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How to Talk to Girls and Leave Them Swooning!

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As a guy, learning how to talk to girls is an important rite of passage. Use these 10 tips and see how easy it is to leave them swooning for more!

There are many things a guy does in his formative years.

But talking to a girl he likes for the first time?

That’s definitely one of the hardest things to do for any guy.

But yet, we’ve all had to do just that.

For a few guys, the first conversation goes perfectly and they end the conversation with their feet in the clouds.

[Read: How to approach a girl you don’t know and impress her]

And for most other guys, a conversation with a girl could go horribly wrong and leave them shattered and scared to approach girls again.

But what really separates a great conversationalist from a bad one?

How to talk to girls the right way

If you need to impress a girl or a group of girls with your words, there’s just one thing you need to keep in mind.

The girl needs to have a fun time while talking to you.

This is by far the easiest way to understand why some guys are effortless casanovas while others bumble their way to failure.

As long as you understand what it takes to ensure that the girl you’re talking to has a wonderful time with you, you’d definitely be able to walk away from the conversation with a little piece of her heart!

If you want to talk to a girl and impress her, use this guide on how to talk to a girl and look smooth doing it.

But if you want to awe a group of girls all at once, even if there are several girls in a group, read on to learn the art of talking to girls using these steps.

Approaching a girl who’s in a group

Trying to catch the attention of a girl who’s in a group of girls isn’t very different from trying to get her attention when she’s alone. Firstly, you need to let her know you exist, you need to make the right eye contact, and finally you need to walk up to her and make a conversation. [Read: How to get a girl’s attention and talk to her no matter where you are]

But even the perfect approach to get introduced to a group of girls can’t help you win them over if you don’t know the right way to keep them engaged in the conversation.

How to talk to a group of girls and impress them all at once

If you want to know how to talk to girls and leave them talking about you long after you’re gone, you need to remember these 10 pointers that really matter when it comes to chatting up a group of girls.

#1 Focus on fun. This is the most basic and yet important part of having a conversation with a group of girls. If you can convince the girls that you’re a lot of fun to spend time with, they’d reach out to you just to hang out with you.

Try to have a positive attitude and let the world see you for the fun guy you are. As long as you feel alive and excited to spend time with a group of girls, they’d feel your enthusiasm and enjoy your company too. [Read: The beginner’s guide to become a funny and lovable guy!]

#2 Don’t ever put them in a spot. A lot of guys just don’t understand this. When you talk to a girl or even a group of girls, don’t ask awkward questions that leave them wriggling their toes in awkwardness.

“Were you girls trying to avoid me?” “Eating that will make you fat, you know that right?!” “I like your shirt, where did you pick it up?” “Most people think I’m boring. Do you think I’m boring?” Awkward questions like these will only make girls want to avoid you. Charm them instead! [Read: How to charm girls and flatter them into liking you]

#3 Get them talking. The best way to keep a conversation going with a group of girls is by making all of them feel involved. Ask questions or make statements that all girls can relate to, so the girls can add in their opinions and create the conversation among each other too.

It makes all the girls feel more involved, and that’s always a great way to get closer to all of them at once. And if you’re talking about something like music or a new social media trend, there are bound to be a few healthy arguments and opinions, and all of that will definitely work in your favor. [Read: Really smooth ways to keep a conversation going with the opposite sex]

#4 Be humorous. Any great conversationalist would be able to tell you that humor is the one thing that can make everyone lose their inhibitions and bring them closer to you instantly. Learn to be a funny and witty guy, and you’ll never have any trouble getting girls to talk to you and like you. [Read: How to make girls laugh, smile and like you instantly]

#5 Win over all girls. An awkward guy focuses his attention on just one girl while the other girls stare around the place looking bored. But a great guy, well, he makes every girl feel like she’s the center of his attention!

Don’t focus on just one girl when you’re talking to a group of girls, unless all the girls you’re talking to already know you’re only interested in one particular girl and are trying to woo her. While talking to a group of girls, make eye contact with all the girls randomly. [Read: 12 Prince Charming traits that all girls love about a guy]

And while talking too, dart your eyes across to everyone, especially the girls who seem distracted. A group of girls are like an audience. If you lose one girl’s attention, it’s only a matter of time before you lose the attention of all the girls! [Read: How to get someone to like you immediately after meeting them]

#6 Be warm and likeable. Smile a lot and laugh wholeheartedly when you’re having a conversation with a group of girls. If you want to take your funny bone a notch higher, learn to use self deprecating humor. Girls just love watching a guy make a fool of himself by behaving like a bumbling Hugh Grant when he tries to be witty and fun. And the best part, this kind of humor almost never ever fails with a group of girls. [Read: The art of using self deprecating humor to impress women]

#7 Get naughty when you get the chance. Talking naughty is risky business, especially when you’re talking to more than one girl. If your joke annoys a girl, you’d be jeopardizing the entire conversation. But then again, naughty flirting is the easiest way to hysterical laughter and a better impression.

So instead of telling a dirty little joke and deflating your ego against a few piercing stares, learn to get naughty using something one of the girls say to you. We call this situational humor using a double entendre, and it’s the kind where you use something said by one of the girls and twist what the girl said into something dirty.

You don’t even need to say anything here to be funny. You can just look at her and smile mischievously when she says a line that could be interpreted into something dirty. When the other girls see you smile, their dirty little minds will interpret the joke and they’ll laugh, without you even having to say anything! [Read: 12 types of humor and the right way to use it with girls]

#8 The two body languages. There are two things that matter about body language while talking to girls, your body language and theirs. When you talk to girls, stand up tall or sit upright, unless you’re gesticulating.

On the other hand, you also need to keep an eye on the body language of the girls you’re talking to. Are the girls focused on you, or do they seem distracted? Are they nodding their head when you say something, are they laughing along, or is one of them constantly staring at her watch? Body language always gives away far more details than the words you hear. [Read: 18 body language signs to find out if your conversation mate likes you]

#9 Use other girls to impress one. If you’re trying to impress one girl in the group of girls, don’t just talk to her and ignore her friends. Involve her friends and talk to them too. But every now and then, compliment the girl you like or say something specifically to her. Her friends may even take your side and tease the girl you like, which will make all her friends your unintentional wingmen to win her over! [Read: How to compliment a girl and make her blush]

#10 Walk away and leave them wanting. This part is crucial in leaving the perfect impression. Don’t stick around with the girls until you see a few girls yawning or until your motormouth starts to feel tired. Always walk away when you know they still really want you around.

If you walk away from them just when they’re having fun and laughing, they’d feel your loss the very second you walk away. And one of the girls may even comment about what a nice guy you are! And just then, right there, you need to realize that you’ve displayed your awesomeness in front of a whole group of girls. And won them over too!

[Read: The art of making a girl want you and desire you sexually]

Are you still wondering how to talk to girls and leave them swooning? These 10 tips are all you’d need to wow them and leave them wanting more of you. Try these tips the next time you’re with a group of girls and you’ll see how effective they are within minutes!

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Keith Brown
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4 thoughts on “How to Talk to Girls and Leave Them Swooning!”

  1. randy evans says:

    this helped me somewhat i am 53 years of age and find women with dark eyes attracted to me but do not ever go past that point even thow i soft and very well built is this that there scared of me because of being attractive or is it that i dont put up with bull shit i dont now but find women are like that towards me as a man its ok so far is there any thing else i should be doing

  2. Adrian says:

    I just can’t help it – I’m a really scary guy and girls don’t like speaking with me. My face, and especially my stare, is really intimidating and makes them just want to run away. Don’t know how to change that. I’ve been told this by some close lady friends of mine and have been told by a girl already that I look like a monster, the type of guy that will rape and kill her and bury her in the woods. LOL. This is so frustrating, because I care very much for girls and would love to have a girlfriend/wife one day to love and cherish, because I have a lot of love to give her. But, on the outside it never looks that way.

  3. froma friend says:

    I just hate guys who try too hard to make me swoon over them. I just wasn’t built to swoon over guys, not unless you’re a celebrity. But even if you were a celebrity, I would swoon for you at first but get over you the next day.

  4. Wadethomas says:

    What does “swooning” mean to you?

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