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How to Text a Girl You Like and Make Her Want You

How To Text A Girl You Like And Make Her Want You

It’s easy to make a girl like you if you understand these 15 tips on how to text a girl you like and text her the right way at the right time.

Ever wondered what you have to say to a girl to make her like you?

When it comes to impressing a girl, timing is everything.

Unlike guys, girls rely a lot on emotions and feelings to fall for a guy.

Guys fall for a girl at first glance as long as they find her attractive.

But for a girl to like a guy, her feelings definitely play a bigger part than her eyes.

[Read: How to make a girl like you without asking her out]

Sometimes, it’s easier to text a girl and get her to fall for you rather than wooing her on dates and impressing her with gifts.

As long as you create the perfect balance of emotional connection and infatuation, you can make any girl like you back with just a few well timed texts over a few days.

How to text a girl you like

If you want to learn the right way to text a girl, just use these 15 tips on how to text a girl you like and you’ll see how easy it really can be.

But remember to take your time and make your move only after watching her reciprocation.

#1 Night time is the best time to text a girl. If the girl you like is comfortable with texting late into the night, you’ve already got the edge you need. Start by texting her late in the evening and look for ways to keep the conversation going when she slips into her bed. There’s something so sexy and romantic about a quiet night that’ll only work in your favor. [Read: How to flirt with a girl by behaving like a friend]

#2 The right time to text a girl. Avoid texting her or calling her up when you know she’s occupied or busy with her friends. She needs to feel excited to read your text, not get bugged because you’re constantly interfering with her happy time.

#3 Pick a time to text her. Don’t text a girl you like all day long. If you know her routine, text her only when you know she’s free to text you back. Within a couple of days of texting her, you’d see that she’s warmer and indulges in longer text conversations at particular times of the day.

Once you figure the happy time to text this girl, text her every day during the same time. It’ll make her expect your texts and her anticipation for your texts everyday will make her like you more.

#4 First text tip. If you want to know how to text a girl for the first time, don’t think too much of it. Just keep it casual and simple. “Hey! Just thought I’d say hi!” is simple and just one of several ways to initiate a first text with a girl you like.

There’s never a wrong way to text a girl. It’s what you do after the first text that always matters. [Read: What do girls look for in a guy to fall for him?]

#5 Always start with a very short text. If you’ve been texting each other back and forth for a few days, you really don’t need to look for reasons to text her again, nor do you need long elaborate introductions.

Start with a warm and simple line that feels good to read. It leaves the conversation open and you’ll be able to know if she’s free to chat too. “Hi”, “Hey, what are you doing?” or even just a smiley face should work perfectly to start a conversation and bring a smile on her face. If she’s busy, she’ll tell you or respond when she has the time. There’s no way you can go wrong with that.

#6 Keep it short and simple. Try to keep the texts short if you want to keep the conversation going. Your focus is to get her to keep all her attention on you when she’s texting. And to do that, you need to keep the beeping texts going back and forth as soon as you can. Long texts can leave her bored when she’s waiting for you to respond. Or worse, she may occupy herself with the television or do something else that’ll leave her distracted while waiting for your text.

#7 Be interested in her and her daily life. Ask her about her day. Be interested in her life and let her know that you’re always interested in knowing more about her while texting each other. It’ll help her open up.

#8 Give her a pet name. Pet names are very personal and unique. If you want the relationship to take the next step, you need to create a personal bond between both of you. And the best way to do just that is by giving her a pet name. Personalize the relationship both of you share and it’ll bring both of you closer. [Read: How to choose a perfect and unique nickname]

#9 Don’t flirt all the time. Even if she knows you like her already, avoid flirting with her on every single instance. It’ll just bore her if all you do is flirt with her. Text about everyday activities and let her see that you’re interested in knowing more about her and her life.

#10 But flirt when you get the opportunity. Every now and then, you’d find the perfect opportunity to flirt with her. Wait for that moment and use it to tease her or pull her leg, especially when she makes a compliment about herself or talks about how good she is at doing something. A good excuse to challenge and flirt with her will always work in your favor.

#11 Get naughty now and then. But always be vague unless you already know what she wants to hear. You can play it safe or get naughty depending on the way she texts back.

You: “I wish I was with you right now”

She: “Yeah? Why?”

You: “For a lot of reasons I can’t say right now / You did say you’re in bed, right?”

#12 Use emoticons. Unless the girl you’re texting specifically says she hates emoticons, make sure you leave a few kisses and a smile when you’re texting her goodbye. Even if she makes a big deal of it, you can always joke about it and say it was a goodbye kiss on her cheek! [Read: How to make a girl want to kiss you by arousing her]

#13 Get dirty when you can. Border on dirty texts with her now and then, and watch how she responds. If she texts you and asks you what you’re doing, tell her that you were up to something naughty. Make her think of you in the nude or give her occasions to talk naughty. A good way to initiate a naughty conversation is by telling her that you just stepped out of the shower, or by telling her that you’re trying out a few new clothes you picked up last week at the mall. [Read: 20 dirty questions to text a girl and make her wet]

#14 Create personal memories. Always look for ways to create a bond between the both of you. Tell her about your favorite song, movie or place you like. Each time she comes across something you’ve talked about, give her a reason to think of you.

#15 Get mushy before saying goodbye. Compliment her appearance, her personality or say anything that makes her feel warm and fuzzy inside. But focus on these texts a few minutes before both of you say goodbye. If you want her to fall for you, she has to get sexually excited by you and then has to feel romantically attached to you. That’s the way love and infatuation works. [Read: Tips to subtly touch a girl and turn her on]

By flirting with her, you’d be able to arouse her. And by talking about how special she is or by complimenting her for her personality at the end of your texting conversation, you can make her feel romantic. It’s the perfect balance to make a girl like you while texting her. [Read: How to compliment a girl the right way]

Keep these 15 tips on how to text a girl you like in your mind while texting her. And you’ll see how easy it can be to woo a girl through a few late night texts and well timed lines.

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58 thoughts on “How to Text a Girl You Like and Make Her Want You”

  1. corpzy91 says:

    Gah it doesn’t work on this girl, I did everything here, and I did it before even looking for this site, still she doesn’t seem that interested even tho we have a lot of things in common, both hobbies and personality. And I don’t think she is out of my league lol cuz she isn’t exactly megan fox…. she said she is too busy, and can only talk once a week from now on.. now I have to sit here just waiting…waiting…waiting… waiting.. and I dunno if she just said shes busy to get rid of me 🙂

    Anyway I guess this would work on any girl except this one, who is just out of this world hehe

  2. Ary says:

    This definately works, especially the pet names. Don’t make it something sophisticated, but make it short and sweet, such as apple. Good luck guys!(:

  3. Greggy997 says:

    Awesome! Works on my gf!

  4. PillzHere says:

    Corpsy I know just how you feel bro.. The girl I’m into is always busy cause she’s soo talented! ! !
    Mostly when I text her she only replies K or G2G..
    Try to find common things that you both like. For example: me and her play minecraft together, or TF2, though she’s better than me! Don’t give up bro

  5. alvin says:

    There this girl that i like alot. She has a low self esteem and dont really like compliment. What can i do?

  6. Lauren Schath says:

    I love this stuff it turns me on

  7. Lauren Schath says:

    Ya me and and my girlfriend because we are lesbians it works great on her I do the sex texts all the time and she sends me videos!! I am suprised we haven’t broken the bed yet!!!! This website helped me a lot ! Don’t forget there is always sex things u can buy at stores like handcuffs or vibrates!!! Make sure your relationship in bed and general is always warm just like a dildo should be!!!!!

  8. breanna says:

    Be careful with being dirty. Some girls don’t like that at all and may make her feel uncomfortable.

  9. Panrocks says:

    I had crush on a classmate.
    Previously we were chating normally.
    after some days i used to send her sms. But no reply!!
    It happen so many times. and mostly we wont talk that much in collage!!
    What can be the move??

    help!!!! 🙂

  10. Malik says:

    Don’t make the message too short… If you send a short message and she doesn’t reply for a while, text again with a question or compliment
    You: lol
    You: You’re pretty funny, I’m surprised your still single.

  11. Mike says:

    Hey guys, im having trouble, a lot… So, there’s this girl, she’s older than me, just one year, but we are 15-16 so it looks weird, but still, she was my best friend when i was about 13, i started texting her again, and on school she usually looks at me and throws me kisses, hugs me every morning, so yeah, i text her, but its too hard, she’s too reserved, so i talked to her why she was like that with me, she told me “i don’t like texting too much, i preffer calls” , but everytime i call her she’s busy or with her friends… when i text her something funny or a fact, she answers with “jajaja”, I know alot about her and she knows a lot about me, but its hard to keep a conversation with her, i don’t know what to ask… Any help? Thanks!

  12. Kevin says:

    Hey guys,something just crazy happen to me and dont know what should i do. I

  13. Caryn says:

    Terrible advice. Nothing bores me faster than another chump who can’t carry on a conversation. DON’T text me “hi” with nothing else… it is irritating having to carry forward a chat that YOU started. Say something useful to which I can reply.

  14. Gabe Goldstein says:

    I’m 14 and I tried this on a girl who I deeply loved. She’s my neighbor too!!! I’m shy of talking to girls I like and try to stay as far away from them as possible. So I got a Facebook when I turned 13 (I would have gotten it earlier but my parents wouldn’t let me) and it automatically downloaded her phone number into my address book on my phone. Jackpot I thought. So I started texting her using these steps and there was no response. So I tried step #12 and I finally got a response. “Keep dreaming, Gabe. Keep dreaming.” So I rate it a 1 out of 1,000,000,000!!!!

  15. king_SA says:

    Oky this girl I supper different but then I will try to use this on her. Never liked her 1st but when time passed I started getting felling for her. Tried SMs’s she used to respond but then I stopped so go her on BBM so I’m out of options. I’m a popular kid at school so I think she doesn’t like me coz she thinks I’m a player so please help me out!!!!

  16. Itstooeasy says:

    be short and sweet, if she’s at work, just tell her “hi, I hope your days been good”, that usually initiates conversation… trying to hard will kill it, she might think your desperate.

    basically, just be natural, women can spot even the slightest change in behavior, based on how you respond to them.

    Once you get her to the point where she’s texting and calling you at random points of the day, its in the bag.

  17. brian says:

    i want a girl and i have found her but i don’t know how to start her

  18. surya says:

    i asked my crush whether she had a bf, she replied that it is a secret and she doesnt want to tell anyone about it….. What does she meant by this ???? help me

  19. Jordan says:

    okay i just dont know what i am doing wrong. there is this girl and shes a year older than me and me and her have talked on and off but i wanna be something for real with her and i have to get her to fall for me again she goes to the same school as me and always smiles at me in the hallway. i cant tell if shes just being nice but i try to text her and sometimes she does answer so i wait for her to answer and after about 3 hours i try again and i do that one more time sometimes but if she doesnt answer i try the next day. i told her i miss her at night and it worked but now but she barely answers me…. i just dont know how to get her to fall for me

  20. ABHISHEK says:

    The girl I love is my friend from high school and now we are in college… I told her that I love her and now she hates me because I had gone to see her every day after coll.. someone please tell me what to do I really need help….

  21. Musali Aggrey says:

    it worked for me

  22. antonio says:

    Have most of you guys saying it didn’t work realize the fact that the girl isn’t interested in you? Cause if a girl is only giving you “K” and “G2G” that’s a major sign she isn’t interested just saying

  23. Philip96 says:

    Honestly this really works, I agree with what Antonio is saying ???????????? you can’t just use this on ANY GIRL. You have to see that she is interested in you first,cuz otherwise ur jst waisting ur time,effort nd most importantly your attention on her nd also age matters so don’t try this if you anywhere below 16. A good way u can find that out is to wait for he to reply to your txt NO MATTER HOW LONG IT MAY TAKE(yes I kno it may sound like torture but that’s what you gotta do) this will let u kno how much she really cares about you so you can know how to approach her, either as jst a friend or to keep trying.
    I used this to get with my girl bck like 8months ago before I saw this on this website,nd actually reading these 15 steps made me smile nd think bck wen I was jst introducing myself to her and now after 8months together we still going on strong nd I jst graduated from high school.
    Wish you guys good luck nd hope my words helped someone.?????????? And remember that if she is really worth it them keep trying nd even wen it feels like ur losing at least tell her face to face about how u truly feel about her, females love that and if you do it right she’ll fall right in your arms ????????????????

  24. Alex says:

    There are a few decent ideas (times of day), but everything will be forever overshadowed by #6. L O L. NEVER under any circumstances expect to create attraction with a girl by sending her a feeble “hi”.. Or GOD FORBID just a wink face. Are you kidding me?!

  25. Ryan says:

    “If you want her to fall for you, she has to get sexually excited by you and then has to feel romantically attached to you. That

  26. Olise says:

    I have a problem guys i am trying to keep closer to one of the gal i proposed but each time i text her she simple reply with one word or ignore at all. When meet her she only responds to my questions and always want me to start conversation. Help me

  27. Julian says:

    ok this stuff they are saying is basically true im not calling myself a ladies man or a player but i get what there saying most of your guys problems has to do with”shes busy” or “shes got a boyfriend” i think i can help most of you guys out leave your name on here i will contact you through facebook i swear to go im not a pervert or anything im 14 and i do well so yeah i will check back tomorrow

  28. gobbytown says:

    Hi all, I have a girl who’s always been there for me. Shes more than a friend but not girl friend. She says I made her smile. But she’s taking me as a brother. I have feelings for her and when I said it onto her face once, she got pissed and i said that was just to check how she reacts. can anybody give me any suggestion on how to make this girl fall for me? Atleast if I could have sex with her, she will fall for me for sure. Pls help. Urgent. Thanks all.

  29. SmartGuy says:

    Lauren Schath, you’re too hot to be a lesbo…..

  30. DA says:

    Guys this article isn’t how to “get” a girl its to help you deepen a relationship with a girl who already at the very least kinda sorta likes you

  31. DA says:

    Gobbytown…sex is never the answer. It can backfire. And then you lose a really good friend. Give her time and space. Give her the opportunity to miss you. If you’re always around it can seem like you’re bugging her. put a little distance between you two and see if she misses you… if she doesn’t It should really tell you something and you should stop wasting your time.

  32. kleeo says:

    Hey guys, im kinda havin the same problem with this girl I really like. I took her to homecoming and I’ve been trying to meet up to hang out or just chill and im not looking for anything serious, but I feel like she’s just another pretty face who doesn’t want to do anything. How do I make the right connection with this girl and have a good relationship with her?

  33. charlie says:

    Ok here is the best example or what i do.

    Me. Can you keep a secret.
    She. About what.
    Me. Well i meet this really cool girl months ago. She is cute, funny and really nice but she is also very naughty always ask me to send naked pictures of myself and make me wear uniform and stuff you want to see the uniform i have to wear
    (Send a funny pic of a guy wearing some outrageous uniform or a pic of a monkey something funny)
    She. Hahahahah
    She. How are you
    She. Who is she.
    me. She is very sweet. Naughty but nice.
    Me. But you wont know her as you are nice but naughty
    she. Hmmm
    she. Are you still around.
    She. Were is she from anyway. (Like she doesnt know i am talking about her.)
    Me. Listen i forgot to ask you were are you from again i forget.
    She. Hahahahah
    she i am from the moon.
    Me. Ah really she is from the same place.
    Me. Small world is it not.
    She. hhhhhhhhhhh
    Me. Well i really need help with this naughty girl lets meet up tomorrow and you can give me your tips how to know that girl.
    2 hours.
    She. Okay

    done. Fucked. Next.

  34. charlie says:

    Bad guy (if you are not) just somehow always works best. They live for mysterious. Cool. dont give a shit guy. You send something stupid like (how was your day or what you up to) you are automatic boring unoriginal and not what any girl looks for. Just send her something like above and if she is remotely interested she will respond to that. Even it is shit and not who you really. Are

  35. Chad smith says:

    Before I found this website I was texting this girl and I was using step #12 like sending kissy faces to her when I told her goodnight and she sent them back. So If anyone was wondering some girls do like that. Actually most. But everytime I text her she takes a long time to reply. I have even heard some of her friends say she takes a long time to reply to them too. Idk what to do or why she does it.

  36. Smitty says:

    Hey guys I’m hoping someone can help me out with the situation I’m in, I met this girl one night and we went back to her place stayed up for hours talking and in the morning I grabbed her number. Me and her are both 25 and she has a five-year-old daughter she works night shift and having a kid I understand she’s really busy. so I texted her in the evening and she keeps the messages short. I feel we had a good initial connection and if there is such thing as love at first sight this would be it 🙂 I haven’t text her for a couple days now, any advice that people can give me would be appreciated

  37. maxter says:

    how to ask a number from the girl??

  38. Anonymous me says:

    Lol hahaha I have to laugh I’ve accidentally did all these things way before I saw this and so far so good she’s said she loves me and I love her not much to say decides be cute while texting her hell ask for a picture every now and then and draw her as an animal or something and compliment her after you ask for picture with a cute TXT such as “i wanna see your pretty face” everything should go fine but be yourself apparently girls love it when I do

  39. jen says:

    First of all, as a girl, I feel that this may be rather accurate advice, since I know many girls who actually respond positively to these things. However, keep in mind that not all girls will have the same reaction. I myself am an example. Maybe it is conservative of me, but naughty texts are an outright no unless you are certain she likes you already. I also don’t have a preference towards pet names– stick to my name, or my gamer tag please. However, I do agree on being interested in her life. We’re narcisstic beings, we love talking about ourselves. Be empathetic, and don’t shorten your words. Be sweet and caring, but not too mushy, since it can be a turn off. Don’t try ti act too cute either, because that makes girls like me cringe. I don’t know how many girls have the same attitude towards things like this as I do, but I do hope that my wall of text may help some of you guys. Try them out if thr article doesn’????t work for you. I wish you all the best of luck!

  40. iamvido says:

    I tried all but still did not work am really confused…..seems the girl does not like me

  41. loveson says:

    Hi, really want to know… What’s make some girls pretend to love. I have tried as much as possible to proves my live to many but it seems to something us missing, pls I need relevant point to hold them secure

  42. Daniel says:

    text her say something sweet to her keep it short simple and sweet. Say something along this line “you seem really cute i thought i might come over and say hi. and see how your doing has been a few days we haven’t spoken so I wanted to see how u are and put a winky face like this ;)” I’m sure she will answer to that.
    also you might want to send her a sweet picture like this:

  43. Maya says:

    I’m a girl and read this for fun ???????????????????? and just be like ur funny or give her a compliment and say hey u should give me ur number and if she’s interested she will.

  44. hadich says:

    I like my friend’s sister,but when I told him,he said that she likes another guy.Can you help me?I’m 13 and my name is hadi chamli.

  45. castro says:

    the is this girl i badly want her and she hates me so bad and i love her so bad girls do love me but i want this girl.she ignores me when i text her she does not one any thing to do with me but i dick this girl.what should i do

  46. Mamadou says:

    Hey guys I have been dating a girl for 2 months we broke up because i didnt want to compromise but I contacted her again telling her I miss her and so on. Then she said I would regret getting back with her and stuff, but never told me why she really didnt want to get back, until my friend told me that I broke her ego and trust so she didnt want to get back with me. is getting her back possible and what must I do thanks.

  47. alvin says:

    hey guys, i have been in love with 1 girl in our locality, always i dropped her at home and i give her gifts, choklets, ice creams etc. she accept my all things with her sweet smile, always i msg her but she is not replying, and i will not able to know that what is in her mind, what she is thinking of me, i love her lot lot lot ……..
    so friends please give me Suggestions, how i make her to fall in love with me.

  48. lovelogo says:

    Do you have an example of “something interesting”? 🙂

  49. Mike says:

    Make her wait too..Do not reply immediately

  50. Michael Gilbert says:

    Yeah i got some advice for you. next time a womanbrings you to HER house for the night ESPECIALLY on the first date, make love to her.. or fuck her.. which ever you do. . Cause you talked all night then “got her number in the morning”and left? Dude seriously? I’m not trying to sound rude but come on man..

  51. Mohammad Shoaib Bukhari says:

    if girl is interested then why would we need to do this. ?

  52. Josh says:

    I really can tell you’ve never even talked to a girl from this.

  53. Jeremiah Skates says:

    To keep her interested in you.. and she won’t get bored over yes and no questions that most guys that talk to her do

  54. Kawooster says:

    Probably the worst texting advice I have ever read. “Hey, how is your day?” Seriously that’s what you want people to say? You might as well say “Hey, I’m so boring and have no personality, please give me attention”

    Seriously guys, a lot of you in the comments seem like you have no idea on how to text or interact with a girl properly and it’s posts like this that make you end up worse off. Do some proper research into “text game” actually no, do some proper research into how to inject your own unique personality into your texts.

    You all seem way too needy. It’s okay though, we all get that sometimes. Work on improving yourself first, before you try and bring another person into your life. Sure, easier said than done and we all sometimes crave the opposite sex. it’s natural. But overthinking and over analyzing every little thing you say, or every little thing she/he says is slowly killing your chances. This is hard to overcome, I, myself am still working on it constantly.

    Don’t over invest your time with a person who isn’t willing to invest their time into you. Texting should be fun and adventurous, and most importantly used to set up “dates” Don’t over text someone you’re interested in, especially if it’s very early in the dating stage. Leave them hanging for a day or two, I don’t mean don’t reply to their messages if they text you. But once you say goodbye one day/night. Leave it like that for a few days, get them thinking about what you’re doing. This makes you seem much less needy and more scarce, if she is seeing other guys (which, if she is attractive, she most likely is) Sure it stings, but nothing you can do about it and being needy and always keeping tabs on her, will push her into someones else’s hands.

    I could go on and on. Some of the advice in this post is okay in some sense, but most of it is pretty horrible. Always be yourself, don’t try and be someone you’re not to impress him/her because sooner or later it’ll come out. Work on your negatives E.G: Neediness, clingy, obsessiveness etc….And remember failing isn’t failing if you learn from it…that’s now called a win. I’m open to comments if people need some advice.

  55. charlie835139 says:

    What I hate the most is when she keeps bringing up her ex-boyfriends. I’m like, “Why are you even talking about him so much if you weren’t trying to shut me down?” Lesson learned!

  56. Neil Long says:

    Almost every day my girl txts me and she always says to send her pictures of my face and i dont know why but she always says that shes ugly and i say always say to her that love dosent mean anything about beauty even though she is beautiful and his steps are already have been in our relationship before i checked this website so this guy is right on all of his steps so good luck guys try ur hardest 😉

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