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How to Tell a Girl You Love Her Without Losing Her

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Scared she’ll decline you when you tell her you love her? Use these tips on how to tell a girl you love her to make sure you get the right response. By Brian Carl

Ever felt like you could float in the clouds just thinking of a special girl?

Do you dream of spending time with her and going out with her?

Do you think you’re in love?

Well, big chances are, you probably are.

[Read: How to make a girl who has a boyfriend like you]

Falling in love feels great, whether you’re a guy or a girl.

It’s one of those moments when everything around you gets beautiful and cheerful.

But at the same time, losing in love or getting declined by a girl is just as intense, only painful.

How to tell a girl you love her

So do you love a girl, but don’t know how to tell her that you love her?

There are two circumstances here.

Firstly, you love her but you’re not dating her.

In the second circumstance, both of you are dating each other but you want to let her know that you’re really serious about the relationship.

If you’re already dating a girl and are just confused about timing those three special words, don’t worry one bit. Just use the lines mentioned at the end of this feature and you’ll do just fine!

How to tell a girl you love her when you’re not dating her

As scary as proposing your love to a girl may seem, it’s actually the easy part. Getting the girl to like you and fall for you is actually the hard part. [Read: Tips to start dating a friend]

Contrary to what most of your friends may say, if you like a girl, don’t just ask her out. You’re leaving your hopes to fate and chance. And it’s the wrong way to make a move. After all, why leave your heart out on the streets waiting for sheer luck to cross your path when there are better ways to go about it?

If you want to tell a girl that you love her, make sure you know she already loves you and will probably answer in your favor.

Use these tips to let yourself into her heart first, and then make your move.

#1 Be her special friend

You’re probably her friend already and are just confused about letting her know your real intentions. So your first move should be to warm yourself into a special place in her heart. Be a special friend to her, help her out when she needs a hand, spend time with her when you can, and have conversations with her, both intellectual and fun. [Read: How to think like a woman and get the girl you like]

Don’t behave like a bad boy or a guy who throws his weight around. It works well with girls you don’t know, not with friends. If you ignore a girl who’s already a friend, she’ll think you’re a jerk or she’ll probably drift away from you. Your only concern should be to avoid becoming a best friend instead of a lover. [Read: Are you more than friends or just friends?]

#2 Talk late into the night

If you’re wondering how to tell a girl you like her, talking late into the night with her can work wonders for your budding relationship. Find reasons and excuses to talk to her when she’s already in bed. The relaxed pace of a long conversation late into the night almost always leads to something more personal and intimate even if both of you are just talking funny at the start of the conversation.

If that isn’t happening already, add a few personal questions in those conversations that’ll steer the conversation into relationships. Topics like relationships, personal stories, and what she likes in a guy will create the perfect setting to make your intentions clear. [Read: How to talk to a girl and make her like you]

#3 Take her out on dates

You’re just a friend now, but if you’ve been looking for ways to spend time with her and speak to her often, you’ll start to see that you’d already occupy a special place in her heart.

If you feel like she enjoys your company, it’s time you take the next step. Tell her about a great place you’ve tried or a new movie that’s in town and ask her to accompany you. You’re still a friend, so you can urge her to accompany you even if she’s thinking twice!

Once you’re out with her, treat her like a date and behave like how you would on a date. [Read: How to be a great date every time]

But now that she likes your company, avoid being a pushover or being too easily available for her. She likes spending time with you already, so you need to make her miss you when you aren’t around so she’s eager to spend time with you.

#4 Flirt with her subtly

You’re speaking to her late into the night, you’re an important part of her life and you’re going out on dates with her. If you’ve got these first few steps right, you’re already there in the right zone. But now you have to make it rather obvious that you’re attracted to her. [Read: Easy tips to compliment a girl you like]

Look for opportunities to flirt with her. If you’re worried about making an obvious move, start in a subtle manner by text flirting. It’s safe and even if she thinks you’re acting weird, you can always make it seem like a joke. [Read: How to start text flirting with a friend]

#5 Watch for reciprocation

You’re practically dating already! But are you the only one making all the calls and planning all the dates or is she asking you out too? Sometimes, the girl you like may just be coy and shy. Or at other times, she may just be too accommodating to turn you down. Find out if she’s interested in you too.

If she isn’t calling you or asking you out as often as you are, ignore her for a couple of days or cut down on the number of calls you make. By ignoring her for a few days, she’ll inevitably start thinking of you or realizing just how much she’s addicted to you. [Read: How to get a girl to kiss you by arousing her]

#6 Make her like you

Now you’ve done all that you can do to warm her up, and set the field to tell her that you love her. But are you certain she loves you already? Use these tips on how to make a girl like you without asking her out to make sure she’s already in love with you.

And once you’re certain she loves being with you, tell her what’s in your mind on a special date with a few lines similar to the one mentioned below.

“You know there’s something I’ve come to realize over the last few weeks that we’ve been spending time together. I don’t know if this is the right way to say it… but I really enjoy spending time with you… I think I’m falling for you, more with each passing day… and more than that, I really think I’m in love with you…”ย


Understanding how to tell a girl you love her is easy, but knowing the answer before you even pop the questions is not. Take your time, plan it right, and you’ll never go wrong! Use these different ways to tell someone you love them to make your next move.

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15 thoughts on “How to Tell a Girl You Love Her Without Losing Her”

  1. Brittany Martinez says:

    iSure Hope This Works D:

  2. Jason Rainer says:

    Hmm I’m talking to this girl I’ve liked for around 3 months now, I’ve only started talking to her around a week ago, I’m not sure what to say to her, either to come out with it and tell her i like her, or to ask her if she enjoys my company. I’m not sure if she likes me either…
    what should I do?

  3. Friend says:

    I’m a woman and the “avoid being to available” advice is a mistake. When a guy acts like that, I either think he doesn’t like me or is playing games and then I want to hang out with someone else. This is especially a bad idea if the girl you like is really hot. Because that means there are a lot of other guys waiting in line. When a guy I like plays hard to get, no matter how much I like him, it makes me mad and then I make plans with someone else, even if the new guy isn’t someone I want to date. It’s just how women act. Men shouldn’t give men advice on women, ever.

  4. oslo says:

    well…I like this girl but the I feel like I’m just being too friendly and she is slowly slipping . what do i do about that one?

  5. Guy says:

    If you are making all the effort and only talking about the person you are interested in when you are talking to them, then she or he obviously doesn’t want to talk about you, this means they don’t care or they are afraid of letting you know they care, work out which one it is and take appropriate action.

  6. omar says:

    i am in love with a girl in my school. i know she does not love me. what shall i do

  7. Mayyours says:

    There is this New girl who just moved in to stay with us,but I think am In love love with her and I don’t even known if she is dating or not.How do I go about it?

  8. markbigbang7 says:

    Well i love this girl we have been out together but not alone ( with friends ) we text a lot and i always try to tell her things like you are soo pretty and i send her these sometimes ????????
    i don’t really think she loves me ,she do but like a friend and we met 2 weeks ago… What should i do to show her my love without telling it ?!

  9. Doug says:

    What if she just got married and the marriage isnt healthy…..lol ugh, I hate life…

  10. Trey says:

    If you have the thought that your able to find someone else. When the man does this. Youve already failed at being faithful, loyal, honest, trustworthy, and worth the long term relationship. If you choose to make a date with some one else than you have failed and the man has been waisting his time.

  11. Dog says:

    I have the exact situation, but for me she moved to another city before I was able to say anything. I hate my life

  12. Michael Goodfellow says:

    I recently reconnected with someone I dated about four years ago. I fell hard for her then and all of the feelings have come back in droves. I would give anything to be with her but am just so scared to let her know how I feel. The last time I did that, she got mad at me and it was part of the reason why she broke it off. She was the one who contacted me first this time but I don’t want to lose her again.

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