Every guy wants to know how to charm a girl into liking him. But many fail in their pursuit because they don’t know the five things to know to charm a girl. Find out what those five things are, and how to use them to your advantage.
Want to know how to charm a girl? You may have seen some guy chatting with a girl, and the girl laughing in delight and calling him a charmer. Sounds nice, doesn’t it?
Being complimented as a charmer by a girl is one of the best compliments any guy can ever get from a girl. It’s not about looks, it’s not about your physique or your geek quotient.
It’s purely your wit and how amazing you are at charming a girl.
How to charm a girl
So what exactly is charming a girl? Charming a girl isn’t about flirting with her or touching her in places.
You’d know you’re charming a girl when you make her feel so happy she could kiss you right there!
It’s a pretty good thing, isn’t it? Being a charmer?
We’ll tell you the five really important things you need to know to charm your way into a girl’s heart. You can exchange a lot of looks and share an intense eye contact with a girl, but you can’t charm her with that.
To charm a girl, you need to create an impression beyond looks and your swagger.
If you want to know how to charm a girl, firstly, it all starts with a conversation. And it pretty much ends there.
Charming a girl is all about how you communicate with her and make her feel happy and glad. Use these five tips and you’ll get there even before you know it! [Read: How to get a girl to like you]
Converse about what she likes
You may think this is unnecessary. Most guys do. Most guys wonder why they have to talk only about something a girl likes. Why can’t girls talk about what a guy likes too?
Of course, girls can. Girls do take an active interest in trying to get to know what guys like to talk about too. But at times, especially when you’re trying to make an impression, it’s always better to be aware of what’s going on in a girl’s mind. Now talking about what a girl likes doesn’t really mean couture, diamonds or cosmetics. The bridge between girls and guys has narrowed down a lot these days. It’s really easy to have an interesting conversation without breaking into a sweat. Stay away from tech reviews, calculations and sports and you should be fine. [Read: How to talk to a girl to have the perfect first conversation]
Flatter her
When you talk to a girl, it’s easy to get her talking back to you. But that’s not enough. If you want to know how to charm a girl, you need to make her feel comfortable, and yet, let her know you’re interested in her.
Friends don’t charm each other’s pants off. So if you’re going to talk to her like a friend, she may think you’re a great guy. But she won’t think you’re a charming guy. To be seen as a charming guy in a girl’s eyes, she needs to see you as a dating potential. And to do that, you need to flatter her.
Don’t go saying yawn inspiring things like ‘you look beautiful’, ‘you’re so pretty’, or something along those lines. It’s too boring and so-not-genuine. Instead, be vaguely specific when you compliment her. She’s got a new hairdo? Say something like “You look really cute today. Is that a new hairstyle?” Cute is a nice word to use because men hardly ever use that word. So when you do use it, she knows how much you mean it. [Read: How to ask a girl out *for the shy guy*]
Don’t say “Is that a new hairstyle? Gosh, those hair extensions really do wonders to your eyes. It’s gorgeous.” That makes you sound like her hair stylist or her gay best friend.
By flattering her, you can do three things with one line. You can warm her up and make her smile. You can make her realize that you find her pretty. And thirdly, you can let her know that you find her attractive. All of which you need to do to make her look at you as a dating potential.
Be funny
Now that you’ve got her all smiling with a good flow of flattery and great conversations, it’s time to get into her personal space. All of us have personal spaces and we feel very uncomfortable when someone steps into it unless we’re comfortable with them. To make her feel comfortable, you’ve got to make her have a good time with you. Now we can’t really tell you how to make a girl laugh. But we can give you two pointers to help you. Don’t tell her any jokes. Be happy when you talk to her.
Sounds vague? Firstly, telling jokes straight out of a book is stupid. Instead, tell her about a funny *real or made-up* incident she can relate too. [Read: What to talk about when you meet a girl]
And be happy when you talk to her if you want to charm her. When you’re happy, the whole world smiles with you! If you’re smiling and feeling happy, she’d smile back and be happy too. But if you’re nervous, you’d definitely make her feel uncomfortable.
Flirt with her
Guys flirt with girls all the time, but sometimes, a girl can think a flirty guy is creepy. So don’t overdo your flirting skills and gross her out. One of the best ways to start flirting is by being casual. Ask her what she does on weekends or after work, ask her about her favorite hangouts and restaurants, and just about anything that can be remotely personal. She’d know you’re hitting on her because no one really asks all these questions otherwise.
And out of the blue, pop this question.
“Hey, this is personal, but do you have a boyfriend? If you do, my heart’s just going to shatter into a million pieces right now!” Corny, yes. But it always works its magic!
She will laugh, but this line gets your intentions across straight, and she’d know you’re interested in her. But don’t make things awkward by pausing after she answers the question. Go on talking about something else like that question meant nothing to you. Your intentions will be made clear, and yet, you wouldn’t make her feel uncomfortable around you. [Read: How to tell if a girl likes you]
Touch her
This is dangerous ground, but something you need to learn. You do want to know how to charm a girl, right? So touching her at the right time completes the five pointers you need to know about how to charm a girl. If you get this right, you’ve obviously made a great impression.
Now touching a girl is like playing with fire. Too quick a touch and you don’t feel the warmth. Too long a linger, and heck, you’ll burn! See how dangerous it can be?
You can send a tingle up her spine with a simple touch if you’ve warmed her up already. But remember this. Touch her only if there’s a reason to touch her, like touching her ear lobe when you’re complimenting her earrings, brushing her hair aside when there’s a gust of wind, or placing your hand on her back while crossing the street. A touch is very personal, so you really need to be careful and see how she reacts to your touches before you touch her again. [Read: How to flirt by touching]
If you want to know how to charm a girl and impress her, use these five steps the next time you meet a girl you like. And you’ll see how great an impression you can make in the very first conversation!
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This article does have a lot of good points, but I think there’s one thing that really matters if a guy has to charm a girl. Great looks!
I know for a fact that American girls like to only be charmed by good looking guy. In the article, it’s written that if a guy charms a girl well, she’d want to kiss him. But I don’t think a good looking girl would want to kiss an ugly guy.
So how can a guy charm a girl? Girls are shallow, and care only about looks. I’ve been there and no matter how good you are or how funny and smart you are, girls don’t care unless you have the money for their bling, and good looks.
I disagee with prior posters comments. Although a man having good looks helps, it’s NOT a requirement for geting a babe.
If you have enough other attrubutes, good looks aren’t necessary.
Some of the ugliest men on the planet have some of the hottest women.
Examples: Most rockstars are ugly. Some are extremely ugly. Yet they date very hot women (often several at a time).
Billy Bob Thornton is so ugly he makes my eyes bleed, yet he had Anjolena Joley craving his touch, and I’m sure he’s had plenty of other hotties.
I personally witnesed saw a little man (midget) get one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen. The little guy was not rich or famous. He is charming and brave. He charms her, and when her X (full size bully) gave her problems, the lil guy kicked his butt. Then lil guy comforted her.
I’m not much to look at, but I know two very beautiful women who love talking with me. One also loves when I touch her. I know I’m not imagining it because if I rub her back a little, soon she’s sitting so close she’s pressed up against me. Soon after that she rubs her body on mine like a friendly cat. Why do these girls like me? It’s not my looks. I do make a point of having good hygiene and being clean and smelling good. Beyond that, I make them feel good. I make them happy, whisper compliments occasionally, and generally I make them feel safe and happy.
These are great tips, and I would know cause I’m a woman ^_^
A tip I’d like to give men is that you CANNOT underestimate the power of SMELL. For many women, and men as well, someone’s smell has A LOT to do with getting a date or partner. If your clothes smell like your dog sleeps with you, your breath smells like you haven’t brushed in weeks, and/or your hair smells like your dirty socks…..you won’t get far no matter HOW charming you are!!!
Those commercials on t.v. about smell and perfume and deoderant really are right on the spot if you think about it. Women won’t mind getting close to you or letting you hold and hug her if you smell clean and healthy. If a man has average looks but smells GREAT….I’m all over him ^_^ But if there’s a sexy looking man that smells like he doesn’t wipe very well…the whole time I’m with him I want to tell him to get into the shower but can’t because it’s not polite XP
Also, don’t over do it with the axe and body spray either!!! It makes our eyes sting and throats burn. <3 Peace!
well i like this girl but i dont know what to do her older sister likes me a bit and i look average and smell clean. people say we are perfect for each other but i get nervous when thinking of making any move on her. also her friends like me as a friend plz help :]
that is true what peolpe have to say that girls go for the pretty girls if it was an unattractive boy trying to charm a girl the girl will get disgusted and avoid them it is like a waste of time girls are too judgeble no offense but its true girls wouldnt mind if a pretty boy likes them at all and tell her how they feel about them trust me i been there for example there is no girl that likes me thats because im unattractive there was this girl that i like that i know for so long and guess what she likes someone else lucky person that she likes and dosent even know it and there was this girl that like but then as it was middle school and she was shocked that like and told me that i wasnt attractive at all and then six years and last month i saw her with her boyfriend when i was at the bus and i saw them kissing and he was good looking for her to like for me it was just terrible which i learned from now love dosent really exist at all only for the attractive men or boys and for the ugly ones like me are pretty much screwed its like a burden
Here is the interesting thing about touch differences between men and women; women show/arouse interest by the small touches; touching your forearm or upper arm when talking, sometimes the knee etc. One thing that always works to at least demonstrate interest it to invade personal space. I don’t mean leaning in too close. I mean alpha male taking up space. If you’re at the bar your leaning with your arm in her arm space etc. It sounds creepy and does NOT work if you haven’t established some prior connection through talking but it immediately establishes your interest and ‘dominance’. Call me crazy if you want but try it and watch guys who are successful with women at bars. They are NOT leaning away.
Teasing a girl is also a good thing. I mean not when your introducing yourself but after you have gotten to know her. I know it works from experience.
I don’t know… Reading this stuff is easy. The implementation is a lot more challenging.
@Charley …. rockstars such as Billy Bob Thorton might be ugly as an elephant’s arsehole but they’re sticking rich so hot and attractive women are litteraly crawling over them 24/7 .
I found this article great, gave me some good ideas for when I pop to Paris to see this amazing girl I’ve tried hooking up with for 2 years … wish me luck
As a woman I will tell you what kind of man women really want:
- kind
- handsome
- honest
- faithful/loyal
- funny (at least to her)
- intelligent
- caring
- thoughtful
- stable
- easy to talk to
- genuine
These are the characteristics and things that women do NOT like:
- arrogant
- rude
- shallow
- cheater
- liar
- disrespectful
- violent
- selfish
- too lazy
- sleeps around a lot or things he can get any girl
- big egos are a vig turn off… Bragging isn’t cool
- dirty old men who try to hit on much younger women – trust me these younger women feel grossed out, creeped out, and embarrassed when you do that. They’ll either find you disgusting or scary, or they will just laugh behind your back. If they date you just for money then don’t ecpect them to really respect/love you and don’t expect them to be loyal in many cases.
Basically, just be a nice genuine guy! You don’t need cheesy pick up lines and you don’t need to show off. Those “how to pick up attractive women” websites and books are not gonna work & land you a supermodel unless you’re a young Brad Pitt. Girls just want a guy who has a good personality and is attractive to them personally.