing someone to step in and help you out. It’s normal. So, in those cases, make sure you have a friend who’s a solid wingman. Someone who sweeps in and helps you converse with her and her friends. Even women have their own wing women. We all need one. [Read: Asking a girl out: How to overcome the fear of rejection]
#14 Know who you are. If you want to know how to get girls and do it right, don’t try to be someone you’re not. It’s a path that always ends up messy and embarrassing. Just be yourself. If you’re a little awkward, so what, you’re awkward. You’re not the only one. And plus, some women find it charming and sweet—those are the girls you want anyway.
#15 You don’t have to buy her a drink. If you really like her, buy her a drink. However, you don’t have to do that right away. If you do, some women may just be hanging around so they can get free drinks. Is it nice? No, but the world isn’t nice, so wake up. You don’t have to buy anyone a drink, if she’s into you she’ll talk to you regardless if there’s a drink in her hand or not. [Read: 11 types of girls you should avoid falling for at all costs]
#16 If you’re going to compliment her, be genuine. Don’t tell her she’s beautiful or that you like her hair if you don’t. Be genuine. If you can’t think of anything nice to say, well, maybe you shouldn’t be hitting on her. It’s not going to work, seriously. We can tell when a guy is just trying to get into our pants.
Now that you know how to get girls, you’re going to have to practice. The first couple times may not be successful. However, you’re going to have to find a flow that works for you. It’s going to take some time.
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A serial dater, Natasha Ivanovic knows a thing or two about men and the dating scene. Much of her writing is inspired by her encounters with men - and for good ...