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How to Tell If a Woman is Attracted to You: 12 Clues You Can’t Miss

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We all behave differently when attracted to someone. If you don’t know how to tell if a woman is attracted to you, here are the biggest signs to look for.

It takes investigative skills if you want to know how to tell if a woman is attracted to you. Women are very fickle creatures, and I mean that in the kindest sense. Being one myself, I will tell you that if I could figure other women out, or even myself, my life would be so much less complex.

Built on emotions, empathy, and the need to help others, often, women are guided more by sheer reaction than anything else. Not always aware of how we feel ourselves, if you are wondering how to tell if a woman is attracted to you, she might just as easily be asking herself “am I attracted to this guy?”

The signs that a woman is attracted to you can come in many different forms. I hate to tell you that there is no magic flashing light or sign that says “I’m into you.” On the whole, it is about a woman showing you that she is excited to see you, being not annoyed by you, and confusingly when she is in a bad mood, taking it out on you.

That is what makes it all so perplexing. Sometimes the things that feel like she doesn’t like you are the very signals that tell you she does.

If you are having a hard time figuring out how she feels about you, then she is either trying to figure them out herself or sending mixed messages, but probably not on purpose. Maybe unsure about how to handle her feelings for you, or afraid of rejection, if you can’t tell on the surface, then sometimes you have to dig beneath to find out what is in her heart. [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you without really asking]

How to tell if a woman is attracted to you – 12 biggest clues that give it away

Since attraction is different from wanting to be in a relationship or even liking a person, it doesn’t mean that she wants to have a relationship with you. These are the pure signs that you make her heart pitter-patter and nothing more than that. The rest, if you want it, you might have to work for.

Here are 12 signs that she might be attracted to you.

#1 She is shy around you. A girl who is shy around you doesn’t want you to see who she really is. Often, shy people are unsure about how you will feel if you know the “real” them. They hide behind a cloak of shyness to shield themselves from getting rejected.

If a girl is acting standoffish or shy, then don’t mistake that as an “I am not attracted to you” thing. It just might mean that she gets all silly and ridiculous when you are around because she can’t wait to cosy with with you. [Read: How to tell if a shy girl likes you – All her secrets revealed]

#2 She is always dressed nicely. A girl who is attracted to you never wants you to see her sweat – not figuratively or literally. If you notice that even when she says she just came from the gym, she is dressed in nice workout clothes with no signs of sweat anywhere, then chances are good she doesn’t want you to see her looking anything but at her best. That typically means that she is attracted to you.

#3 She smiles a whole lot or flips her hair. Girls can’t help themselves – sometimes literally. A girl who is attracted to a guy will try her feminine wiles on him any way she can, even sometimes when she doesn’t know it.

Signs of flirting are touching her face, flipping or brushing her hair, smiling, making eye contact and sometimes finding ways to touch you. If you notice that she seems engaged when with you, then she is probably attracted to you. [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she actually likes you]

#4 She finds reasons to be near you. Like skin hunger, one of the tips for how to tell if a girl is attracted to you is that she finds ways just to be near you. Whether that means coming in too close to talk to you, or finding a seat next to you when there are ten others to choose from, she can’t help herself from wanting to be near you.

All she wants is to see you, to smell you, and to sense you. All those needs that she has to be nearby are signs that she is attracted to you.

#5 She has a nervous laugh when you talk to her. If you notice that she is laughing at all of your jokes, and even some things that you say that aren’t necessarily funny, then that probably means that you make her nervous.

When women are attracted to men, they often get nervous about the way that they are coming across, what they are saying, or how smart or stupid they sound when talking. Her laugh is likely a result of not knowing what to say or being worried about the messages that she is sending to you. [Read: 16 signs a woman is attracted to you and wants you to make a move]

#6 She frequently touches you even when it isn’t necessary. If she reaches out and touches you every chance she gets, she literally just wants to put her body next to yours. Brushing up against you, or brushing the hair from your eyes anytime that she reaches to you, is sending a flashing light saying she finds you attractive and wants to have more of you.

#7 She gets jealous of other girls and chases them away. When a girl is attracted to you, the only person she wants you to see is her. That makes the green-eyed monster in her come to the surface when she feels like her place is being challenged.

If she gets incensed when you talk about other girls, even when they are just friends or coworkers, then she is jealous of them because she wants to be the only one running through your mind and body. [Read: How to make a girl jealous and leave her begging for your attention]

#8 She is a poser, but only when with you. Maybe she is someone who isn’t about her appearance or the way she looks. But, suddenly, you notice she is throwing on the high heels to head to the sports bars or putting on tighter clothes than she ever has before. That might mean that she has begun to find you attractive.

Whether you have been friends for days or years, if she suddenly starts acting more girlie when she is with you, she is trying to use her femininity to get next to you.

#9 You find her looking at you when she doesn’t mean to. If you find her looking at you at odd times, then quite likely, that means that she is daydreaming about you. Sometimes when we are attracted to people, our eyes tend to find them and stare even when we don’t want them to or even know. If you catch her sneak peeks, then that is a sign that she finds you attractive. [Read: 15 secrets to be Mr. Irresistible and make any girl chase you]

#10 She fidgets a lot when you talk to her. Again, if you are attractive to her, then you are going to make her nervous. Worrying about whether her thigh looks fat in the position she is in, or if you are looking at her good side, she is probably not paying much attention to the things that are coming from your mouth. Her fidgeting means she is more concerned about what you are seeing when you look at her than what you have to say.

#11 She ignores you. Yep, like boys punching girls in the arm when on the playground, sometimes we girls can behave pretty immaturely. If she has suddenly started to ignore you, is failing to answer your texts, or taking forever to get back to you, don’t wrongly assume you have done something wrong.

Being vacant and ignoring a guy is sometimes a sign that we are playing hard to get or that we just don’t know how to handle our attraction. [Read: 20 failproof ways to manipulate any girl into liking you]

#12 She is playful with you. If she can’t seem to get enough of cutting you down, messing with you, or teasing you, don’t take offense. The playful side of girls can get turned on when you turn them on.

If she keeps messing with you or sending you playful jabs, they probably aren’t meant to embarrass you; they are meant to form a bond with you and to get you to return the playfulness. She is hoping it will lead to playground contact.

You can definitely learn how to tell if a woman is attracted to you. Liking you and being attracted to you are two very different things. Because women are more prone to relationships, handling chemistry, and wanting to have sex with a guy, is foreign.

Often, we don’t ourselves know why we act the way we do, what the strange attraction feelings are, or how to let someone know without the fear of rejection.

[Read: How to tell if a woman likes you – 21 subtle signs most men ignore]

In order to figure out how to tell if woman is attracted to you, sometimes you have to look at the way she acts and try not to spend so much time on listening to what she says.

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Julie Keating
Julie Keating

A writer isn’t born, but created out of experiences. No lack of subject matter, my life reads more like fiction than anything that could have been imagined...

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