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14 Small Ways to Make Your Girl Feel Special and Loved

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It’s not difficult to make a woman feel special. In fact, it’s usually the little things she appreciates most, because they let her know you truly care.

When couples have been together for a long time, they often grow apart. It happens to the best of us, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You can show your woman just how much you care by doing little things to make her happy and keep the relationship alive.

When you take the first step toward showing your lady how much she means to you, you start a chain reaction that knows no end. She is sure to be so overwhelmed with love and gratitude for the thoughtfulness you’ve shown that she’ll return the love and affection.

It’s easy to forget that a good relationship doesn’t just happen. It takes WORK! There is more happiness to be found in a relationship when both partners believe that giving is much better than receiving, and that’s what this feature is all about. [Read: A true story of giving and teenage unconditional love]

14 easy ways to make a girl feel special and loved

If you think the woman in your life is the most wonderful person you’ve ever known, and you know you’d do anything for her, show her how much she means to you by taking the time to do some of the little things on this list. Trust me when I say that your efforts won’t go unnoticed, and they will be well worth it!

#1 Don’t hesitate to tell her how great she looks or smells. Don’t just assume she knows you find her attractive. Tell her how great you think she looks or smells, especially if you know she’s taken extra pains to do so. Everyone loves to be complimented, and she likes to make you happy, so make it a point to let her know that you appreciate her efforts.

#2 Randomly leave love notes for her to find. Women love surprises, and finding a heart-felt love note unexpectedly is a fabulous way to surprise her. It doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out pouring of emotion. Just a sticky note with a few words of love scrawled across it and placed inside her coat pocket will do. When she finds it, she’ll brag to her friends and co-workers about what a wonderful partner she has. [Read: 50 really cute one liners to say to your girlfriend]

#3 Remember the names of her friends. One of your jobs in a relationship is to listen when your partner talks. It can be hard to do, especially when the things she talks about don’t involve you directly. However, remembering her friends’ names instead of referring to them in ways like “the one with the big nose” lets her know that you listen when she speaks.

#4 Pick up after yourself. If you’re in a relationship, the caveman mentality will not fly. She isn’t your maid, either. There are three scenarios here that may apply:

a. You live in your own place. If she visits, she’ll like that you keep it clean.

b. You live together. She’ll really appreciate you doing your share to keep the place clean.

c. She lives in her own place. If you spend time there, it is extremely important that you pick up after yourself and leave it the way you found it. This alone could make or break the relationship.

It’s simple, really. Clean up after yourself, no matter the situation, and she’ll really appreciate it. [Read: 13 typical boyfriend traits that really annoy girls]

#5 Share your feelings. I know it’s hard, especially if you’re a man. Men are not known for wearing their hearts on their sleeves. However, she’s not a mind reader, so if you really want to get on her good side, let her know how you’re feeling once in a while. She’ll like that you are comfortable enough with her to open up.

#6 Send her texts. If you don’t know how to text mush, learn. Texts are an easy way to surprise her randomly throughout the day with words of love and affection. The beauty of texting is that if you’re a little shy about expressing yourself, you can do so over text message and no one can hear you! You can have a private conversation with your beloved that no one else can overhear. Sending her a text out of the blue lets her know you think about her while you’re apart. [Read: 50 flirty text messages that are sure to make her smile]

#7 Don’t use guilt trips to get what you want. Pressuring your woman into doing something she doesn’t want to do never turns out well. She may eventually give in and do what you want, but she will resent you just a little bit because of it. It doesn’t matter how big or small the issue is, don’t guilt her into doing it.

#8 Let her control the TV remote for a change. You might not give two shakes about who’s sleeping with who on her favorite show, but she does. You’ll score points if you let her choose what to watch on TV once in a while. Actually sit down and watch with her, and you’ll score major points and maybe even get to pick the next movie you two see.

#9 Give her a massage with no strings attached. Whether she’s had a hard day or not, massaging her neck and shoulders is a great way to help her relax. You’re probably thinking, “Why would I need to be reminded to touch my partner?” but think about it. When was the last time you massaged her shoulders without suggesting it go further? Yeah, I thought so. Do it. She’ll appreciate the non-sexual gesture. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches that’ll make your woman feel much more loved]

#10 Get her something, too. If you’re running into the convenience store to grab a cup of coffee, get one for her too. Getting up to get something to drink or eat? Be sure to bring something back for her too. She may not have actively wanted anything, but she’ll love your thoughtfulness.

#11 Just listen. When a woman vents, she simply wants you to listen. She’s not looking for answers or advice. She just wants you to attempt to understand her point of view and to offer support. Just listen and be there for her as she figures things out for herself.

#12 Kiss her in public. You might not think PDAs are cool, but most women love it when others see that their significant other loves them. If you haven’t kissed your lady in public in quite some time, do it now. Stop wherever you are, take her face in your hands, look into her eyes, and plant one on her in front of everyone. Show her and the world how proud you are that she’s in your life. [Read: 36 sweetest things you can do with your girlfriend]

#13 Use the manners your mama taught you. Despite all the equality mumbo-jumbo going around these days, women still love the old-fashioned treatment. Open doors for her, pull out her chair, and let her order first at a restaurant. These little things show that you respect her.

#14 Go shopping with her. I’ll never understand why guys find it so hard to go shopping with their women, especially when they aren’t doing anything anyway. If you’re not busy and she wants to go to the mall, go with her. Help her pick out clothes that look great on her and offer to carry her bags. Just don’t complain while on the shopping trip – behave like you want to be there and you might be surprised with her appreciation later on.

[Read: 20 easy ways to make your girlfriend incredibly happy]

Making a woman feel special is a lot less complicated than you think. You don’t need to spend a ton of money or make any grand gestures. She appreciates the little things you do because they require an effort on your part, which shows you care.

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Shawn Lehrke
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5 thoughts on “14 Small Ways to Make Your Girl Feel Special and Loved”

  1. Dianna says:

    Making me feel special and loved does take special effort but not a big cost. Breakfast in bed, a foot rub, or massage all work for me as wonderful ways to show me love. I also used to really be touched by special little notes tucked in places that when I found them I would smile or blush and my love grew. Also telling me how much she loved me and fantastic I look works wonders for me. I really do think that making me feel special has been something that my man does really well at showing me. It really feels so good.

  2. Frances says:

    My boyfriend does all of the above and I can’t be happier. I’ll always remember this one time, he always leaves notes for me to find randomly (and I always love it, ofcourse) and I thought that it would be just his regular romantic self but I saw more notes on the floor. One note led to another, until finally, I looked up and saw a huge painting of my self and a whole wall which contained our pictures together. I was so overwhelmed of what he did. It wasn’t a special day or something but he just thought it would be great to do something nice for me on a random day. I love him so much.

  3. sandra says:

    You’d be surprised how many guys forget to pick up after themselves and how important this actually is, especially when they’re over at my place to begin with! I’m so sick of guys coming over and messing up my place in a matter of a night. Sure, I do my fair share of getting things messy, but I’m the last person in the world to leave bathrooms in a right state or even use someone else’s toothbrush just because I don’t have access to my own! Ugh, guys can be such disgusting pigs sometimes. I’ll be happy when a clean guy comes over to spend the night lol.

  4. one step says:

    I actually just be myself and my girl appreciates me for it. I don’t just do all of the above, I do more that I possibly can. She is the most special girl to me and the one I love the most. Why not make her feel that way every single day of her life? She doesn’t complain when I give her my best effort everyday, she appreciates me and I love her for it. She doesn’t have to do anything for me but in return she would always make her best effort to make me happy too. So you can say that we are not a one-sided relationship at all. We are a team and we’re not only in it because the sex is great, which is totally is and she just blows me away, literally! Well, maybe I made you guys jealous enough, goodbye ya’ll.

  5. breakup says:

    I wish my boyfriend would buy me flowers, ever. He brought me drug store flowers for our first two valentine’s dates, then he brought me flowers and hot chocolate a few months after our second v-day to make me feel better after a kinda-shitty week, then a few months after that he sent an edible arrangement while he was out of town, and now… nothing. I don’t want to just say “hey babe, I’d really like flowers sometime,” because I don’t really care about the flowers as much as I care about him independently deciding that he wants to do something stupid like that for me and following through on it, just because.

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