Drunk Girlfriend Kissed Another Guy – What You Gotta Do


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Did your girlfriend kiss a guy and use the excuse of being drunk? Here’s a thought on drunk girlfriends who kiss other guys and what a man’s gotta do.

Well, well, this is a delicate string, isn’t it?

Has your girlfriend ever confessed to kissing another guy and feeling guilty about it, all because she was drunk and out of her mind?

Some guys have been the unlucky boyfriends who had to hear the news.

And some other guys were the lucky stealers who were able to stick their tongue into another man’s girlfriend’s mouth.

Judging by the two sides of this kind of a story, many guys have been here at least once.

Ever wondered about these things? How does it even happen?

Drunk girlfriends who kiss other guys

Booze makes a lot of crazy things happen to people.

It can make a man loosen up and feel like a king. And it can also make a horny girlfriend feel, well, more horny.

Whether you’re in college or experiencing a quarter life crisis, there’s always a good chance of this cropping up, especially if your girl’s an independent woman who loves her own space, a.k.a. flirting time with other guys.

Really, what are the odds of her going out with friends, meeting a few guys, and kissing one or more guys all happening in one single night? And especially on the same night that you don’t accompany her.

Smell something fishy? You should, even if you’re nowhere near her panties.

Nice girlfriends with a little bad booze

Seriously, what happens to a few girlfriends once they’ve had a bit to drink? All of a sudden, she’s a whole new single chick stuck in a committed girl’s body.

What does a bit of booze do to women? Well, it gives her the courage to speak the thoughts that are lurking in the deep recesses of her mind. And what else does it do? Well, booze gives a girl a great excuse to test the waters too!

Unless a girl is passed out cold, she knows what she’s doing. Date rape drugs or a booze black out would just wipe out her mind, not help her make out better with some random guy. Does that mean your girlfriend actually kissed a guy even though she knew what she was doing? *dramatic gasp* [Read: Date rape signs]

Yes, in all probability, she knew exactly what she was doing. And guess what, she had a great time too!

Do girls just kiss random guys?

Well, no. Most women don’t. If they ever kiss a guy, it’s because they’ve thought about it for a while. A drunk guy will kiss anything that looks like a sexy woman when he’s high, even if it’s a dog’s bum. Girls don’t do that. Almost always, they need to think about it and fantasize about it. What with them being such creative geniuses and all! [Read: Five excuses to kiss a friend]

If your girlfriend’s actually kissed another guy, it’s either after a long touchy feely conversation, or after a few days of having a crush on some guy. Logically speaking, if she was extremely high after a few drinks, she may have kissed a guy she liked first which may have made her feel a lot hornier, which in turn leads to her being tossed around from one guy to another to exchange bodily fluids now and then. But it all has to start somewhere. And that could have been avoided by your cute girlfriend if she really wanted to.

So why bloody confess?

So she kissed a guy even though she knew it was wrong, but why did she have to confess to you and make you feel worse? Well, she probably confessed because she’s guilty of succumbing to her sexual desires even though she’s in a happy relationship, or because she thought you’d find out anyways.

Should you forgive a girlfriend on a kissing spree?

Aw shucks, the whole thing sucks. But look, you would have done the same thing if you were in her place. If you were in her place, stroking lady parts of a sexy girl and sipping cheap wine at the same time while talking about sex, there’s a very good chance you would have done the exact thing. Maybe even more, who really knows for sure? [Read: Do you like a friend’s girlfriend?]

A few drinks can make a guy forget his driving skills, can it not make him overlook the fact that he has a girlfriend?

Your girlfriend experienced the same sexual liberty and enlightenment at that drunken moment when she kissed another guy. She may really love you and care about you, but she succumbed to her lust. Deal with it and move on. Really, everyone has a crush on someone else, even if they’re in a serious relationship. And sometimes, when a crush tries to get flirty especially when you’re all drunk, a bit of kissing and heavy petting is just inevitable. At least she didn’t have sex, right? It could always be worse.

What’s the right thing to do? Forgive her, forget the incident and move on. It could have happened to anyone.

So yeah, she had sex with another guy…

If your girlfriend walked up to you with her doe eyes and her sexy body and told you that she had sex last night with another guy, yes, only because she was drunk and didn’t know what she was doing, should you forgive her?

Well, this is a decision you have to make. It may have been a planned mistake or a spur of the moment thing. Do you really love her and care for her? If you do, then forgive her. There’s too much love in the air to break a relationship up over a mistake. Well, some other guy did run his mouth and hands all over your girl, but you know what, everyone makes a mistake now and then. And if your girlfriend really does regret the whole incident, it’s only because she loves you and feels bad for doing what she did. Otherwise, she would have just moved in with a group of guys and a few bottles of JD. [Read: How to resist temptation]

She loves you. And love always gives a second chance. Be magnanimous, and feel like a man. Forgive her and give the guy she slept with a black eye if you want to. Life is all good all over again.

She kisses guys every time she drinks!

Okay, so we’re dealing with a repeat offender here. What’s wrong with that horny woman?!

If all she does when she gets high is grabs the crotches of your friends or drags them to the dance floor to grind her ass on the front of their jeans, you’re in some serious relationship makeover zone. Your girlfriend’s the kind of girl who wants a steady boyfriend and a string of flings too. Or she thinks you’re an idiot who falls for her I-forget-when-I’m-drunk excuse all the time. [Read: Is it love or lust?]

Whatever the case may be, if you’re dealing with a girlfriend who changes into a hooker every time she drinks a few shots, you need to leave her and walk out of her life, especially if that’s not the lifestyle you choose to live. Your girlfriend may be way too immature or may just be overenthusiastic to experience all the sexual freedom of the ‘70s all over again. Unless you’re into swinging and swapping, end the relationship with her even if she feigns memory loss the next morning.

Break up with her immediately if you can’t handle a woman like her, and even if she promises to change forever, think twice. No one likes being called an idiot more than once. [Read: How to break up with a girl like a man]

The truth behind drunk girlfriends

People don’t change. They just suppress their feelings. You may catch your girlfriend kissing another guys a few times. And she may promise to stop all of that forever. But if she’s a repeat offender, can you really trust her again? [Read: Is she using you?]

Your girlfriend may just be a horny minx who wants it all and looks for drunken opportunities when you aren’t around. And who’s to say she won’t kiss more guys behind your back? Can you ever trust her if all she does is wander her hands into another man’s jeans each time she takes a sip of beer?

If you catch her a few times, end the relationship if you can’t accept her urges.

But on the other hand, if it’s something that happened by accident or in the heat of the moment and she feels really bad about it, give her another chance. Love is a lot about second chances, after all. [Read: Dealing with a complicated relationship]

Drink girlfriends are fun, but drunk girlfriends who kiss other guys never are, unless you’re in an open relationship. So now that you know what really goes on in a drunk girl’s mind, what are you going to do about it?

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  • Marc

    So your point is that you should forgive a girlfriend if she kisses another guy? I could never do that.

    However drunk a woman is, if she can’t handle her senses with dignity and ends up kissing another guy or having sex with him, I think it’s something no man can forgive. Seriously, how can anyone date a woman who’s kissed another man and even meet that man she kissed again? It would be so embarrassing and humiliating.

    I really think a drunk kiss should be the end of a relationship.

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  • Tom

    I agree with Marc on this. I’m a guy in his 20s and as liberal and enlightened as the next guy but if my woman is making out with some other dude… in all likelihood, it’s over then and there. People don’t have standards anymore. Stop settling for less than what you deserve and accepting being treated as the flavor of the month or someone’s option. It’s this kind of attitude towards accepting indiscretions that promotes STDs flying around. It also implies a lack of self-respect to let someone do that to you.

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  • Zac

    You can stuff yourself with ridiculous advices, like: “love always gives a second chance. Be magnanimous, and feel like a man. Forgive her and give the guy she slept with a black eye if you want to.”

    Why shoud I “give a black eye” to a random guy when my girlfriend is a person to blame for being a slut? When my gf came to me “with her doe eyes and her sexy body and told me that she had sex last night with another guy” I forgave her on condition that she would give me more sex and nasty sex which she denied me before. In the meantime i started looking for a new girlfriend still enjoying my soon-to-be ex.

  • Vic

    Wow really? Be a man and forgive her? More like be a doormat! Allow what hurts you the most to continue! If my girl would be in a situation where she might cheat if she would drink, I would hope that she would respect me enough and just pass on drinking. That’s at least what I would do! Bottom line ,I have been cheated on enough to know, a negative situation that has no negative repercussions will allow in more of the negative situation. Good luck with that bro!

  • Guy

    Kissing another guy? And forgiving her? Who the hell wrote this?
    No, with all the girls I was in relationships with, even though I was checking out other girls, the thought of me kissing them and betraying her would make me physically sick. So, no, I wouldn’t do it and she shouldn’t do it. And I don’t drink, so the drunken problem would not apply to me.

    If she confesses I would just pack up and leave, if I find out another way, well I just hope I would control myself.

  • rrr

    What is funny, is how author goes on about how kissing other guy even drunk is deliberate, intentional act, doesn’t happen by accident, because in the back of her mind girl wanted to do that all along, all alcohol did was lowering her inhibitions. Yet concludes it by:

    “What’s the right thing to do? Forgive her, forget the incident and move on. It could have happened to anyone.”

    Sorry, if you already established it was intentional, implying that it was one time mistake is self-contradictory. Indeed, it was already established it wasn’t a mistake at all. And please don’t inteject this hubbub how she’s in a “happy relationship” or “still loves you and cares about you”. If she didn’t know what situations she willingly put herself through, she is incredibly naive. And even if she was (unlikely past certain age, in fact I don’t think very many people of LEGAL age are that naive), that level of naiveness alone is the reason you shouldn’t be with her.

    And since she probably knew what was coming and went for it anyway, we can safely conclude she didn’t care about the bf anywhere as much as it was claimed. Or maybe we should say she “intermittently” stopped caring when it was convenient to do so?

  • Sean

    This advice is ridiculous. So you should forgive a girl for anything she does while drunk? How would this apply to men? Should women forgive men who get a little drunk and kiss another girl or sleep with a cougar he met at the bar? So basically what this post is saying is everything is forgivable if alcohol is involved. Well that sounds like a super healthy relationship. Way to go on this tremendous advice for weak minded individuals.

  • Simon

    Date-rape drugs just make girls just do the things they really want to and then not remember it? Are you just the worst kind of person in the world? That is so insulting that I frankly have no way of condensing the anger that comment sparked into words. It is just that sort of attitudes and arguments that allows the news all around America to pity two boys whom got convicted for raping a drunken girl at a party. Alcohol in high enough quantities and certainly rape-drugs do not just make you bold and forgetful; they prohibits rational thought, cloud judgments and makes you juridical (at least where I live, thank God) unable to have full control over your actions. To consume such amount of alcohol is of course a choice but I hardly think someone eats GHB just for laughs. To have sex with someone that is very intoxicated, or drugged for that matter, is to rape that person because they do not possess the needed mindfulness to say yes.

  • Simon

    Also, no one just sleeps with another person if they love their partner. It just doesn’t happen. A kiss I might understand in some circumstances, but all the way to sex? That is just wrong. It does not matter how much you like her: she clearly have not the same strong feelings for you and, depending on how long you have been together, she never will. And don’t blame the guy unless you know him. How could he know she had a partner?

  • elliott

    My gf kissed another guy when she was drunk. The next morning, he had a black eye and broken nose. I forgave her… But only once. If it happens again, the guy will have the same injury and she will be single. Plain and simple. You can’t let yourself be weak to a girl. No matter how much you love her, there’s always someone else who will treat you better.

  • Faye

    Well let me tell you this, this has happened to me with my boyfriend. We went out with a friend of mine, she bought the drinks, my boyfriend was so drunk he didn’t remember how we got home. I didn’t realize it when we got home though. I went upstairs for about 20 minutes to lay down, my head was hurting. The two of them down stairs, She went to the bathroom first i think and left the hall light on, He also went to the bathroom and came down stairs and still the light was on. Well I said to myself, I might as well go down there too. When I did she was on the table naked, and him eating her out and fingering her. I just stood there not believeing what was happening. He seen me and just started walking to the door while she ran upstairs to get dressed. He told me he didn’t want to fuck her just wanted a blowjob, but she wanted to fuck. He told me he was so glad to see me and he really didn’t want to do that, but he was in a black out drunk, and also very high. To this day I ask what happened and he just dose not remember. All he says it was like a dream. It is now 9 months ago that it has happened, she is no where around, and we are getting along so much better. This is how we should have been all along, she did open our eyes to what was wrong in our relationship. We are 55 and 57 and we have been together for 17 years. what would you have done, if it was you. please need answers to why he would hurt me back then.

  • antaris

    one cannot simply forgive a gf who kisses another dude even if drunk.

  • Brendon

    I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years.. I’m 19 years old. We started dating at a relatively young age, I know. I love her so much, I’ve known her my whole life.. We went to school together, played at recess together, and now we’re talking about getting a place together a little over a year from now.. Everything was going great, or at least I thought it was. She cheated on me 5 times in the past year. Something else happened within the past year.. She started drinking. Every time she kissed/ had sex with another guy (and one girl) she was completely hammered. She never drank around me, only when she would go to parties without telling me… I have no idea what happened in this past year.. We’re around the same age, she’s only two weeks older than I. But I have no parents to speak of, any other relatives I have are out of state. All I have is her.. But she’s betrayed my trust so many times.. One of those times, she was drunk with her friends, and she had just slept with a friend of mine that I knew since 7th grade. She called me from the party, I was at home, babysitting my twin little sisters, and she started… Well… Bragging about it… I mean, we had gotten in an argument earlier in the day, but it was because she was upset that I couldn’t take her out Friday night because I had to work late.. Look, guys/girls.. I’m a musician trying to make name for myself, But im also working at a steel mill, for the money.. I want more than.. Well, what I have. I want to give my girlfriend a better life. I want to be able to provide a good example for my sisters. They love and look up to my girlfriend, but they don’t know about what she’s done to me. She had never betrayed me sober. But when she gets drunk it’s like.. Idk.. She becomes a completely different person.. I love her, and I want to forgive her.. But I’m so hurt, it’s all I can think about sometimes.. I don’t know what I should do..

  • anonymous

    This just happened to me, she kissed another guy. I told her I forgive her, but now all I can think about is if this guy touched her and stuff too because she “can’t remember”. It sucks.

  • Anonymous

    What if she did not admit it, but she often drinks with other men? She spends long hours with men and in your presence, she hugged another man for five seconds with a full frontal body press. She’s also deceitful and has been caught lying about where she was.

  • Anon

    My girlfriend is 24 and very hot!. Since we have been together she has never cheated or kissed another guy, (as far as I know). BUT, she accepts that when she goes out with the girls to a bar or club and has a few drinks other men are going to touch her up. She said “that’s just what happens in clubs”. In that environment when everyone is drunk and horny she expects to feel a few hands on her. Just things like guys touching her bum or grinding up against her while dancing, lifting her up in the air, generally flirting and trying to chat her up.

    At first it made me jealous but now it actually turns me on! For me, its nice to know other guys think my girlfriend is sexy and they would love to touch / kiss / have sex with her. I would not want a gf that nobody finds attractive.

    I would forgive her if she kissed another guy. I would even forgive her if she had sex with another guy, weather it was a drunken mistake or a secret affair. As long as we are together I don’t mind who she has fun with. She doesn’t ‘belong’ to me.

    Just have good times together and don’t worry about what you ‘deserve’ or if you have been ‘cheated on’. It doesn’t mean you don’t care. It just means you are in control of your own feelings. Its unwise to rely on anyone to control YOUR emotions. No one thing should be your everything.

  • Rae

    I have recently just broke up with my partner, we were together for 7 months the first 4 months of our relationship was long distance we started talking on skype for 1 month until he flew over to see me for four days only, during those four days he asked me out officially then had to fly back for work I then didnt see him again until two months later our relationship was still continued on skype, during that time apart I had one drunken night out and kissed another guy. I told him as soon as it happened because it was a mistake and I know it was wrong I also new that you can not build a relationship built on dishonesty he forgave me I moved over to be with him and we were happy and in love the whole time. It wasn’t until a month ago that he has realised it is still hurting him so I have now flown back home. I believe that people deserve one chance but one chance only, and if you can work through as a couple then that is fine if the person who has taken you back can not move forward then obviously you have to respect that persons wishes and move on. I made a mistake and it was only one mistake, not at all did I ever think my ex was a door mat, I think it was very strong of him to be able to forgive and try to move forward. I still believe I am a good person and deserve an amazing partner, when people make mistakes it is the best time to reflect on your self and be better. Everyone is different, there is no right and wrong answer.

  • S

    I’m a girl and if my boyfriend did that I’d get so torn up. It’d make me feel that he doesn’t really care for me that much. Hell no. When a person’s drunk their INNER feelings come out which means that he wouldn’t really like me. I don’t know about you but if I really want an STD Id use a syringe. If I don’t mind my partner sexually acting with other people then I might as well be in a friends with benefits relationship.