How to Make a Girl Fall in Love with You: 18 Steps to Win Her Heart

18 Foolproof Ways To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You

Following your instincts won’t always work with girls. If you want to win her over, just use these 18 ways on how to make a girl fall in love with you.

So you’re wondering how to make a girl fall in love with you. Let’s walk through the thoughts in your mind.

As a guy, what do you do when you find yourself falling for a girl? If you’re just like most guys, you’d pursue her. And then, you’d woo her. And a few days or a couple of weeks later, you’d tell her that you like her or love her.

As a girl, I can tell you that this is definitely flattering. And she may even like you back too. But almost always, this never works.

[Read: 10 reasons why saying ‘I love you’ too soon sucks!]

How to make a girl fall in love with you

Most guys wrongly assume that girls love getting the attention of guys *just for fun*.

They assume a girl would stare back, flirt, get closer, and in one swift move, just back away all of a sudden and pretend like nothing ever happened.

Have you ever experienced this?

Have you ever got really close to a girl, only to be thrown to the floor a few weeks later because she either starts ignoring you or tells you she never did really *see you as anything more than a friend*?

[Read: 10 perfect ways to avoid the friend zone with a girl you like]

You may have felt led on until she slammed the door on you, and now, you think this is a girl thing where they just use guys and walk all over them.

But really, if you’ve experienced it, you’re reading your experience all wrong!

What you experienced wasn’t a girl thing. It’s a human thing!

All of us as humans behave the same way. [Read: 15 reasons why nice guys lose the girl and finish last all the time!]

When we get something too easily without really working for it, we never appreciate it. If we don’t desire something and get it all of a sudden, we never really care too much for it. And that holds good for material things, and for matters of the heart too.

The art of taking things slow while pursuing a girl

When it comes to pursuing a girl, always take things slow. Pursue her, but at the same time, make her work for your affection too. It’s great to follow your instincts in life, but when it comes to falling in love, your inexperienced instincts will always lead you straight into the middle of the firing zone.

When you fall in love with a girl, you’d just want to know what’s on her mind and whether she likes you back too. But unless you make her want you and desire you first, she can’t really value you or even realize how great a guy you are, don’t you think?

Take time, play it safe and easy, and help her see how awesome you are. And even before you know it, when you finally pop the question, she’d have the answer that you’re just waiting to hear. [Read: How to make a girl like you without even asking her out!]

What girls want in a great guy

Just like you want to date a great girl, the girl you like would want to date a great guy too! So if you want to woo a girl who’s all that, you need to turn yourself into a guy who’s awed by all other guys and desired by every girl.

First impressions play a big part in making a girl like you instantly. But even if you weren’t able to impress her at first sight, fret not, because there are always second chances *although you may have to work just a little bit harder!* [Read: 15 things girls look for in a great guy to fall for him]

The two scenarios while making her fall in love

When you start to fall for a girl, and you still haven’t told her that you love her, there are just two scenarios you could experience. She may like you back, or well, she may not like you back just yet.

But on the other hand, if she doesn’t even know you exist or if both of you aren’t friendly yet, make sure you get her to notice you first. [Read: 8 flattering ways to get a girl to notice you and think you’re a great guy!]

Scenario #1 She likes you too

If you’re talking to her already, and you’re getting all the great vibes from her, you’re well on your way to impressing her. Just remember to avoid being hasty, flirt with her and have a good time with her, but use the tips I’ve mentioned below to make her work for your attention so she can fall for you even before you ask her out. [Read: 12 easy signs to spot and find out if a girl likes you a lot already!]

Scenario #2 She doesn’t like you yet

So how can you tell if a girl doesn’t like you or doesn’t see you as a dating potential yet? It’s simple really. Notice how she behaves around you.

Does she laugh or smile more often around you than she does with other guys?  Does she text you or call you now and then for no reason at all? Or does she bump into you at the cafeteria and talks to you for a while even if her friends are around or waiting for her? If she isn’t doing any of this already and she’s not really a shy girl, she probably hasn’t fallen for you yet. Take it slow, and use these tips on how to win a girl’s heart effortlessly in no time. [Read: How to woo a girl who doesn’t like you already and win her over in no time!]

18 foolproof ways to make a girl fall in love with you

If you want to make a girl fall in love with you, play it cool. And as much as you want to go all out with your guns blazing because that’s what your heart tells you to do, avoid it!

Play the game with your mind instead, and take calculated risks with each new step, especially if the girl you love doesn’t like you just yet.

Use these 18 ways on how to make a girl fall in love with you, and as long as avoid a reckless streak, you should be well on your way to winning her heart and making her fall for you in no time! [Read: 25 things about a guy that are a huge turn on for girls!]

#1 Don’t rush it. Take your time and play it cool. Never ever make your intentions too clear to the girl you like, and don’t be overeager to pour your feelings.

#2 Just the right amount of attention. Don’t drop all your commitments and give her all your attention all the time. That’s the easiest way to make a girl get bored of you really soon. An older woman may appreciate a man who’s dropping his priorities to make time for her, but when a girl is younger, she’d just lose your value or assume you’re a boring guy with all the time in the world to spare. [Read: How to make a girl smile, laugh and like you instantly]

#3 Love yourself. This is very important. Do you truly love yourself? If you don’t think you’re awesome, how can you convince the world and all the beautiful girls in it that you’re an awesome guy? Fall in love with yourself and respect yourself, and the world will see you the same way too! [Read: How to love yourself and become a much better guy!]

#4 Let her see that you have a life. Keep yourself busy and involve yourself in different activities. Go on out there and enjoy the world, be it by trekking over the weekend, joining a few fun clubs or even doing something new with your friends. The more interesting you and your conversations are, the more awed by you she’ll be. [Read: How to talk to a girl and look really smooth doing it]

#5 Look great. Looks aren’t every girl’s biggest priority, but it’ll definitely be a perk if you can look really fit and healthy. Work out, look healthy, dress well, and smell great. You’ll make a much better first impression with every girl you meet.

#6 Believe in yourself. It’s not easy to believe in yourself when you think you’re a nobody. But just because you’re failing with women or unable to impress a girl, that’s no reason to call yourself a failure. Start believing in yourself and your capabilities, and enjoy the world.

#7 Don’t reveal your insecurity. Never reveal your jealous streak to the girl you like, especially if she’s getting a lot of attention from other guys who are trying to woo her at the same time. If she sees you as an insecure and jealous guy, she’ll just think you’re a creepy guy. A little bit of jealousy is cute, but only after she starts showing signs of liking you back. [Read: How to win a girl’s heart even if there’s another guy that likes her]

#8 Don’t get clingy. Always give a girl her space, especially when you’re trying to woo her. Don’t keep bumping into her intentionally, avoid constantly staring at her each time she’s talking to some other guy, and stop calling her every night. Give her some space and give her the chance to miss you and realize how bored she is without having you around. [Confession: I’m a guy who’s too clingy and needy!]

#9 The dependable guy. Help her around when she needs help. Be the guy she can depend on to get her out of trouble. Girls love it when a guy they’re with has a protective streak. If she feels safe with you, or believes you’re a guy who can handle any tough situation, you’re already in her good books.

#10 Flirt friendly and naughty. She’d have a harder time flirting with you if there are other guys around, so try to get some alone time with her when you get the opportunity. If you want to take it slow because you’re uncertain about her feelings for you, start by flirting as a friend. [Read: How to flirt with a girl and still behave just like a friend]

And once you’re past the friendly flirting, take it to the next level. The best way to flirt with a girl and make her shed her inhibitions is by flirting while texting or while talking over the phone. [Read: How to get a girl to start flirting with you while texting her]

Try to call her up late in the evenings or sometime at night when she’s in bed, lower your tone and speak softly, and before you know it, both of you would be flirting naughty in less than a week as long as you ask the right questions! [Read: 20 naughty text messages to start a sexy conversation]

#11 Touch her. The power of touch is something most guys overlook while trying to make a girl fall in love with them. While talking to her, look for an excuse to touch her now and then. You could place your hand on her lower back while crossing the street, or touch her earlobe while admiring her earring, or even linger the hug for just a moment longer than necessary while saying goodbye. [Read: 8 ways to touch a girl casually and make her horny!]

#12 Don’t tell her you love her. This is a big mistake, at least if you say it before she shows signs of liking you. Always leave her wondering what’s on your mind even if you’re flirting with her. The curiosity will make her want you already. Go out on a date or two before you even think of telling her that you like her.

#13 Give her a gift. But make sure the gift is something small or insignificant that it doesn’t even feel like a gift. You could give her a pen, or a little showpiece or a little something you think she’ll like.

Every time she sees it, it would remind her of you, and yet, because you haven’t told her you like her already, it’ll make her wonder what your intentions are, and that’ll make her fall for you, slowly and steadily even before she realizes it herself! [Read: 50 really sweet and cute things to say to a girl]

#14 Don’t give her all the control. Meet her often and talk to her over the phone often. But every now and then, back off for a day or two and wait for her to call you or ask you out on a date. By making her take the effort now and then, you’d be forcing her to woo you and try to get your attention! And that would only make her fall harder for you.

#15 Make her miss you. This is a short phase you need to make her go through for a few days so she can realize just how much she likes you once you’re past the other steps. After both of you have become really close to each other, make her miss you now and then.

When you’re having an interesting conversation with her, tell her you have to go and hang up just when the conversation starts to get interesting. It’s the easiest way to help her realize how much she needs you in her life! [Read: 10 ways to make a girl want you and think of you sexually]

#16 Don’t always be available. If you want to make a girl fall in love with you, be there for her. But if you feel like she’s using you at any point of time, back off and tell her you’re busy. If you avoid backing off now and then when you’re busy or when you feel like she’s using you for something, you’ll end up becoming her doormat and her man friday. And remember this, a girl would never want to date a guy who behaves like her slave.

#17 But don’t be an asshole. Being unavailable now and then while wooing a girl is a great way to let her see that you’re not always available at her beck and call. But that doesn’t mean you have to behave like a total ass. Be charming and courteous around her, and never treat her badly or disrespectfully. [Read: The art of chivalry while wooing a girl]

#18 Treat her like a girlfriend. Even before you ask her out or tell the girl that you love her, start behaving like a boyfriend. Be protective of her when you’re around, take care of her needs, plan dates together and try to catch up with each other often. And even before she realizes it, both of you would be dating. And she would be madly in love with you already!  [Read: The 10 important traits that make a guy a great boyfriend]

[Read: Really sweet ways to tell a girl that you love her for the first time]

It’s easy to make a girl fall in love with you. All you need to do is play it safe and smooth and avoid making your intentions clear right at the beginning. And use these 18 foolproof steps on how to make a girl fall in love with you!

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23 thoughts on “How to Make a Girl Fall in Love with You: 18 Steps to Win Her Heart”

  1. Appreciate the recommendation. Will try it out.

  2. caesy says:

    I Love this Article, and thanks to you am having a an awesome relationship, even though it took me time to start it.

  3. diffy says:

    Guys I love a girl and although I didn’t wanted to, I had to tell her that I do. Since then our great friendship has worsened and she has started to loose interest in me. Someone please suggest any idea to revive it. I really want her in my life.

  4. atem says:

    I made her know i’m in love with her too early;what do i do known?

  5. b says:

    There’s no right way to tell the person that you want them. Its never to soon to tell someone how you feel. Feelings are feelings… Your feeling matter… Life is too short to wait and play games. If you feel what you feel… just say it. If they don’t say or do anything back, move on. There are either in your frequency or not. Don’t be sad if they don’t feel the same way… so what! There are a lot of other people who are ready to be loved and want to love you back now, today, not next week or next year… Do what makes you happy….

  6. dani best says:

    relation is based on that particular person’s behavior.understanding the behavior of that individual is v ery important to do your best

  7. pradeep says:

    a girl tells me that she likes me as a person and i am an important part in her life but says that we are just friends.What does it mean?

  8. Diffys answer says:

    If u told her that u love her, and u are in the friendzone. And she ignores u more and more. Start flirt with her friends, help her with things. This worked for me( 2 years ago). She will almost forget it. I hope this helps.

  9. Kasey says:

    I’m going to add on here. Be seen with other women. I’m not saying be seen hitting on or dating other women (though if those other women are hitting on you that’s good). You mostly want to show her you get along with other women. Women respond to how other women react to a guy for clues about him. If they see other women like you (even as just friends) they assume you’ve got something going for you that women like. Also #7 shows in body language and voice. Talk slow and calm, your voice should be clearly felt when you place your hand on your chest. Shoulders down,back and relaxed. Occupy the space you’re in like you own it, but not all sprawled out. don’t shrink in or fidget. Walk with a calm unhurried pace. and pay attention to grooming (hair AND nails) and what you wear should all go together (plenty of free resources on the web), And while us guys don’t care, women place a lot of import on shoes, it’s like astrology is to some, we know it’s bunk, but they believe in it anyway, and no amount of talking is going to change their mind. Neither brag nor hide your best self. If you have a great job, talk about something funny that happened at work. Got a great car, don’t say I have convertable sports car, but if you tell a funny story about a sudden rainstorm nearly soaked you and your ex, but you lent her your good jacket to cover up while you pulled over to put the top up (don’t say “of my brand xyz sports car” she might ask, but don’t expect it or worry about it if she doesn’t). With that you tell her you’re not a looser that can’t get a date, you make her laugh, you show her you take care of your loved ones, and you have convertible (most are sportscars or roadsters, she got it).

  10. ISRAR AHMAD says:

    if i get my girlfriend on thse articles i will be …………………………………………….

  11. Andy says:

    Why bother? Love is fleeting, not enough for a good relationship and at best a secondary concern. Guys, women are way overrated because you just want to f?ck them to much. Our evolutionary urge to mate. Many women are nothing more than children in adult bodies that want to be taken care of. They see the guy as an early retirement plan. Single life is better than married life if you include divorces. If you do not then married life is only better in one way. That is the unearned wealth you get from government or work benefits because you are married. Everything else is the same dispite what is claimed. Be careful of cited studies because they are purposely misreported or poorly done. Believing in real equality will make you see how brainwashed we are and how the marriage scam works. It is a left over from the old days breeding program and currently great thing for consumerism but those are other stories.

  12. Andy says:

    Also, do not treat them any different than a guy friend. You will seperate wheat from chaff.

  13. Konark Kashyap says:

    This is truly one of the most revealing love articles i have ever read, even on LovePanky. Thank you LovePanky, this would have already helped numerous relationships prosper and will continue to do so.

  14. justin says:

    My ex and I didn’t talk for almost a month. Then she messages me and tells me that she misses me Etc. We see each other one day,the next day she tells me she loves me. I tell her I love her too. She makes plans with me that morning to see her that night.later that afternoon she msgs me and tells me plans have changed and I won’t be seeing her. It’s now been 2 days and I still haven’t heard from her. He last message was “let’s play this slow and easy yeah?”
    Is this woman playing a game with me? Or what do you think her intentions are?
    I know she was involved with another guy after we split.

  15. homendra says:

    Firstly when she knew that I like her her behavior changed… I was a shy guy.. When her friends call her by my name she smiled She came closer to my benches hoping i’ll talk to her but I didn’t.. Then she came to me talked to me but I didn’t made an eye contact with her.. Then she stopped talking…then I send her friend request on facebook..but whenever I comment(usually flirty) on her profile she doesn’t give replies…and gives frown expressions when people call her by my name but she still looks at me now but now when I sat closer to her she changes her place.. Stops eating when sees me,.. And suddenly breaks the accidental eye contact with me now… Yesterday, I was depressed at school and was reading the book all day for relief. on that day I was sitting on the bench just next to the door where she was standing… She was moving the door hoping i’ll notice her but I didn’t as I was terribly depressed also she said “OMG homendra reads a lot,, in a suprising way I don’t know is it a compliment or not then she sat on my side bench and after sometime she left.. I’m confused she loves/like me or not… And plz tell what to do and what not

  16. serenity geo says:

    homendra i think you should tack to her ,what you feel, only say life is short and i want to get to know with you well we should try it and go on date. i think she likes you you shouldnt be so shy be yourself ,be brave,be confident and everything will be allright …

  17. Duncan says:

    I’m a freshman, she told me she had a boyfriend (never meet him) but that didn’t stop me, this cite that teens who need this cite to understand the female body more than anyone (because of their hormones are all over the place at this point) need to go to this cite since this is such an awesome cite to go to. I skipped some of the steps (10 and 11) accidentally told her, she was doing the reverse of this to me, missed the gift part (she wanted a quater, thought she needed money {I’m such a f****** idiot}) but all u have to do is stay kind and be her shoulder to cry on throughout this and she will see that you are the right choice.

  18. Unknown says:

    I actually followed this article and it worked out…..thanks so much

  19. allen says:

    Ok if been going threw these steps and I already have done a few. The girl I am trying to get is amazing in everyway and I feel a very strong conection. We dated a little when we wer younger 18…I got in my first car accident with her on our first date.. Long story short I was young and did all the donts you have said besides telling her the L word…red carpets doors. Mr nice guy. Did not work. I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said she didn’t want a relationship. Witch I understand now that I am 27 years old…both of us have gotten out of a long relationship and both wer bad…but I have a son now and she has no kids..we have been Talking and hung out once at my friends to watch a boxing match…she stayed for 2 hours then left because she had work early. The whole time I was making good contact making her laugh and making her feel part of our group right when she left is when she got really comfortable and I made sure to not text her tell the next day…that was a couple days ago and when have been texting and playing games together on our phones. She always acts in interested and it’s making me go crazy just like u have said… I can’t duck this up. I can’t I haven stopped thinking about her since I first saw her 9 years ago. She shit me down once and this is my 2nd chance….I need advice because I don’t think everything you have mentioned will work on her…she started showing a little more attention to me when I showed my brains and not my bronze. I can tell she wants someone real and she is over the bull just like me…do I be straight up with her and say hey chick we are both over the crap and want something real we have a little history and we enjoy each other. Or should I play the game like I didn’t to show her I’m not the nice guy boy she once knew…I’m very honest with people and I don’t want to be to honest to soon….the romantic movies arnt true because of tryed that crazy dancing in the rain and sweep her off her feet scrap. It dose not work unless she is mentally insane lol…it’s just the fantasy they want…I really need some advice please help….

  20. manish says:

    I fell for a girl at the very first moment I saw her.We both are in the same class in our college.I liked her very much and so I used to give her eye contacts.The best part was that she gave me eye contacts too.Not once,not twice,but many times!As time passed by,I realised she was interested in me.But I couldn’t go there and talk to her.I am a shy and nervous guy.Its been over 1.5 years that we both been watching each other but we never spoke to each other.After a year,she doesn’t look at me like she did before.The thought of her moving on scares me.I don’t even know if she has a boyfriend.
    I love her so much but just can’t express my feelings to her.I just want her in my life so bad.
    What do I do now?
    Need some advice from you guys.would appreciate it.

  21. Adeah says:

    Hey adeah

  22. Mark says:

    cannot make anyone fall in love with you. However, there are several
    good ways to convince a girl to choose to fall in love with you. The
    process is called courtship. It

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