Does size matter to women? The simple truth? Yes, size does matter. But not in the way you think. Read this to understand how size really matters. By Kayla Kissinger
Have you ever felt self conscious about how well you’re endowed down there?
You’re not alone.
Unless you’re hung like a horse, almost all men have found themselves asking this question through the years.
It starts in the school showers and lasts all the way through their adulthood.
But with all the emphasis that men give their members, does size even matter to women?
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Does size matter to women?
Well, this is not an answer that can be answered simply with a yes or a no.
As a woman, I can tell you that it’s not just the length of the pole that matters entirely. It’s what you do in the hole that really counts.
Even before we get to the details, here’s something you need to remember. Don’t let your penis decide how much of a man you are.
If you’re a guy with a less than memorable penis size, you could end up shying away from the opposite sex just because you feel less than well endowed down there.
And just imagine how that’ll affect your morale and confidence!
Feel more confident about your assets down there, and focus more on pleasuring her through extended foreplay instead of sending your little guy into the tunnel and waiting for him to work all the magic. [Read: 10 things women want in bed to feel sexy and loved]
After all, your sexual abilities and confidence as a person can definitely compensate for your lack of girth or length any day.
Men, women and their oversized obsessions
Women obsess about the size of their own breasts. They constantly wonder if they’re too small. But as a guy, you don’t always care, do you? Okay, maybe you do. [Read: 8 ways to get any girl you like to notice you]
Some guys are obsessed with big breasts while some guys love breasts anyway they come. But if you fell in love with a girl who’s extremely beautiful, smart and fun, would you still care if her breasts are smaller than average or mosquito bites?
For women, it works the same way with a man’s size down there. If she likes you for who you are, she’d be willing to accommodate your less than satisfactory package.
But then again, if she does find out that she’s dating a guy with a bigger penis, she’d obviously be happy to know that. It feels great to date a man who’s well endowed down there. And just the thought of something that big going into her can excite her or even turn her on! [Read: How to make a girl want you sexually]
And let’s face it, a girl gets bragging rights if the sizes conversation ever does come up with her own girlfriends on a drunken night.
So does size matter to women? Well, even if a small penis functions just as well when it has to do its job, she would definitely prefer an average or a slightly above average one over a tiny one for all the other reasons.
What’s the average size of a male member?
There’s no hard and fast rule about the size of a penis. But to put your mind at ease, anywhere between five to six inches is definitely considered average. Anything less than that and you’d get a sympathetic smile. Anything more than that, and she’ll plaster a wide smile of awe that is directly proportional to the length of your penis!
Almost everyone in the world is average, so don’t fret about it. Girls are fine with an average sized member. All said and done, being average is okay, but when you’re too small, it can be quite a letdown when she slips her hand in and find’s a baby penis in your shorts. You know what, it may even freak her out! [Read: Are attractive girls actually mean to guys?]
Does a big penis make a difference while having sex?
Do girls like a big member while having sex? Well, this is the most confusing part of all. Many girls are happy to snuggle with an average member, while many other girls want something that’s way bigger than just the average.
Some girls say a bigger penis means better sex, while other girls hate a big member because it hurts them. So what’s the deal here?
Does the size of a man’s member actually affect the outcome of sex?
The truth – Yes, the penis size does matter
The size of a man’s penis definitely does matter when it comes to having sex. And your size does play a huge role in whether you’ll be able to help your woman orgasm better.
There, I’ve said it! Size definitely does matter to women. But then again, it’s really not in the way you think.
If you have a considerably big penis, you may have experienced this. Some girls love the way you feel inside them. And some girls may actually cringe in pain and ask you to slow down or avoid penetrating fully. So what’s happening here? The same penis brings pleasure to some girls, but hurts other girls? Isn’t that weird? [Read: 10 ways to build sexual tension with a girl you like]
Kama sutra and the sizes
The Kama sutra is a manual of love written over 2000 years ago in India by a man named Vatsyayana. In one of the chapters on sexual union, he explains about the division of men into three kinds based on the size of their lingam (penises). Additionally, he also divides women into three types based on the depth of their yoni (vulva) *the depth of the yoni here signifies the depth of the vagina*.
According to the Kama sutra, based on the size of his lingam, a man can either be a hare, a bull or a horse. And a woman, based on the depth of her yoni, can either be a female deer, a mare or a female elephant.
And the outcome and pleasure of sexual union between a man and a woman can be determined by these divisions.
Men (size of the lingam) - Women (size of the yoni)
Hare (small lingam) - Deer (short yoni)
Bull (average lingam) - Mare (average yoni)
Horse (large lingam) - Elephant (deep yoni)
The sexual union between a hare man and a deer woman, a bull man and a mare woman, and a horse man and an elephant woman would lead to more pleasurable orgasms and a better sexual union than any other type of combinations of men and women. These three unions are called equal unions or perfect unions.
On the other hand, if a horse man penetrates a deer woman, that is, if a man with a longer member penetrates a woman with a short vagina, it’ll end up causing discomfort to the woman. The only way around this is for the man to penetrate her halfway or to the point where she is comfortable.
Another scenario is when a hare man penetrates an elephant woman. In this case, a man with a short member penetrates a woman with a deeper vagina. In this case, the woman may never be able to experience heightened orgasms or sexual satisfaction with him because the man would never be able to reach deeper into her. [Read: The step-by-step guide to having tantric sex for the first time]
Sizes and pleasurable sex
According to the Kama sutra, if a male’s erect member goes through the vagina of a female and touches the entrance to the cervix when the vagina is penetrated *the cervix is the opening to the uterus*, it leads to powerful orgasms and a much better sexual experience.
So does size really matter? Now you know that it definitely does. And the constant confusion over a few women saying size doesn’t matter and size does matter can actually be answered by keeping the Kama sutra in mind.
An elephant woman with a deeper vagina would definitely prefer a horse man with a longer member. While a deer woman with a shorter vagina may be fascinated by a large erection, but she’ll be able to experience the best sex with someone like a hare man who has a small member. [Read: How to sit next to a girl and make her horny]
Big isn’t always better. Small isn’t always snug.
Of course, we can’t all go measuring the lengths and depths each time we date someone. And you can’t really figure the sizes of someone’s privates by just looking at them.
But at the end of it all, when you do have sex with someone, what matters is how comfortable both of you are down there while having sex. If it’s too big for her, you’ll hurt her. If it’s too small for her, she won’t feel what she wants to feel. [Read: 20 dirty questions to text a girl and make her wet]
A guy who feels small about himself down there may actually be able to give better orgasms to many girls than a guy who’s hung like a horse. [Read: How to hook up with a girl you just met and have sex with her]
So however well or less than well endowed you are down there, fret not, there’s a perfect match or an almost perfect match in all of us. Just as long as you avoid the contrasting opposites as a sexual partner, you’ll definitely have a great time in bed.
So how do you recognize a contrasting sexual partner? Well, just have sex. You’ll know the next morning, won’t you?!
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So if you’re still wondering about the big question now, does size matter to women, well, you do know that big is not always the best, after all. A perfect match is way better!
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As a woman, I can tell with experience with a lot of men that size does matter. The guys who have smaller members have never ever pleased me. At times, I’ve seriously even wondered if the guy is in or still out too!
But at the same time, I have a lot of girlfriends who say that size doesn’t matter. So it’s always been a confusion that’s led me to believe that when it comes to size, it’s a personal preference.
The idea mentioned in the article is excellent, and actually solves all the confusions. Perhaps, as the article says, the vagina too comes in different sizes and it’s been well explained by the author. I’m not happy to assume I’d be the elephant (especially when I’m actually petite and fragile looking!!) but if that’s the way it goes, I’m happy with a big guy any day anyways!
my present boyfriend has a large penis, (the largest I’ve had), and after getting used to his size I do like it bigger., But that’s just one part of our relationship.
Size does matter, but so does where you are in your cycle. When ovulating or near our fertile peak it’s a whole easier to take more, otherwise if a guy is a bit to large keep the lub handy. I really don’t think it’s the bigger size that makes it better (there is a thing as to big) but rather the mental aspect. Small can get a girl there physically but bigger sure helps mentally as well.
I have a tilted uterus, so the boyfriend I had with a slightly larger than average penis actually hurt me unless he angled himself correctly. So while large may look good, I think average or a little less might be the most comfortable for me.
apparently foreplay is key (which you briefly admitted). therefore good foreplay, good sex.
women are emotional creatures. if you’re not emotionally attached to a man then of course it’s not going to be good.
this article is rubbish. it doesn’t make sense.
to a woman that wants to go out and have lots of sex then yes size will matter because that’s all she’s after.
The article was some what helpful. However, having intercourse with my wife now, after two children, is very different then when we first got married. It now takes considerable for play as well as, using a larger than myself toy, to provide her with the stimulation that she needs. I am not sure what else I can do. Any suggestions?
Yet again another article that skirts around penis size. Firstly I want to separate LOVE & SEX. The penis is a physical object and sex is a physical act. I am a 27 year old female who has had relationships with 8 different men and casual sex with a lot more. My boyfriends, using the 6″ as average, 1 very small, 5 just under or about average, 1 bigger and 1 huge. Sexually, bigger and thicker are the best! AGAIN, just physically, those trying to defend their penis size doesn’t matter opinion like to use things like – the well endowed guy was, clumsy, selfish, came too quick, bad foreplay, it hurt etc. All but the last have zero to do with size, even a very large penis will be accommodated when you are nicely aroused and time is taken. Every single one of my girlfriends and female acquaintances that have experienced a large penis and had a conversation about penis size in my presence have said with confidence and authority that bigger is better! The others say they have never experienced one, when I ask them if they would like to, most say yes. Then there are those females who have a good sex life with average or small and then say that size doesn’t matter. How would they know? Others who have a partner that is small say it because they don’t want to hurt his feelings.
The real truth is that bigger is better. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 5 years. Very much in love, a fantastic relationship and plan to get married in the next few years. He has a very small penis, 4 inches and very thin. Actual Intercourse is okay & our sex life is good. A couple of years ago my boyfriend asked me about my past boyfriends, I gave him a brief rundown including brief encounters & one night stands. Then he asked about penis size. I told him that a few were big. I almost lied when he asked if bigger was better. A big cock wont give me love and what we have is the best. Sexually, yes. A few months later a good looking friend of his came over, we had drinks, then my boyfriend told me that if i was comfortable his friend had agreed to a threesome. They both undressed, his friend was huge, my boyfriend sat and watched, his friend said that he had fantasized about me for years, I told him to prove it. What unfolded was the most passionate physical encounter I have ever had! A combination of my loving boyfriend watching us, his friends powerful lust, 5 years of sex with a small penis. The first 5 minutes were a little uncomfortable as i adjusted to his huge thick cock, then the next 10 or 15 minutes was the best sexual intercourse i have ever had, i had several intense orgasms that almost overlapped each other. A short rest and he was hard again, the sex was once again amazing!
Does size matter? YES, bigger is better!
This is a known scientific fact that womens’ vaginas are not all the same size nor depth. So yes, this conception originating from the Kama Sutra is totally coherent with reality.
However, your article fail to mention that the Kama Sutra also provides some “tips” to workaround the differences of size, for example some positions to feel more between a “hare” and an “elephant”, and as well as other positions to feel less between a “horse” and a “deer”.
If a finger get can a girl off…
As a woman I’ve actually found size by to matter much. I’ve only come across one that was so small that it wasn’t as good for me. And he certainly had some other skills. My husband isn’t massive but is above average and if we don’t have a reasonable amount of foreplay first it really hurts. Kinda takes the thrill out of a quickie! So actually I think average is better.