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Secrets you should Hide from your Girl

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Confessing about your exes and the butt blushing incidents of your past may be a good thing, but is there anything you definitely should hide from your girl? There sure is…

Click here to read the introduction: Dirty Secrets from your Past

Secrets you should Hide from your Girl

Now this is the tricky part, but yes, you definitely have to avoid telling your woman everything. Perhaps, at times you should even completely shut them out of the conversation.

Intricate details have to be skipped at all costs. There’s no need to tell her about how you got laid in the back seat of your car, and how many seconds you took to rip each other’s clothes off. The more specific you get, the worse she feels.

And no, she’s definitely not interested in visualizing your sordid shagathons. So keep it simple and real. Tell her just how much she needs to know, without divulging all the secrets.

No relationship is built on the cleanest of foundations. There is bound to be dirt somewhere or the other, from the both of you. But if you think the dirt’s going to start stinking soon, let her know all about it so you can chuck that garbage out before it’s too late.

Drop all talks about your exes and one night stands, unless they’re interfering with your present. Other than that, if there are things coming in between the both of you, she should definitely know about it, but without the details.

When is it a good time?

The best time to tell it all is when the both of you are cruising on the good times. Never tell her these things unless they’re absolutely necessary while you’re rocking your boat of love on stormy seas.

If you’re being blackmailed or threatened by one of your past escapades, then make sure your partner hears it from you first, even if it’s during one of your worse times in love. Holding back these details can end your relationship.

Don’t pour your heart out to her just before you both leave for a vacation or a romantic getaway. Nor should you tell her such things just before her parents come down to your place to spend the weekend.

The perfect time to tell her such things is when she tells you a few deep secrets of hers. It can be taken a bit more lightly than on other times. She would at least understand that you were just waiting for an opportunity to mention it to her. If she doesn’t have anything to reveal, tell her at a time when you know it’ll just be the both of you there and nothing will disturb you after you’re done revealing your secrets. There’s nothing worse than getting your boss’s call just after talking to her, and you have to leave in a hurry. You can be sure you’d find her car’s tread marks by the time you get back home.

Tell her what you have to, when you know you can be there to sit with her, and take everything she has to tell you, out of sorrow or anger.

Make sure you don’t retaliate more than you have to at these times. Justifying yourself to a certain extent is fine, outright aggression isn’t.


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  • August 28, 2010 | Permalink |

    This article could not be more…true. And at the same time it shows that in a couple, lies by silence are still needed, showing that you cannot fully trust even someone you love (or date with). Because of one thing : you can’t understand each other well enough to stand some secrets. And it is something you have to cope with. You share your life with yourself first, the rest is bonus points.

  • Lex
    September 1, 2010 | Permalink |

    Definitely in agreement on the “don’t talk about your ex” theme. One thing I’d like to add though – don’t give the impression that you are avoiding talking about it, but just don’t go there. Resist the urge to tell stories if them and about what they might have done. It’s irrelevant and the last thing you want is for the current to feel that she doesn’t compare to the ex in your eyes. But especially also, don’t talk badly of your ex. It doesn’t help for you to speak badly of your ex. If the current gf asks, as she will at some point, better to say in a few words that they were a great person and that you have a lot of respect for them, but that you were simply too different, or lost interest in each other and decided to move on.

  • Tom
    January 31, 2011 | Permalink |

    Well, some women could not really take all the details of your past. So instead, why not look forward to the future and cherish your times together. Past is past and let them be buried somewhere else…

  • JULIUS OPWAKA
    June 28, 2012 | Permalink |

    Thanks to Lovepanky for this piece of advice though it’s not easy to gain the courage to confess your dirty past to your partner for fear of the outcome, but at least the truth about you must come out anyway. I must confess that I have been a victim of that and I did talk to her and the truth is that it was the most tough times of my life.

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