When you love someone, it can be really hard to give up and move on. If you keep asking, “Should I give up on her?” here’s how to know if you should.
I get it. You’re in love with her but she left you. Your heart is basically destroyed and smashed into a million pieces and yet, you still want to try and make it work. Sometimes, this can be a great thing. But if you’ve been giving it your all and are now wondering, “Should I give up on her?” you might want to know for sure if it’s time to move on.
Because it might be. There are some circumstances that call for a guy owning up to his mistakes and putting in the effort to win a girl back. You can totally do it. However, some girls don’t want to be won over. In fact, they want you to give up.
Signs you should totally go for it and try to get back together
People breakup for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes those reasons can be harmless and just major misunderstandings. Other times it’s just timing and you can easily remedy that by waiting until the time is right.
If you’re thinking about getting back together, you’ll want to think about whether or not you should. Did your breakup end horribly or was it a mutual understanding? If you had a clean breakup with no hurt feelings, getting back together is totally possible.
You also need to consider if the issues within your relationship previously can be remedied easily. If there are long-standing, complex problems neither of you can get past, a reunion is definitely not on the tables for you. [Read: 10 signs you should get back with your ex]
Should I give up on her? How to know if it’s time to call it quits or give it your all
You may not want to admit when you need to give up and move on but there’s a certain point when you just need to. If it’s unclear to you and you find yourself wondering, “Should I give up on her?” these signs it’s time to end your efforts will help.
#1 She broke up with you for a legitimate reason. If you cheated on her or did anything else that broke her trust so much she can’t ever trust you again, there’s really no going back. She broke up with you for a real reason. You can’t fix something that’s broken in that way.
On the flip side, she may have ended things because of her own reasons. Perhaps she didn’t love you any more or didn’t see a future based on beliefs, religion, or morals. If that’s the case, you can’t change who you are and you can’t change her, either. [Read: 14 valid reasons to break up with someone]
#2 You’ve already tried everything. After a certain amount of time and effort, it’s just time to call it quits. If you’ve already tried everything and you’re not getting anywhere with her, it’s time to give up and move on.
Sure, you could try the same things again and again. But honestly, if they didn’t work before, they won’t work now. She’s numb to your advances and it’s time to just pick yourself up and move on.
#3 You’ve sat down and discussed what happened. Having closure is very, very important. If you keep thinking, “Should I give up on her?” and you’ve discussed, in detail, why you broke up, then it’s time to let her go.
There’s nothing more you can do. You both got your feelings out and everything was shared. There’s really no hope of making it work after you both have said your pieces. She wasn’t receptive of your desire to fix things then and she won’t be now. [Read: How to find closure after a break up]
#4 She’s made it clear she doesn’t want you to keep trying. By making it clear, I mean she’s told you time and time again that you need to stop talking to her. Not only is it bad for you to continue pursuing her but it’s not good for her either.
She wants to move on with her life. Why are you pushing to be with someone who so clearly doesn’t want you to try? Listen to her. It’s not an attempt to get you to work harder. It’s her way of telling you that nothing will work.
#5 She even moved on. This is the best way to know if you need to give up on her. If she’s seeing someone else, your chance is gone. She’s not going to dump that person just because you decide to keep pursuing her.
If anything, it’ll make her more unhappy with you. Your advances are probably causing a riff in her new relationship and it’s making her upset. If you really want her to be happy, let her live her life. [Read: 10 signs your ex has really moved on from you]
#6 She keeps ignoring you. This is just a pretty universally obvious sign that someone wants you to stop. They’ll ignore you. Continuing to pursue someone who is flat out ignoring you is pointless.
She doesn’t want to talk to or hear from you. By not responding, she’s sending a clear message that you should stop and give up. Take this sign seriously and move on with your life.
#7 She’s blocked you on social media platforms. If it comes to this, you’re past the point of needing to give up. You can’t just keep pushing for someone so much that they actually need to block you from accessing their profiles.
Sure, she might unfriend you after the breakup but usually, she’ll only block you if you’ve passed the limit of trying too hard. So give up. Move on and restore some of that dignity. [Read: 10 credible reasons why she’s ignoring you]
#8 She’s blocked your phone number. Calling and texting repeatedly without a response and even being told to stop will result in this. Your number will get blocked and you’ll never be able to contact her via your phone again. Don’t let it get to that point. If she feels the need to block your number, things are so far gone you’ll never be able to get them back. It’s time to give up on her.
#9 She’s had other people tell you to stop. When your mutual friends or even your family are telling you enough is enough, it’s obviously time to listen to them. This is especially true if the message is coming from her. Asking people who are close to you to tell you to knock it off is really sad and a huge sign you need to give up. [Read: 14 telling signs it’s time to give up on a relationship]
#10 You feel like it’s time to give up. You feel exhausted and you feel like giving up. That’s probably the most obvious sign it’s time to give in. There’s only so much you can do to win someone back. If you’ve done everything you can, then you need to move on and find someone who wants you in their life.