Comments on: How to Compliment a Girl and Make Her Blush Flirt. Tease. Fall in Love. Indulge in the finest reads on love, dating, self-improvement, and a lot more. Sat, 25 Apr 2015 12:59:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Donald Sun, 22 Mar 2015 06:20:07 +0000 Thanks Gent for the enlightening comments. I was once thought that my once ex was my soulmate as I was about to propose to her. But things went awkward when I found out that that she cheated on me and met a guy at the online dating site. I am still taking time to forget her (as I do love her deeply) and I know I will definitely find a better one one-day. I do not put high hope on her anymore even though we may come across in life again in future. But I do know that I am starting to love myself more as I have been giving and pouring out love more than I receiving. Thank u all for such comments.

For everyone, don’t ever give up on life and one day somewhere at the right timing you will meet the person that who will truly love you as who you are. BE URSELF.

By: gent Sun, 08 Mar 2015 10:08:00 +0000 Dear DJ
Thanks for the post it is one of the most courageous letters i have ever read. I believe the same courage should drive you in your life. Not by expressing unhappiness but by embracing life knowing there is someone out there for you just as smart, kind, and beautiful as you are. I can guarantee you 50% of the time its just chemistry. It is something we feel when around someone we like and i am 100 % sure she feels it too without saying a single word. I am someone who has had very beautiful girlfriends and i am really a very nice guy. Never cheated on anyone, never lied (since i never felt the need to because ive always been with the person i wanted to be with),. However, i have been cheated and lied on lately by the person i thought the love of my life :). Its been 4 years i cant have a relationship which for me is a very very long time. Last week i met a girl which made me feel happy again at last. Therefore i would really encourage you to keep trying. Don’t even think about pity sex and sisters friends just go for the people you like. Sure you will get a lot closed doors but don’t we all? one thing that might help is to do this out of your social network at least it has worked for me. Im sure you will find the right person in time. furthermore keep in mind that we can not , on my view, reduce love only to our partner. Obviously it is a big part of it but there is the love for your family friends and anything that fulfills you in life (job, interests, hobbies and so son) so do something you really like and i guarantee you will become attractive in itself.
You definitely don’t lack the courage.
Bye Buddy

By: JDDominator Thu, 26 Feb 2015 02:13:21 +0000 Funny how I’ve tried all these things and they never work. All my friends have hot chicks and they mistreat them to no end. I guess women like a challenge if you are always kind you will get booted when Mr. tough guy shows up on the scene. LOL…

By: Juraj Tue, 30 Dec 2014 00:25:36 +0000 Hey everybody.

It is nice to read all the articles and see the sympathy from all of you.

DJ. A little short advice for you. Care about your health and stay the same person as you are. Go to the gym and lose weight. Not for being more attractive but for your health. If you are healthy everything else will come in no time. Just be patient and work on yourself. About girls and guys. We are the same. Some of us are better and some of us are worse. The life will teach you as it does all of us. Think only of your health. Trust me. There are people in the world who would swap your situation with you. So head up and enjoy your life cause it flies!!!

If you are healthy the rest is just the question of time.

By: Darryl Tue, 16 Dec 2014 08:28:00 +0000 This article seems to go against other articles on not being a nice guy, avoiding the friend zone etc etc

By: LouDog Fri, 05 Dec 2014 16:15:24 +0000 This article is old, but I found it and after reading the article and some of the comments, I figured I would leave my piece.
First off, a lot of stuff is pretty good advice in the article, i.e. sincere compliments, which should be focused on her personality and behavior, looks are secondary and i only use physical compliments in passing, when either they did an impressive job dressing up to go out on a date with me, or if they have some small physical detail that really catches my eye, but again i keep that to a minimum. Chivalry is good too, but again don’t go overboard towards the gentlemanly caricature that will lay out his coat over a puddle so that your date can walk straight through the puddle and, metaphorically, over you. Make that woman walk around the damn puddle, she isn’t that special. Initially, aim to treat her just a tad bit more special than one of your good buddies, to show you’re interested but not a pushover. Save most of the touchy-feely emotional jazz jazz i.e. writing her poetry for after you go facebook official, but believe me that stuff works wonders when introduced at the right moment.
And for all you guys having problems with the girls, I used to be in the same boat. I learned, as every man has to, that achieving success in your love life is not about picking up or going after chicks, or even chasing ‘The One’. It’s about the journey, my friends. The journey is yours, and you’re the only one that knows where your rightful destination is, the place that will truly make you happy. It’s all about you. So once you start building your life up from square one, going out into the world and doing the things that you WANT to do, what makes YOU happy, people that compliment your lifestyle will inevitably be introduced into your life. And that statement includes more than enough women, and more than that, most of them will be compatible with you in some way.
Just go interact with everyone you can, don’t try to hit on every girl that gives you the time of day, make a bunch of female friends, and once you have a social life established, you will inevitably start running into women you ‘click’ with. That’s where you make your move. Like I said, no need to go after them like a pit bull would go after the stray cats that made the unfortunate mistake of walking into its general vicinity. Just be friendly, treat them like human beings and not objects you gawk at for visual enjoyment, but also make it known that you find them interesting and want to get to know them on more personal levels.
Everything will be reciprocal. If a woman is not reciprocating your interest in her after a bit of effort on your behalf, DON’T BE A BITCH. Move on. You’re gut will tell you if she’s jerking you around, trying to use you for something, or simply if that spark you may have felt wasn’t mutual.
That’s about the last piece of advice I can give you once you’ve made it past this point: “DON’T BE A BITCH.” You will end up alone or whipped by a girlfriend that doesn’t put out nearly enough for what it’s worth. I hope this literary piece motivates some of you/gives you hope that shit will get better. It always does and this especially applies to any of you kids just out of high school. You have no idea how far you can move forward, how exciting life can get, and how much grow into a better man, in just a few years. If you made it this far, thanks for reading bros.

By: Reformed guy Tue, 27 May 2014 09:11:58 +0000 DJ it’s not because girls hate your appearance that you don’t have a girlfriend it’s because you hate yourself. You need to accept, love and respect yourself with confidence, not in an arrogant way.

JJF897 get another friend or tell him to buzz off when you have a chance to be alone with her, if he says he doesn’t know when to go, tell him you’ll let him know, when you meet her ask her if she’d like to speak with you privately, if your friend follows you let him know you’ll join him later after you have spoken with her. Tell her you find her interesting and want to get to know her better.

By: Adrian Mon, 24 Mar 2014 21:10:56 +0000 To DJ, man I feel your pain completely, know exactly what it’s like to be fat (280 lbs) your whole life and not have any friends at school or anywhere, where people just make fun of you the whole time and everyone takes a shot because they can. I’m 25 and never had a girlfriend, a kiss, hug, nothing from any girl before. It’s so true what you say about social skills, you say you didn’t develop any because of moving around too much – for me it was being in an extremely negative, controlling and narcissistic household growing up, and also having no siblings. My dad liked to control all, and I mean all, of my decisions, actions, everything my whole life, but he was also emotionally cold and distant too, and extremely hard to please. This has engrained in my mind that I am a complete failure as a human being, even though I’m told by some other people that I should never think that of myself – I can’t help it, it’s the most normal feeling for me, I just can’t believe in myself, it feels so unnatural. But, I must say, my dad’s actions were most of the time because of his alcoholism, I still believe it wasn’t the real him that acted like this. Now it’s extremely difficult, he’s given up the drinking and wants to have a father-son bond now that I’m older, but he’s genuinely like a stranger to me – we have never shared or talked my whole life, and just feels strange to do so now. This, I think, is where my lack of skills with girls comes from, my parent’s marriage is not based on love but hate, and the way he treated my mother when he was drunk (most of the time) gave me no example of how a man should treat a woman.

At home I was alone, in my own little world, just observing the chaos. At school I was even more alone. Believe it or not, before going to school, I was actually quite an active child and very healthy. As soon as I went to school that’s when I started gaining weight. Nobody wanted me to play sports with them, in their teams, because I never fit in ever. I was always alone and it wasn’t long and I found love in junk food. For about 18 years of my life now, I’ve been fat and consume several pounds of sugar and fat daily, in various forms – I know it. My body is covered in hideous scars as it expanded, especially during puberty.

But, as I gather from your post, you still got a lot right in your life, and so did I, I guess. I managed to go to university and get several degrees because my brain was always an asset I could count on, despite everything else. There I met an amazingly beautiful angel of a girl, which was everything I’ve ever dreamed of – and then everything came crashing down from there, because what did this fat fool do – he told her how much he loved her and she ran like the wind, never to be heard from again.

I’ve basically been drained from all emotions and feelings completely now at this point and someone told me that they think I actually suffer from major depressive disorder, which fits because I have love for nothing, I hate everything about my life and wish I was dead.

To “truth” thanks for the brutal, yet inspiring, post bro. I’m pretty much in the same boat as DJ, and your post pretty much applies to me too. I just wish I could find the energy to do all the stuff you said man, but with this MDD, you can’t believe how it genuinely kills you inside as a person – you have no desire to do anything. I know how stupid this sounds, but it really is like that. It’s like I’m dead already, just not buried yet. I feel like there’s another being inhabiting my body, like it’s evil or something, and all it’s doing is literally killing the spirit that used to be me, who at one point, still enjoyed life a little bit. And this “person” lies, is nasty to others, is bitter, is hateful and drives everyone out of my life who can help me, and spends the whole day convincing me how worthless I am. I can almost hear it talking to me in my head. I can’t help it, because I believe this “person” since all that it says is backed up by 20+ years of experience through all the stuff I’ve seen in my life. It just appears so true when it tells me how worthless I am, because that’s exactly what I see with my eyes, happening in my life. It’s like it’s saying “see, I told you so”.

To DJ, bro, I wish all the best for you man. I hope so much that you can conquer all this stuff in your life, but especially the fat, I know how crap that is to live with. You’re the first person I ever met who knows what it’s like to experience this type of life, a life destroyed by obesity. I applaud you for your courage and I don’t know about you, but I find it easier to talk to people through writing, like this. You’re a genuine good guy man and I would have loved to have had a friend like you anytime in my childhood, it would’ve made stuff so much easier to deal with.

And, to “satan” ^^ I totally know how you feel man. I’ve given up on relationships because I got nothing to offer a girl, ’cause it’s like you say, I’m dead inside.

By: satan Fri, 28 Feb 2014 03:59:46 +0000 to the dude who stutters and is a genius: you misspelled intellect…. genius. :p i’m kidding though, just thought it was funny. here’s a different problem. i’m not fat, i’ve had girls call me sexy, and i’m funny and entertaining to talk to. yet i’ve never had a girlfriend. why? i’m dead inside. nothing’s there. empty of everything but hate. i’ve never attempted to be involved with a girl, because i preferred solitude my entire life to the horse shit i see everywhere. recently i made the conscious decision to have feelings for a girl for an experiment. we’ll see how it goes.

By: JJF897 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 23:52:16 +0000 Hello, I’m JJF, and I’m 14 years old. My comment is NOT going to be heart warming (necessarily) and fuzzy all over, but I want to get this off my chest, and ask for advice. I like this girl(a lot) and I’ve looked at these sites. They all say “be your self”, “be handsome”, etc… I’m listening to you all, and I’ve come to the realization that I don’t like this girl just for her looks. I mean, yes, she is extremely beautiful (blue eyes, gorgeous teeth, blonde hair, amazing smile), but I also like her for HER. Just today, I heard her sing as we were walking down the hallway, and I was so mesmerized by her incredible voice that I was speechless. My friend that knows I like her won’t ever go away (I know that sounds selfish, I’m sorry, but seriously…) and leave her and I together so I can muster up the courage and tell her how I feel without it being socially awkward. Every time I’m around her, I’m lost in her. I try to go with the flow even though I don’t know what to say! I can’t casually ask her for her phone number because I don’t have a phone, so PLEASE don’t say “just ask her for her phone number, and text her. Chat with her, see what happens”! My brain is telling me to follow my heart, and my friend says to follow my heart (this is another friend). I think that she is absolutely amazing, stunningly beautiful, very kind, I love the way her voice sounds, and she has the prettiest blue eyes you’ll ever see! My problem is that, when I tell her, it’ll be awkward because she doesn’t necessarily know me very well. I talk to her every day (except the weekends), and I want to her how I feel, but like I said before, I’m afraid that me telling her my feelings for her will put what little of a friendship we have in a rut. So if anyone can give me some advice it’s you all! :) I’ve really enjoyed reading everyone’s responses by the way. Also, I don’t know if this matters at all, but she’s 15-about 8 months older than me. Thank you in advance for any responses!