Girls like to play hard to get and guys LOVE it. But sometimes there’s a point where the playing hard to get is just too much, and you really want her to give in and give you her number. I’m sure you’ve all been there before, and I want to help you. Being a girl, I know a few things about the female mind that might help you figure out how to get a girl’s number. We may be complex creatures, but there are certain things that we all have in common that can help in your quest to get our numbers.
Why do girls play hard to get?
There are so many different reasons why a girl would play hard to get. Maybe she is shy and isn’t exactly “trying” to do it. Or maybe she actually IS hard to get and isn’t interested in a relationship. Or it could be that maybe she just wants to see you work for her.
The truth is that guys LOVE the chase. To them, it’s like the best part of being with someone new. You love putting in the work and seeing what you can do to get her to finally cave in. That’s the real reason girls play hard to get, to make you more interested. [Read: How to get a girl’s attention wherever you are]
How to get a girl’s number
Honestly, it really isn’t that difficult to figure out how to get a girl’s number. If you’ve been lucky enough to find a gal who has caught your eye, you might need a way to get her number – especially if she’s a stubborn one. Even if girls seem like they don’t want to give their number to you, we definitely do – but we just want you to work a little harder for it.
In this list, I’ll show you how to get a girl’s number when you’ve exhausted all of the standard methods. She might refuse, but if you’re persistent – but not in a creepy way – she’ll eventually give in if you use these techniques. [Read: How to approach a girl you don’t know and impress her]
#1 Play it cool. Don’t be the kind of person that is creepy and giddy and weird about asking for her number. You can’t just walk up to her and demand that she give it to you, either. These are red flags in her mind.
Instead, just play it cool. Don’t look too excited or eager to even have her number. If you act aloof and like you don’t care much, she’ll actually try harder to get your attention – and that is when you can get her number.
#2 Don’t even ask for it. Again, this can seem really confusing, but it actually makes a lot of sense coming from the mind of a girl. If you’re being all flirty and whatnot with a girl at the bar, she expects that you’re going to ask for her number. That’s just how we are. [Read: How to ask a girl out if you’re a shy guy]
Here’s the kicker, if you don’t ask for our number, we’ll get bummed and even feel the need to prove that we’re worthy of your time. Then, it’ll prompt US to give you our number. The trick here is to be really flirty and show that you like her, and then just walk away.
#3 Give her a compliment. Girls love compliments. We love being told how pretty we are, and how our smile is captivating. However, these are not the compliments you actually want to give her.
Instead, compliment her hobbies and interests. You can even compliment her style. Just stay away from any classic compliments. The best compliment to give her that will heighten your chances of getting her number is to compliment her intelligence. [Read: 19 sweet compliments for girls that’ll make them go awww]
#4 Make her feel comfortable around you first. The truth is that there are just far too many creepers in the world. We really don’t give our number to people that we are uncomfortable around. That means if you really want her number, make her feel like she’s known you for a long time.
You can do this by just talking with her like you would an old friend. Talk about life, tell her a little bit about yourself, and maintain a comfortable distance. If you notice that she’s moving herself in closer to you, you’ve already sealed the deal. [Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]
#5 Avoid cheesy pick-up lines. Girls do not fall for silly pick-up lines anymore. We really don’t care about them and find them to be annoying. Plus, pick-up lines really make us feel like all you want to do is get laid, and we don’t want to give our numbers to people like that.
Don’t go around saying stuff like, “I lost my number, can I have yours?” It may get a little smile out of us, but it’s more than likely a pity smile. Just skip these and stick to being yourself. It works much better.
#6 Be charming. Charm is irresistible to us ladies. Being witty and charming is something that girls like because it shows your intelligence, and it makes us feel calm and comfortable around you.
Turn on the charm – just be careful not to sound like a player, because we’ll sniff that out a mile away and take off in the other direction. [Read: How to text a girl you like and make her want you]
#7 Make her WANT to give you her number. You should play hard to get. Don’t just let her be the one playing hard to get! Girls love feeling like we’re special, and we love being the one to “change you.”
If you start talking about how relationships are overrated, and you’re just looking to take a break and chill with someone interesting and different, she will be ALL over that. It’ll be refreshing for her, and she’ll be intrigued enough to give you her number.
#8 Leave the conversation right when it gets good, and ask for her number to continue it. This is a technique that honestly works almost all the time. All you have to do is get a great conversation going with her, and then look at your watch or phone and tell her you have to leave – but really want to continue the conversation some other time.
This is REALLY difficult to do, but the payout is worth it. After you tell her that, ask for her number and she’ll probably be more than willing to give it to you. Just make sure to follow up with that text, and don’t be seen in another bar or place where she might run into you right after. [Read: How to win a girl’s heart and impress her effortlessly]
#9 Just be honest and tell her that you want to get to know her better. Honesty is very hard to come by in a guy. Girls sometimes feel like all they get are propositions from guys trying to impress us, and we just don’t like it. We want someone real.
So sit down next to her, strike up a conversation, and if you honestly think she’s interesting, tell her. Then just say you want to get to know her a little better and ask if you could text or call her sometime. She’ll be happy you’re being so open and honest with her, and so she may oblige without any issues.
#10 Accept that she won’t give it to you. Now, don’t get me wrong here, it might sound like I’m trying to tell you to give up on her. But that’s not it at all. Girls don’t like when guys are just okay with not having their number.
So if she says, “no,” walk away. Just say, “okay,” and leave. If you’re patient, she’ll be coming after you to strike up a conversation and actually give you her number. This technique is risky, but it pays out big when you realize that she’s actually chasing after you. [Read: How to charm a girl and flatter her into liking you]
Hopefully by now you have some new ideas for how to get a girl’s number. Girls are really confusing creatures who take a lot of time and effort to get to know. If you follow these techniques and get lucky, she’ll give you her number!
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