The 7 Women Who Will End Up Wasting Your Time

women who will waste your time

Few things are more frustrating than coming across someone you could have had a spark with, only to find out that they’re just wasting your time.

We’re all very busy nowadays, and between work, socializing, keeping fit, and relaxing, we barely have the time to date. This makes it extremely frustrating when someone we are interested in is wasting our time. Luckily, when you know what to look for, it is quite easy to identify and avoid potential time wasters.

You need to have an abundance mindset – realize that the girl who is wasting your time is not ever going to be the one, and that you should move on as soon as possible to meet other girls who are potentially a better fit. Clichéd as it may sound, there are other women out there who won’t end up wasting your precious time.

The women who just aren’t worth investing your time in

No idea what types of women will only end up frustrating you? Here are the top 7 types, along with ways to avoid them.

#1 She’s just not that into you. There is nothing worse than falling for a girl who is just not interested in you. She might be a friend, a colleague, or someone from your past. This is usually the case, leading to you coming into consistent contact with each other. Seeing her regularly keeps the feelings fresh and makes it impossible to forget about her.

Really, the best thing to do is avoid her and cut contact for a period, at least until you have met someone else or you have completely done away with whatever feelings you have for her. If you’re colleagues or close friends, it might not be possible to avoid her altogether, but you should keep things professional or friendly for a while, and focus your energy on meeting other women.

Meeting someone else is the best way to get over her and is also, funnily enough, the thing that is most likely to make her like you, since other women liking you can instantly make you desirable in her eyes.

Reality is rarely like a rom-com, and trying to woo her when she is initially not interested is unlikely to get you anywhere, especially if she rebuffs your advances by saying…

#2 “Let’s just be friends” or LJBF. The classic line that women will say to let a guy down gently. She might give reasons, such as the fact that she isn’t looking for a relationship or she doesn’t want to ruin what you already have as friends. Recognize now that these are justifications to spare your feelings. It is her being nice and not telling you that she just isn’t interested.

The same applies as in #1. If she says LJBF, that is the end of the line for trying to seduce her. You are not Hugh Grant, and, again, the rom-com plot hardly works in real life. Maintain your relationship with her as it currently is if you wish – especially if you are genuinely already friends – but move on to pursuing other women. You will get over her when you meet someone else that you like and who likes you back.

Once you have been “friend zoned,” it is nigh on impossible to get out of it. She doesn’t view you as a potential romantic partner, and you should move on as quickly as possible to avoid putting yourself through a fruitless emotional rollercoaster. [Read: 18 signs you’re in her friend zone even if she doesn’t say it]

#3 She’s still into her ex.  This isn’t your fault, and there really isn’t a whole lot you can do about it. If she can’t get over her ex, perhaps she is still in love with him and maybe even continuing to sleep with him, then she will not give herself to you.

When her emotions are elsewhere, you will never connect on a deeper level. You might be able to have a fling or a rebound relationship with her, and if you choose to pursue that, it is your prerogative. However, keep in mind that you may not progress any further.

In time, when she has allowed herself to truly get over her ex, she may realize that she can learn to want you after all. Don’t try to force it, though. Either keep things casual between you or give her some time, and revisit the idea later down the line to see how she responds. [Read: 15 signs she’s leading you on and taking you nowhere]

#4 She’s always “busy.” If she has blown you off three times with excuses about being busy, she is probably just stringing you along. Chances are, she only sees you as a guy whom she can have at her beck and call whenever she feels like getting some attention or validation.

She might promise to make it up to you or she might show her remorse, but if all she has to offer you are excuses and apologies, then you’re better off not seeing her. What you can do, however, is try to turn the tables by being unavailable.

The next time she blows you off, avoid her for a week or two. It might give her enough time to realize that she misses you or that she actually likes you. But if she’s still as elusive as ever, there’s really no point in staying in touch with someone who can’t be bothered to invest some time in you. [Read: How to flirt with a girl the friend way and get her to like you]

#5 The text buddy. We spend all day staring at our phones, and women especially love to text and chat all the time. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of becoming text buddies. You think you’re “getting to know each other” but really, communication through technology is no replacement for talking in real life.

You want to maintain an air of mystery and give her reasons to want to actually meet you and get to know who you are for real. So baring it all through text will only make her lose interest very quickly. [Read: The right way to text a girl and make her want you]

Text a bit less than she does, send shorter messages, and don’t be scared to cut a conversation off or not reply until the next day. Women love a guy who makes them chase him a bit, so don’t come  across as too keen – otherwise, you end up being her validation at the other end of the phone and never get to see her in reality.

#6 The gold digger. We’ve all heard of gold diggers, and maybe you’ve met some, especially if you are financially well off. Do not become the guy who pays for everything and gets nothing for it.

Whether you pay for everything on dates or not is up to you, and doing so doesn’t in any way make her a gold digger. What does make her a gold digger, is when she doesn’t show any interest in you, rebuffs your advances, and still wants you to buy her things or take her to places without the relationship moving forward over time.

It is faulty logic to think that if she isn’t in to you now, you need to throw more things or money at her. It won’t make her like you more, but she may well like the money and string it along for as long as she can.

If a girl isn’t into you when you take her for a picnic in the park, she won’t be into you when you take her 5-star dining, either. [Read: 10 types of women you should never date]

#7 The flake. You’ve made plans, and she flakes on you at the last minute by making excuses or worse, not even showing up. Sometimes, emergencies happen, of course, but she will be apologetic if it is with a genuine reason. If she has flaked on you more than once, she is probably not really into you, and she’s just keeping you around as her backup plan.

Seriously, if a woman flakes out on you when you’ve already tried your patent best to ensure that she’ll have a great time with you, you’re better off exerting the same amount of effort on a woman who can appreciate what you’re willing to do for her.

[Read: What to do when she’s playing hard to get]

Despite the initial feeling that she may be wasting your time, you can still try a few techniques to get her to appreciate you more. But if that doesn’t happen, remember that there are billions of women out there. The one who keeps wasting your time is not the one you are meant to be with.

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5 thoughts on “The 7 Women Who Will End Up Wasting Your Time”

  1. Bart says:

    While I agree with most of the post, it really depends on what kind of woman you’re looking for. At least for me, dating a gold digger is fine if you’re just looking for some female company. If you’re feeling lonely any female contact is great. Although I avoid staying friends with girls that don’t show interest. There’s nothing worse than a girl leading you on for a while and then just telling you she’s not actually interested. While yes, it’s understandable for her not to want to date you, don’t put yourself through the misery that is the friend zone. You, yourself, know that you will never actually be able to be just her friend so why even bother? You know that every time she texts you or calls is gonna make you feel like she may finally be changing her mind, while it’s actually not gonna be true and she just wants to talk a bit. Girls are funny that way, they can actually consider you a friend even though they know that you’re into them. Guys don’t work the same way though and it’s very hard to keep someone close if you know that they have romantic feelings for you.

  2. goldwagon says:

    I think the gold digger wins the worst wasted time you’d ever have. You will be left nothing but an empty bank account and a sore heart. Trust me boys, I’m an average looking guy with lots of money, I’ve been with a hella lot of gold diggers. I never learn, do I? All they want is something expensive everyday. They want to go to the most expensive restaurants in town. They won’t even ask if you want to go. They control you to spend for them. I wish I could control them but I just can’t help it. I’m almost declaring bankruptcy right now.

  3. Simon says:

    Let’s just be friends? Yeah, I’ve heard that one before. No, none of them have ever made it into my friendship circle and contact was severed shortly thereafter. They really aren’t worth chasing, guys. There’s plenty of girls who will actually want you romantically. Find them.

  4. James says:

    I don’t think I would have much tolerance for anyone that would tear me down, but I can identify with having a strong attraction for someone that just does not feel it the same way and that can be torture as far as sadness goes. I think the best advice I ever got was just not to let your feelings overwhelm you, if you do you come a crossed like a blubbering child that didn’t get their way. In my life I have found that life can be weird and the people you like today may be no where near the level of the people you like tomorrow. Time changes all things including peoples looks and attitudes.Don’t worry so much about getting it right so someone likes you or falls in love with you. Your energy is better spent by being the best person you can be and living life authentically by your own terms. We can’t force another to like or love us, but we certainly can work on attracting the best match for ourselves. You do this by doing the things you love and it will hapen naturally. You will probably look back someday and say ewh what was I thinking?

  5. coug says:

    I was with someone… for a long time. About 5 years… I didn’t think I wasted my time on her. Yet now I think I did. When we broke up she just had nasty things to say about me. It really broke me. Im better now. Although I don’t want to admit it seeing as she denies ever loving me, I did once upon a time love her. Now I am at a place where I don’t want to waste my time on someone again. I feel as if I am looking for things wrong with the person I am with now. I keep doupting her and her love for me. Waiting for her to be unfaithful. Waiting for her to abandon me. I think I might be sabotaging my relationship without knowing it. I don’t know how to fix it and I don’t want to let this one in. Because I don’t think I can take another person saying bad things about me again. I dont think I can have another person saying they never really loved me again.

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