Big vs. Small: Why Bigger Isn’t Always Better

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Lots of people wonder whether or not a bigger penis can satisfy the needs of everyone with a taste for the phallic. Find out what the real score is.

Does size really matter?

Of course it does, and anyone who says otherwise has a penis that’s malfunctioned more times than they care to count. A lot of men aren’t willing to admit that their size concerns them and that it’s one of the reasons why it’s difficult for them to satisfy the ladies.

We’re not just calling out the little guys here. Size can be an issue for every guy, not because they are lacking or have too much, but because they don’t know how to use their penis in accordance with its size.

Size matters because you have to prepare for any eventuality that requires you to adjust. You have to know how, where and when to move it. In order for you to know how to please someone using any-sized penis, you have to acknowledge that YOUR SIZE matters.

What size really matters?

The questions people keep asking is this: Is bigger always better? Many years ago, I would have answered, “Hell yeah!” But now that I’ve encountered my fair share of penises and heard dozens of stories from people I talked to, big penises aren’t really that big a deal.

Some guys with the most unassuming packages can actually get girls off more than the ones who have Ghana-level schlongs. The size that really matters – the one that every man and woman would find ideal – is the size of his brain.

Small or big, penis size won’t matter if a man doesn’t know how to make it work. It’s going to take a lot of experimenting, but the end result will more than make up for all the hard work you put in. [Read: What does she really think of your penis?]

The cons of a small penis

Some of these cons may be obvious, but let’s reiterate them one by one.

#1 Low self-esteem. This can be easily remedied when you accept your situation and maximize your other winning attributes, like your wit and humor. Treating your partner like a princess won’t hurt either.

#2 Can’t get it in. If it’s not going in, just let it go. Put something else in like a finger or a vibrator or maybe your tongue.

#3 Not visually pleasing. All you need is full disclosure and a way to distract your partner from looking at it.

#4 Less G-spot orgasms. That’s why there are clitoral orgasms. Fingers and toys can help with that as well. When there’s a will, there’s a way.

Pros of a small penis

Worry not, less endowed men! There’s always a silver lining to having a penis that’s smaller than average.

#1 Overcompensation. But in a good way. Your partner will definitely appreciate the things you do to make up for the lack of length and girth.

#2 Blowjobs are insane. The small size allows girls to go all out and do whatever the heck they want to with your penis. They love that they can comfortably fellate you without choking or gagging.

#3 Backdoor possibilities. Most women complain that anal hurts. They’re more likely to experiment with this if their partner’s penis is small enough to snuggle comfortably in their butthole. [Read: The first timer’s guide to anal sex]

#4 You can hone your oral pleasing skills. What else can you do? Most guys with small penises make more of an effort in learning to please a woman using their mouth and tongue. [Read: 8 tips and tricks to give her oral sex like a pro]

#5 Sex toys are now up for consideration. It’s easier to suggest the idea of toys when you have no other option. At least this time, the guys and girls won’t be shy about asking for it.

[Read: 9 issues on a man’s mind when having sex]

Cons of a big penis

Just because you’ve got a big package, doesn’t mean you won’t have to worry about some of these problems.

#1 Can’t get it in. And you thought only the little guys had this problem. Just because vaginas expand, it does not mean that there’s no limit. Women will say no, especially when trying to put it in already hurts.

#2 Internal injuries. A lot of situations with big penises can hurt women. They can bleed internally, develop infections, and even blood clots from bruising.

#3 No deep throating. The least you can hope for when you’re hung as a horse is a few licks on your penis. If a girl can’t take it all in, there’s no point in pushing her to her limit. [Read: 16 ways to get her to give you head]

#4 No anal. It’s difficult to even try when it already hurts to put it in a vagina. I can’t imagine the literal butthurt of trying to squeeze it in through a sphincter.

#5 Condoms. There’s never any available ones for big guys. They make them, but they sure don’t stock them.

#6 Complacency. Guys with big dicks think that their size is enough to please a woman. Many a woman will completely disagree.

Pros of having a big penis

Of course, along with the cons are also the pros of being hung like a horse.

#1 G-spot orgasms are more likely. If the guy knows how to elicit them, that is. Still, having a big penis will guarantee access to the big G.

#2 Big penises are turn-ons. There’s something primal and arousing about seeing a really thick, long and hard penis. Looking at it might just even give your partner an orgasm.

#3 Bragging rights. Having a big penis makes you more popular and attractive. Sorry, but it’s true.

#4 Self-esteem levels are off-the-charts. Big penis equals big ego. Men know that having a big penis gives them an advantage over their peers in terms of sex and… Um… Sex.

#5 Lots of options for positions. The fact is that you can work better around a bigger penis than a small one. There’s no risk of it slipping out, especially if it’s deep in there.

#6 Big penises are fetish-friendly. Fetishes utilize different body parts and toys. There’s not much you can do with a small penis, but a big one is the perfect prop for any and all fetishes.

Do you need to do something about your size?

Now that you know what’s good and what’s not, you can finally start to make some headway with your penile predicament.

Rather than pop bottles and bottles of supplements and splurging on the deadly penis pumps out there, or, God forbid, get a penis reduction surgery, you’re better off learning about how to please your woman the right way.

Now, you may be wondering if we’ve even considered the possibility of a micropenis and a ginormo-penis. Yes, I made that up.

Most men with micropenises are not built for sex. A vagina is deep. Even the shallowest one is still too deep for micropenises. The best case scenario for a micropenis is that it can be rubbed on a clitoris. And guys, that’s totally okay! Any type of orgasm is still a win for most women.

Ginormo-penises, on the other hand, sound like the best thing ever, but in reality, it’s more than most women can actually handle. It can be painful and can even cause serious injuries when not handled properly. If you’re gentle enough and have a huge stock of lube, you’re good to go.

So, skip the body modifications, and just settle for pleasing a woman as best as you can using your wit, your character, your fingers, and your tongue.

[Read: How much does size really matter when it comes to penises?]

Size is not an illusion, but its importance is a state of mind. Some people think that size is non-negotiable, but there are 7 billion people out there. There’s bound to be someone whose vagina or butt is perfect for your penis.

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5 thoughts on “Big vs. Small: Why Bigger Isn’t Always Better”

  1. Aaron says:

    Condoms aren’t just a problem for big guys. I’m not the longest guy in the world, but I’m seemingly thicker than a lot of typical guys. I’ve had flavoured oral condoms literally split down the sides because they just wouldn’t stretch under the force. It’s been absolute hell trying to find

  2. mandy moore says:

    I prefer a guy with a medium sized penis. Not too small, not too big, just right for me. I’ve delved into the world of penises and had my share of tiny and humongous. Tiny were alright, humongous is too much, the best size is medium. It’s small enough that it doesn’t try to rip my V off, big enough that it won’t slip and deep enough to make me cum. I just love it. So guys with medium sized penises are lucky because for me they have the best penis size for most women.

  3. sandy says:

    I agree with mandy, medium really takes the win here. i prefer guys with medium sized penises because it’s not too big, it’s not small too. You can still be proud of it. I do agree that guys that have bigger penises win at life though. I’ve met so many douchebags with huge penises that you won’t even imagine it could get that big. I met this black guy with the dick the size of my fore arm, my whole forearm. I can’t believe it. I thought it would feel really good inside me but I felt like i was giving birth and i really hate pain when I’m having sex. i’m not a sadist. I really don’t want big dicks anymore. I’m so over it. I get disgusted even and it’s just the way that it doesn’t fit me well. Medium takes the win for sure.

  4. This is Funny says:

    Very funny, Your’re either incredibly naive, or completely confused. What are men with bigger penises actually winning at? What exactly is “winning at life?” If life was a penis measuring contest, yes they would win. But, I think we both know life is a little more complex than that, whether willing to admit or not. You insult the female race. Please.

  5. Are we joking here? says:

    This article seems to have been written by a young girl, possibly no older than 16? Most certainly not a woman. Or perhaps written by someone who assumes the entire human race is as shallow as a sidewalk puddle. Lets look just a tad bit deeper, yes its hard, but lets just try it. Oh, I know, I know; we like to think we have things figured out and don’t we all just wish life were this simple. I’m assuming this article insults anyone with a brain, male or female.

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