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Man Crush: 20 Signs You Have One and Don’t Need to Be Embarrassed

Man Crush

A man crush is slightly different from a bromance. The key difference is that it is a one-sided feeling. Do you have one? Check for these 20 signs.

What is a man crush? It is when another man has a crush on another man. The difference from a bromance is that in a bromance, there are two infatuated members. In a man crush, there is only one infatuated member. So, does having a crush on another man make you gay?

Probably not. There are always people in our lives that we meet that make our lives much more fun. They just get us and are super fun to be around. After all, a crush isn’t always about having romantic feelings. Sometimes it just means you can’t get enough of being around someone.

20 signs you have a man crush

How do you know you have a man crush? When you are crushing on someone, it means they bring excitement in you that you don’t normally feel with other people.

If you get tingly feelings inside when one of your friends comes around, that is just one sign you have a man crush. However, there are many additional signs you might be crushing.

#1 You get all giddy when they are around. Sure, guys night is fun, and you look forward to it all week. When you have a man crush, then you are just excited about hanging out with your one “bestie.” It is specific and one step up.

When you see them, see their text message, or just think about them, it gives you butterflies in your stomach. [Read: Queer platonic relationship: 25 signs you may already be in one]

#2 You worry if they approve of what you wear. Like fitting in, you want your man crush to think you are the trendiest and coolest guy around. If you change your outfit about ten times and fidget with it while you wait for him to arrive, then there is a good chance you have a man crush. [Read: Who’s your main squish? 15 signs you’re squishing on someone]

#3 You text them, like all the time. If you can’t seem to find enough reasons in the world to text and use every one of them, then you probably have a man crush. Sending images to make them laugh, funny antidotes, and just “Heys” all day long, if you can’t put your phone away, or worse yet, wait to see the *…* that means they are answering you back, you’re in deep.

#4 You stalk their social media. With a man crush, you want to make sure they like you as much as you do them. Stalking their social media to make sure that they aren’t hanging out with someone else and leaving you in the lurch is just a part of what you will do to spy on them.

#5 You get jealous when they talk to other guys. If you do uncover a third wheel, then it doesn’t make you happy. Worse yet, if they do something super cool and you find out that you weren’t invited, that is grounds for being pissed. It is okay if they have superficial conversations with other “friends,” but the serious talk should be left for the two of you.

#6 You try to look and talk like them. When you have a man crush, you want to look just like them, dress just like them, and talk just like them. Why? Cause there is nothing cooler than your “it” guy. If you can’t date him, you might as well be him. [Read: How to be a good friend]

#7 You dress up whenever you know they are coming over. If they come over to hang out and play video games, and you shower and put on some cologne, that might just be a sign that you have a man crush. Trying to look nice for a guy’s night isn’t a thing when it is just guys.

#8 You clean your apartment when they are coming by. Again, if you go above and beyond guy duty to impress another man, that might just scream man crush. Guys are supposed to be disgusting and not give a shit. If you typically are one of them but find yourself scurrying around to pick things up, you are crushing it.

#9 You care what they think of you. Another cute thing guys do to one another is call them out, razz them, and make fun of one another. If your man crush says something to you and you get all butt hurt, then you might consider that you have some pretty special feelings for someone.

#10 You find yourself suddenly rooting for their sports teams. It is your duty as a man to have some loyalty to a team. Whether it is your college sports team or your hometown, if you change your team loyalty due to what another man likes, that spells MAN CRUSH.

#11 You find ways to see them, like all the time. Talking on the phone isn’t enough? Stalking is a huge sign of a man crush. Constantly interjecting yourself into their good time, inviting yourself along on every excursion, or just showing up at their house or place of business to see if they want to “hang out,” are all signs that you have a man crush.

#12 You worry a little about your feelings for them. The fact that you are even reading this means you either suspect you have a man crush or you fear someone has one on you. The fact that you acknowledge that something is a little “off,” says it all, man crush. [Read: Does liking a man mean I’m gay?]

#13 You prefer being with them over your super hot girlfriend or even not so hot. If you choose your man crush over your girl, even when your girl gets super pissed, then they mean more to you than the lady in your life. That means two things, either you should start looking for a new main squeeze or you have a man crush.

#14 You find yourself liking everything they do. If even the way that they puke after they had too much to drink is the best thing in the world, then you might be dealing with a man crush.

Guys aren’t supposed to like or approve everything other guys do, even if as a friend you pretend to. If you really do, then you might have a bit of a crush.

#15 You use all their new phrases as if it’s a “thing.” Not only do you start to talk like your crush, you two have sayings that only you know, understand, and use. If you have your own “it phrases” then I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that you probably have a man crush, the good news is that it might be returned.

#16 You get butt hurt when they want to go out with their girlfriend. If you can’t let them have their own time away, especially with the girl they like or are dating, then that spells jealousy. Where does jealousy come from? Well, your man crush, of course.

#17 You hate a third wheel… typically because you don’t know that you are it. Hey Dupree, wake up, you might think your man wants you there all the time but either he doesn’t have the balls to tell you he doesn’t, or his girlfriend is too polite to tell you she thinks it is weird and you need to step off. [Read: 12 surprising and uplifting perks of being the third wheel]

#18 The smell of them turns you on. Okay, I get it, we all get a little turned on when you walk into an Abercrombie store, but they are designed that way. If the mere smell of a guy makes your privates tingle, that isn’t normal and might just spell C-R-U-S-H.

#19 You not only notice but compliment their new haircut. This one is a no-brainer. Even IF you notice a guy got a new haircut, that is something you keep to yourself. And, even if you think it looks nice, again, you keep it to yourself. [Read: The 60 bromandments: Bro code rules every guy should live by]

#20 You get every round. If you get every round when you are out with a guy it says one of two things. Either you are a tool *’cause you are being used*, or you try to impress them by throwing cash around. If it is the latter, that is a sign you just might be in the midst of a man crush.

[Read: Platonic crush: What this means and how to proceed platonically]

The good news is that we all have crushes on people of the same sex. Don’t be embarrassed; we have all been in your shoes before, so stop freaking about it.

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Julie Keating
Julie Keating

A writer isn’t born, but created out of experiences. No lack of subject matter, my life reads more like fiction than anything that could have been imagined...

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