Are you getting mixed signals from a girl who has a boyfriend? Use these tips to find out if she really likes you or is just flirting with you for fun. By Ethan Kent
Love triangles are complicated affairs.
And it gets worse when a girl gives you attention, and you realize later that she has a boyfriend already!
So what do you do?
Do you continue to pursue her?
Or do you back away?
Is she really leading you on?
Firstly, you can’t always blame the girl and assume she’s leading you on and toying with you.
It’s easy to misinterpret a girl’s sweet and friendly nature and assume she’s hitting on you, when she’s just trying to be friendly!
But then again, there are times when a girl is clearly toying with you just for fun.
Does this girl with a boyfriend really like you?
There’s harmless casual flirting, and then there’s sizzling sexual attraction.
Are you misinterpreting the signs in this case?
Before you go pointing fingers at this girl and call her a cocktease, make sure it’s not just you making big assumptions here. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]
If she outrageously flirts with you, gets touchy feely and tells you that she wants to go out with you, and finally introduces you to her boyfriend, and then starts flirting again when he isn’t around, that’s a pretty big sign she’s up to something naughty!
And if she isn’t doing that, well, you need to take it slow and read her mind better.
11 signs a girl with a boyfriend likes you
How can you tell if this girl with a boyfriend really likes you? Well, here are a few signs that could point you in the right direction.
#1 She’s really excited to see you. She waves out wide and grins widely when she sees you across the hallway. And you’re not even her good friend!
#2 Late night chatter. She calls you up late at night, and talks forever. She gets intimate or flirty while talking over the phone or while texting you. [Read: 15 ways to text flirt with a girl and make her desire you]
#3 She dates you. She asks you out, or tells you to take her out sometime. She loves hanging out with you when no one’s around.
#4 She wants your attention. She stares at you discreetly from the corner of her eyes even when her boyfriend’s around. Sometimes, she even gives you a wink or smiles at you discreetly, just to get your attention.
#5 Her boyfriend. Her guy doesn’t know you well, and he has no idea that both of you are so friendly and close.
#6 She whines. She bitches about her boyfriend to you, especially while talking late at night. Sometimes, she may even compare her boyfriend to you and say you’re a much better guy!
#7 She’s attached to you. She’s very attached to you emotionally. She needs you and you’re her support system. [Read: 18 signs both of you are having an emotional affair]
#8 She misses you. She tells you she misses you when both of you haven’t been in touch with each other for a while.
#9 She flirts with you. She flirts with you, and sometimes, she even gets physical.
#10 You catch her staring at you. You’re busy doing something and you look up, and see her staring at you with a big grin on her face.
#11 She’s got a split personality. She’s very touchy feely and flirty around you when no one’s around. But when she’s with her boyfriend, she’s more reserved and shy and doesn’t talk much. [Read: What you need to do when a friend's girlfriend starts giving you her attention]
6 reasons why a girl may flirt with you even if she has a guy
Girls and guys are pretty similar when it comes to attraction. And both sexes like attention. But while a guy with a girlfriend tries to woo a girl, he does it because he wants to win her fancy or he’s sexually attracted to her.
But a girl with a boyfriend could have many other reasons to get your attention. Here are 6 big reasons why a girl who’s dating a guy may want to catch your fancy.
#1 Just for fun! She likes your attention. Period. She wants your attention and she wants you to like her because she likes it.
#2 She’s hot stuff. A girl with a boyfriend may want your attention just to convince herself that she’s still sexy and all that, and hot enough to win your attention. She wants an ego boost, and she’s using you to get it! [Read: Is she just using you? - 10 signs to watch out for!]
#3 She’s unhappy. Her boyfriend may not be giving her enough attention, or he may be a bad boyfriend who doesn’t treat her right. She’s unhappy, and being with you makes her happy.
#4 She wants more. Some girls are just annoying and a pain in the backside. They may have a perfect relationship with their own boyfriend, but they still want more. Perhaps, her boyfriend’s attention isn’t enough for her. And now she wants yours too.
#5 She’s genuinely attracted to you. The girl you like may really like you, and she may love your attention too. But she’s dating a guy and she doesn’t want to lose him because she does think he’s a great guy too. She’s got a crush on you and she doesn’t plan on doing anything about it.
#6 Moral dilemma. Every now and then, you may come across this scenario where the girl with a boyfriend genuinely likes you and wants to date you. She may be unhappy in her own relationship, and she may truly believe that she’d be happier in your arms. But she’s too nice to break up with her own guy, because she doesn’t want to break his heart. [Read: 9 straight steps to win a girl's heart and impress her effortlessly!]
Will she break up with her guy for you?
If you want it straight from the horse’s mouth, almost always, unless you play it slow and easy, this girl won’t leave her boyfriend for you. She’ll use you, get a high, realize she still likes her own boyfriend, and she’ll leave you in the dirt.
Without being too judgmental here, I can say that a few girls are pretty fickle now and then. If her boyfriend doesn’t give her attention, and another guy comes along and gives her his attention, she’ll fall for him or start liking him. And she may even lead the new guy on, until she realizes she’s actually falling for him. And then, she’ll back away immediately and give the new guy a cold shoulder! [Read: The reason why girls are so fickle in love]
Should you confront her or ask her out?
If you find yourself falling in love with a girl who’s dating another guy already, don’t just ask her to choose between you and her own boyfriend. You’d just end up losing her in a flash.
A girl may flirt with another guy or even behave like she’s falling head over heels in love with him, but if the guy ever asks her out or asks her to acknowledge the flirting, the girl may back away instantly! *unless she’s contemplating about leaving her boyfriend* [Read: How to make a girl fall for you without asking her out]
Some girls can be selfish and unintentionally mean too. She knows a guy is falling for her, and she has a boyfriend already. And yet, she wouldn’t care, she likes the guy’s attention and doesn’t really try to back away or prevent him from falling for her. Instead, she’d just revel in her ignorance!
And even if you do confront her or ask her to leave her boyfriend, she may just walk out of your life and not care about you. And you’d be the only one left with a broken heart.
If you want to play it safe, when a girl with a boyfriend starts flirting with you or tells you she likes you, just flirt with her, take it easy, and avoid falling in love with her. She’s using you, so you use her back! *well, at least until you’re sure she does love you and is willing to leave the guy for you* [Read: How to get a girl wet and horny just by sitting next to her]
What should you do when a girl with a boyfriend starts liking you?
The most important tip you have to keep in mind when you fall for a girl with a boyfriend is to avoid getting attached to her.
If you’re single and just looking for a nice time, you can flirt back and encourage her. She may even have an affair with you while she clears the confusions in her head. [Read: 10 ways to flirt with a girl and increase the sexual tension]
But if you’re looking for a serious relationship, back away from her because there’s a bigger chance that you’ll get hurt. Always be on your guard and stay cautious when you’re dealing with a girl who’s already taken. And don’t fall for her unless she leaves her guy.
You need to keep in mind that many pretty girls have a wonderful way of mysteriously disappearing from your sight when their boyfriend starts giving them attention again!
Should you steal a girl with a boyfriend?
A girl may leave a guy if she’s in an unhappy relationship with him. And that’s completely acceptable. If you’re getting attracted to a girl in this situation, be her knight in shining armor and woo her. It may even turn into a beautiful romance. [Read: 18 foolproof ways to make a girl fall in love with you]
You can try to steal a girl from her boyfriend if you genuinely think she’s a nice girl who’s not using you for an ego boost. After all, sometimes all of us get stuck in relationships that are less-than-satisfying. [Read: The subtle art of successfully stealing a girl from her boyfriend]
But on the other hand, there are a few girls are in perfectly happy relationships with perfectly good boyfriends, and they still crave for attention from other guys. And that’s the kind of girl you need to stay away from. You could woo this kind of a girl for several months, and out of the blue, she may just start giving her attention to some other guy and ignoring you.
So if this attention seeking chick is a perfectly happy girl in a happy relationship who’s just using you, swallow your moral conscience and use her back. Or walk away!
If a girl with a boyfriend likes you or starts flirting with you, don’t give her all your attention and fall madly in love with her. Weigh your options, decode the kind of girl she is, and do the right thing even if it means just using her in return!
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