Female Body Language: 15 Things Girls Do and What It Really Means

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You know why women are so confusing? They say one thing but mean another. If you learn what female body language tells you, the confusion ends.

Women, can’t live with them, can’t live without them. At times, you can’t seem to ever please them. Do you live with a woman who says one thing but what you hear come from her mouth isn’t reflected in her actions or her intensity? There is a disconnect with what she tells you with her words and what she says with female body language.

Guys, follow me here… If you ever had a girl say something like “fine” or “nothing” you totally understand where I am going with this. If you ask a woman what is wrong and they say nothing, the slamming of the cabinets and the stamping of the feet and deep sighs tells you something else.

15 female body language secrets and what they tell you

If you want a harmonious relationship with the other gender, then it takes you looking past what her words say. Instead pay close attention to what her body language tell you. If you want to know how she really feels, then pay attention to the female body language cues that say either happy, sad, or downright pissed to avoid further confrontation.

#1 Hands on her hips. Like Custer’s last stand, if your woman has her hands on her hips, that says, “I’m not budging.” Drawing a line in the sand, if you see those hands on her hips, that means she won’t negotiate and she has had enough.

When hands go to hips, proceed with caution going forward. If you make a wrong move, it isn’t going to turn out pretty. [Read: What a woman really wants you to know when she pulls away from you]

#2 She speaks excitedly. If she tells you that everything is fine or okay, but she talks loudly or excitedly, then safely assume that they really aren’t. Women tend to get a high-pitched voice when upset.

Their heart rate rises, which makes them appear more agitated and excited. If you get that response, the best thing to do is back off and not push her buttons. Even if she says everything is okay, the intonation of her voice and the pitch screams caution. [Read: How to tell if a woman’s face betrays her true feelings]

#3 She waves her hands around. If she is very animated when she talks, that means it is either something very important that she wants you to hear or that it is very important to her.

Almost like a “look at me,” waving her hands around is a subconscious way to make sure you pay attention. So, if you see this female body language movement, you best pay attention to whatever it is that she says to you.

#4 She reaches out to you. If she reaches out to you, then she either asks for your forgiveness or for you to reach back to let bygones be bygones. Even if mad at you, she might reach toward you to find some common ground and calm the intensity of what you discuss.

A gesture of apology, if she reaches for you, just reach back. I promise you whatever the problem is, it will be fine, and you will see an immediate change in her.

#5 She rubs her face or brushes up against you. If she touches her face or finds reasons to touch or brush up against you, that means she is in the mood for some sexy time. Girls who touch their lips, brush their cheeks, or find reasons to sit close or accidentally brush up against you, try to tell you that they like you.

If it looks like she is flirting, she is. Don’t worry if she says she isn’t looking for someone, listen to what her female body language tells you. Although, always respect her “no” because it really does mean “no.” [Read: All the reasons lip biting is so sexy]

#6 She slams doors or walks loudly. If you don’t get this one, you really don’t get women. If you walk in the door and hear loud walking on the stairs, cabinets slamming, and pots and pans being strewn together, you best be on your best behavior.

You did something to piss her off. Even if it wasn’t you, it is going to befall you. Step lightly and make sure to have a “sorry, dear” in your pocket to squash the flames.

#7 Her eyes look like they are on fire. Again, no matter what her words say, if you see a flash of anger in her eyes *like crazy eyes* it is on. A woman with wide eyes, more white than normal, or they are just wide friggin’ open, tells you she let the crazy out of the closet or is about to.

My suggestion is to duck and weave. Do what you can to put the monster back. [Read: 21 things you do that will make a girl crazy]

#8 She hugs herself with arms around her shoulders. If she hugs herself either across the chest or even around the waist, she self-soothes. No, that is not a sexual thing.

The chances are good that her feelings have been hurt either by you or someone else. She tries to make it okay by soothing her own hurt. If you see her hugging herself, that means she feels vulnerable.

#9 She moves around without sitting still. If she fidgets while talking to you, then there is a good chance she is either afraid to tell you the truth or worried you will find out that she is lying.

A person who can’t sit still while telling you something usually tells you that what they say isn’t true or they don’t believe it themselves.

#10 Her lips look terse. If she purses her lips or her jaw tightens, then she holds back what she wants to say or is upset with what is being said.

Our bodies sometimes do things subconsciously that act out what happens in our heads. If her lips clench, that means she thinks unpleasant things. It would serve you well to stop and listen to what she says.

#11 She refuses to make eye contact. If she refuses to make eye contact with you, that means either she is so mad that she can’t look you in the eye, or that she is hiding something.

The eyes are the windows to the soul. If she has a secret she wants to keep or a feeling that she doesn’t want you to know about, averting her eyes locks you out so she can’t be discovered. [Read: The 12 secrets to read people instantly]

#12 Looking you squarely in the eyes. If she looks you squarely in the eyes, then she tells the truth. And something very important. If she doesn’t look away, whatever she says is real and genuine. She wants to be heard and likely looking to make sure you listen.

She also probably searches for an answer if she questions you about something.

#13 She walks away from you. If she walks away from you when you talk with her, that means she refuses to hear what you have to say. Walking away from someone is a way to shut them out and down.

#14 She shakes her hips a little when she walks. If she gives a little shimmy when she walks, that female body language is a sure sign she digs your chili. Women use their body language to captivate a guy’s attention.

Sometimes completely unconscious and sometimes completely aware, it all depends on the woman. But the shaking of the hips is meant to attract you and let you know she is interested. [Read: The body language cues a girl gives away if she likes you]

#15 Crossing her arms in front of her. If she stands with her arms crossed in front of her, that is a signal that she isn’t accepting what you say. Arms crossed means that I either don’t believe what you say, I am obstinate, or I am not going to give in or give up.

When two people argue, arms crossed means someone isn’t open to listening to what you have to say. They want to shut it all down. Protecting themselves from what you tell them.

People all have a body language. Genders hold a different body language than one another. If your lady tells you one thing, but you have a feeling it isn’t genuine or sincere, then it probably isn’t. Women have a difficult time hiding their true feelings especially when upset.

[Read: I’m fine and other deadly terms used by a woman]

If you want to know what she really tries to tell you, then listen to her words, of course, but also pay close attention to what her female body language communicates to you.

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Julie Keating
Julie Keating

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