Knowing how to compliment a girl is pretty important when you’re trying to make a lasting impression. After all, a compliment shows that you’ve noticed how nice a woman she really is.
There are many ways to compliment a girl, and they’re always going to sound nice.
Wouldn’t you appreciate it if you took a lot of time to dress well and your date complimented you on how nice you look?
It feels good, doesn’t it? Your date did notice the fact that you’ve cleaned up.
And just like that, girls love to be complimented too.
In fact, women love compliments a lot more than men do.
How to compliment a girl
One of the first things you should know about complimenting a girl is to be sincere.
Don’t just say something nice because you read it in a book or your friend texted you a few complimentary ques.
Be genuine when you compliment a girl, and if she does see the sincerity in your eyes, she’ll be more flattered and will appreciate your compliment.
If you’re just playing out rehearsed compliments, she would only feel uncomfortable and annoyed when she realizes you’re just trying to compliment her to get your way into her pants.
To compliment a girl, you need to understand the different ways you can do it, while flattering her at the same time.
Compliment a girl for how beautiful she looks
This is time tested and perfect all year round. You obviously know your date looks beautiful, or you wouldn’t be with her *yes, we know men are shallow*. So when you finally do meet her at the date, compliment her on how beautiful/cute/gorgeous/pretty she looks. How can you not appreciate such a wonderful woman when she’s taken so much of an effort to look cute as a button just for you?
Stare at her often
Stare at her often when you’re on a date with her. It’s one of the best compliments a guy can ever give a girl. This does come naturally when you’re smitten by a beautiful girl who’s out on a date with you, but remember this as one of those quiet compliments. [Read: What to talk about on a first date]
If you can’t help staring at a girl and getting lost in her eyes or her beauty, it just shows how happy you are to be with her. And yeah, you could also tell her how happy she makes you feel. That’s another great compliment for a girl.
Compliment her with words
One of the best ways in knowing how to compliment a girl is to do it with words. Not the spoken ones, the written ones.
Love stories and poems have been written by men to profess their love for their sweetheart. It would be really flattering if you could write a poem, but your girlfriend would definitely settle for something you’re capable of doing, and that’s sending a sweet text after the date or picking a beautiful card to profess your feelings for her.
Compliment her for her skills
Is she a ravishing karaoke singer or someone who knows her fine wine? Compliment her for that! [Read: Best questions to ask on a date]
Most men assume girls don’t like to be complimented for anything other their appearance, but that’s just not true! As a matter of fact, women are so accustomed to being complimented only for their good looks that it doesn’t soften their heart as much as a character compliment could.
So the next time you’re out with your woman and she shows off one of her great skills, whatever it may be, compliment her if it awes you.
Compliment her femininity
Compliment her feminine side like kindness, her caring nature, the way she smiles and makes time stand still, the cute thing she does with her hair, or the way she fans herself when she’s feeling hot and the blushing awkward faces she makes when you compliment her.
Knowing how to compliment a girl for her femininity is such a beautiful way to acknowledge her beauty and her sweet ways without really talking about her physical attributes.
Compliment a girl with your chivalry
Men have always been acknowledged as the protectors. When you’re out on a date, make your date feel special and well taken care of. Pull her seat back for her, assist her whenever she needs assistance and pay attention to her every whim and fancy. Being chivalrous and ensuring that the girl with you is having a perfect time is one of the best ways to silently compliment the girl you’re with.
And you can rest assured on this, if you’re chivalrous and warm during the date, she’ll feel warm and fuzzy all throughout the date too! [Read: How to be chivalrous]
Things to know before you compliment a girl
#1 If you’re ever confused about complimenting a girl, some of the best aspects to compliment a girl are her eyes, hair, lips, her fragrance and her voice. It’s safe, and yet, very personal. It’s hard for any girl to forget a compliment that involves these aspects. [Read: What to talk about with a girl]
#2 Don’t ever compliment her girlie parts. You may be tempted to say “you look so sexy” or “I love the way you fit that tee shirt”, but it’s just too physical, especially during the first date or two. You can always use those sexy lines once you’ve grown closer and she trusts you better.
#3 The best compliments are the spontaneous ones. To understand how to compliment a girl sincerely, you always need to remember this pointer. The very instant you lay eyes on her, what do you think? As long as it’s not overly sexual, it’s definitely going to be a truthful and sincere compliment.
[Read: How to charm a girl]
Understand how to compliment a girl and use these ideas the next time you’re with the woman you like. It’ll definitely make her feel special, loved and a lot happier.
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So when you say “yes, we know men are shallow” does that mean to imply that women aren’t?
I’m an almost 19 year old male who weighs about 260 pounds. I ate myself to the size I am now because, as a child, I moved from one home to another probably two dozen times just when I started to make friends. When you have no friends and no social skills because of years of moving without stoping to get to know the people around you, you tend to find other ways to make yourself happy. In my case, it was food.
But then, my family found a permanent home to spend my middle and high school years. I came in the middle of sixth grade year to a school where yet again I didn’t know anybody but most people who knew me liked me because I was such a nice kid even though I was constantly being made fun over being fat. And at the time people thought I was stupid so yet again I learned no social skills all through middle school.
The people around me seemed to have some personal grudge against me simply because they could get away with it. My closest friends were my siblings and their friends who I think genuinely liked me only because I was introduced to them by my older siblings. But I always felt like the third wheel. My day consisted of going to school having the other kids make fun of me to the point where I considered suicide. I was coming home smiling on the outside but dying a little on the inside saying my day was good, and if I was lucky hanging out with my sisters’ and brothers’ friends to make me feel better and worse at the same time.
And starting the day all over again, I was all the while trying to occasionaly talk to any girl who had the misfortune to get stuck with me on the bus or in class. And then high school came and with it I got several actual friends who were even worse than me as far as social ability goes. My grades went up, I went to several parties and almost had several opportunities to get sexual on some level with a girl but I couldn’t have them because they were either insane and were only interested in me because I was nice to them and they thought I would be willing to sacrifice what very little dignity I had left for some moderately attractive nookie or I couldn’t be with them because they were what’s left of my sisters’ friends after my brother would sleep with them. And then, they would stop talking to my sister because they were mad that my brother stopped talking to them after he got what he wanted out of them.
And although I wanted to be able to get the girl I didn’t want to be like my brother and use women. I wanted a real relationship and to let my sister keep her friends I wouldn’t want someone taking away what few friends I have. Why would I do that to someone else?
Every year I gained a little more self control and became a little more social. But I still have yet to go on a date, let alone kiss a girl or have sex, despite being on a personality level as close to being this ideal man you describe here as I’ll ever be because I’ve learned to relax around the opposite sex over the years.
But they still ignore me as a potential boyfriend because, quite frankly, I’m not attractive. Even if I lost my excess weight I have an unattractive face, but very slowly I’ve gained hope that one day I’ll find out how to be attractive to women by losing weight. I don’t just want sex, I want love so bad.
I don’t know why girls seem to have this idea that straight men want to be just friends with a girl, it’s not like saying we don’t respect you or we don’t like you as a person, we’re just not built to be just friends with a girl we find attractive. After years of growing as a person and slowly improving on myself, it was all pretty much undone, or I don’t know, maybe it just made me see how little I’ve actually improved.
On my way home from Saturday detention, me and my mom were going home when a 16 year old girl and her mom hit us doing a 45 on the passenger side of the car just in front of my door. My mom has a messed up shoulder that’s bad enough already, but my pelvis socket got a T fracture and the leg bone got dislocated. Two days later I went in for surgery where they found a major source of the pain was a piece of bone that got lodged in the socket. They repaired it as best they could, but I may walk with a painful arthritis limp for the rest of my life.
Now the only way to get a girl would be mercy sex or go to those other girls I spoke of earlier and probably not those all of which would either be me taking advantage of a girl’s niceness which I can’t morally do, or let them take advantage of me either to get to my brother because I’m a safe boyfriend, meaning they can keep me around until they get tired of me without feeling bad for me or their loss, and that’s my options for pretty much the rest of my life.
I think but I never said ‘Oh, I don’t want that girl simply because she’s not pretty enough for me”. So basically, this whole thing that I just wrote boils down to not all men are shallow, just most of the ones that girls want are.
If you want a nice guy who respects, loves and appreciates you and isn’t shallow, date a fat, ugly guy for real. Not just because he’s safe. Besides, attractive people rarely need this advice as they have little problem getting whatever girl they want, so they wouldn’t be on this page, meaning if they are on this page, they’re probably fat, ugly and desperate like me so they wouldn’t be shallow so there’s no need to say that as that’s not your current audience. To tell you the truth, I don’t even know if what I just said makes sense as I’m on pain meds, but I just saw this article and was offended by that little line, so I had to say something.
this dude is too right ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
if anything girls are becoming the more shallow type
I really admire dj’s courage to talk about himself, much respect for him.
DJ, it seems to me that life dealt you a really bad hand. I’d just like to give you comfort in the fact that after reading your comment I think I became a better person.
Hello DJ!
I just want you to know that after reading your post here, I felt a sudden thug inside my heart…so I am sharing my experience with you.
It’s a different perspective especially coming from a guy like you, and as you say, a person of your unique situation– I am enlightened by your post.
I am a woman who’s been a usual subject of guy’s flirtations and have been aware about that since I was in second or third grade. I grew up to have been blessed with a pretty face (higher than standard) and a well form feminine attributes (assets men really admire). But apart from this physical traits, the greatest gift for me is the brains I have been so fortunate to be blessed too. Now, I may sound narcissistic but the point here is that in spite of these things, I have struggled for years to find real love and be truly loved–just like you. I was a bit sad, frustrated and disappointed with the world before –I hated the way people perceive others and vice versa. I cannot say that I didn’t like the attention, but it became a handicap too in finding the real good man.
Women, unlike guys have a hard time really chasing a man that they adore. Well in my case, I’ve had so many “great ones” to choose from but usually it’s the guy who’s not into me that really attracts me the most. You might wonder why this irony, well, it is simply because I find most other brilliant good-looking guys as self-centered and too conceited that when they go after me it would be obviously for my looks and exterior—and they probably already feel that they can have whoever! (which is a huge turn-off for me!) The truth is, I just want to be appreciated more for my wit, my talents, and my whole personality rather than be very much physical about me. I want to be loved for the real person that I am, and for my hopeless romantic heart.
For many years, I have faced with the challenge of finding a man who’d see me more as this great smart lady who’s so funny and good to be with– not because I am pretty or sexy (men would just always confess to me how they like my appeal—mind you, NOT the real ME). I find it shallow how society would somehow label people and be drawn to some of them according to what the norm may dictate as “beautiful.” The sad thing is up to present, this “disease” have continued to spread and have infected the minds of the greater population of this planet— physical looks have become a top priority! And it’s really frustrating— I felt as bad too like you about this society.
Then years later, I have already proven myself to be more than just a pretty face and body and currently works in the professional healthcare industry –but I would like to tell you that the scenario have changed for better. Smart people have been admired now as equally as the beautiful people (and sometimes more!)—and well, I received more respect and gratitude for my wit than before after having this kind of accomplishment. It is during this time that I was able to meet this very intelligent, kind, and really brilliant guy who have complimented me more as a bright woman (although he did confess that his impression too was I also look adventurous and hot). This guy was no Adonis and looks just average (he’s tall and have strong shoulders and physique, but a bit on the heavier side too), but his personality and character was way excellent and admirable which makes him superhandsome– He was such an ALPHA male! He exudes that incredible confidence, wit and charm! He just swept me off my feet! He came at the right time—and he was the perfect guy for me.
So, don’t lose hope DJ… Just be as positive and optimistic. A lot of amazing women still exist out there—meaning they are not shallow people who would be interested only on superficial aspects of a guy. Learn to accept that you are as beautiful too and created to be unique. And yes, these women you fancy may seem like the “hot elusive” ones for you, but they might be just like you too, also lonely and still searching for that true love (in whatever form).
Just continue to improve yourself, be successful, be a better person, and a gentleman always– Be the good man. In time, good women would see through you…Remember this: Only high caliber gals would be able to spot true high caliber guys! God bless!
I am a girl and girls are shallow. I know some girls are just Sluts with nothing better to do. But just like guys there are a lot of good ones. Love is hard and a lot of us build walls around us. We need someone to break them down. Dj you sound like a great guy.
I like a girl. She is an “unrequited dream”. However, she does have justification for not reciprocating the feeling I feel for her (shes eight years older than me, and is unlikely to see me again). My parents don’t know. I can’t let go, because before I felt this for her, I was in a situation as bleak as DJ’s (respect, man. I respect u). I was bullied, mocked, stressed, suffering from clinical depression and on the verge of misanthropy. And I had to keep it all inside of me. Imagine, having all of that building up inside you, and nobody who would listen. Then, this one day, we had visitors. Now, she was Audrey in a school play I was in of Lil Shop of Horrors. Anyway, it was a Sunday, four days before the performance. All the lead actors were there, painting and stuff. Anyway, so we had visitors, and we said, “why not go show them the school”. So we showed them around the set, and said hi to a few people. Then, she turnt up, and I felt my heart race like a Ferrari. When she didn’t see me, I felt really upset. At the time I was like “WTF?” and then I realised what I was feeling, and was just like “ohhh… s**t…”, coz I had just recovered from a very… painful experience to do with romance a few months before. Anywways, the rehearsal the next day was terrifying. However, the show was bloody epic, but moving on… I told a few friends, and they began to get sick of hearing about her. One bas*ard always made me look like a d*ck in front of her, by making me chase after him while threatening to tell her. I got to the stage where I told some people who, originally, I didn’t intend on telling, and they helped me get the confidence to tell her. (Un)fortunately, she rejected me absurdly kindly, which was a problem, because then I had to hold on to her, and I couldn’t tell myself “she doesn’t deserve me.” Then, two days later, I flew halfway around the world. I have kept in touch, but have stopped talking to her, coz I know she’s sick of me, though she won’t admit it. I’ve been wondering, how can I break this to my parents, make them like it, make her like me, and get her over here? It’s not possible, is it? I’m gonna live my life like this. I’m too deep to let go, and have too much to lose by doing so. So, got any good compliments for that situation?
Are you guys ready? lol
Im 27 yrs old and divorced.
I met this girl so long ago I was Prob 10 or 11 years old. I Never had the guts to tell her I Liked her. had plenty of times to do it too, she ended up dating one my close friends and had a few kids with him. I actually dated this other woman that i fell in love with and married her on October 1st 2011, Cought her Messing around on me while i was at work, Moved out exactly 1 yr later to the day and divorced her.
Now…..The First girl I met when i was 10…..she’s not with the father of her kids anymore(1 of my old bro’s) and I finally got the balls to tell her how i feel. and I lucked out, She has felt the same way for years.
but there is a catch…..she wont date me….she is going through stuff in her life that is crippling her ability to trust and love. she tells me she is scared to date me cuz of commitment issues. but i know she wants me. we text all day and night we say goodnight to each other we kiss and hug but and cuddle thats it, i have asked her three times to be my girlfriend and ever time she tells me she is scared, says she aint ready, I already have regrets from not telling her i liked her 15 years ago and again 5 years ago. thats twice i have let her slip away from me. i told her i would wait for her till she is ready, but i cant wait forever. we talk about life and I try compliment her everyday i see her almost every other day. I dont know i guess life will play it roll
Hello, I just read each and one of your comments and the whole article. And I must agree with Proud Filipa. I must say its really complicated these days especially relationship. I think relationship is too complicated in this 21 century. I had a lot of break ups. It makes me upset all the time I get used to these days. Breaking up is the hardest thing… ( I think we got a lot and a lot of freedom and people think we can do what we want ) I guess so…
Let me tell you straight Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone else. Be honest and open minded person and always think positive always.Always stand for the good. don’t worry if you break up with some one ,there are some where some one who will definitely love .
.life is like a journey. Just imagine you are driving your car its a long way way ahead which never stops.And in that journey you will face so many things is it ? Just think about it be creative. If that person doesn’t love you don’t worry about it . Just think and believe in yourself you will get a much better girl/guy in the future but just do what you have to do to build your self.If you are a guy/girl just think if you have a perfect career ahead if you… You will find a nice person one day in your life. Believe in god and respect everyones.
And last but not the least. Loving some one boy/girl will be many, but spending your lifetime future there will just be ONE partner. Be positive and always think ahead, broaden your mind and aim high.
OK, I bite…”DJ’s” comment got me to respond. Well played man, well played and as a result I decided to read the rest of the comments (interesting responses though). My comment is directed towards “DJ” and please understand I can be brutal at times. With that said, I wanted you not take this personally but rather with an open mind..
DJ you’re 19 yrs. old bro…and you act like life has dealt you a crappy hand! There are far more dire situations in the real world; that are far worse than yours. You have the authority to change yours, I PROMISE. At one point you had suicidal thoughts? That my friend is stupid and selfish, because you have people who actually care about you and love you bro. You stated that you’re oboes (260 Ibs)…fare enough but if you use that as a continuous excuse. You will never achieve the confidence that you are capable of, NEVER. In fact you will never exceed in life my man.
I understand middle school through High school can be rough, and your peers can be out right ignorant. You’re not the only kid to go through those tribulations bro. Like stated in the above your weight played a heavy roll in the verbal abuse, thus made you a recluse with extremely low self esteem. I want to shed some light into detourant and hopefully give you some confidence that will help you succeed.
1st: STOP BEING A BITCH, yup I said it…take the bottle out of your mouth and look at your situation like a young adult. You’re 19 yrs. old and have decades to live and better yourself. The first step is, stop playing video games, eating junk food, and watching TV more than 3 hrs. a day. I DON’T CARE IF YOU HAD A INJURY..stuff happens. You need to over come that obstacle and turn it into a positive entity. You have an official pimp walk, congrats.
2nd: EAT HEALTHY AND DO MODERATE EXERCISES until you build that physical confidence. I repeat..EAT HEALTHY AND DO MODERATE EXERCISES until you build that physical confidence you’re never going to get laid. Start by doing simple calisthenics and cardio. You need to burn off that unnecessary weight. At 260 Ibs. you’re a beast, I know it. If you turn that into muscle…you would be a MONSTER! ” Girls” will be drawn to you just off of your appearance. I don’t care if you have a small prick…at least you will have a shot to use it..from there it’s up to you on how ithe rest goes down..TRUTH
3rd: You’re not a stranger when it comes to being shot down. You have been denied more times than the hunch back from Norte Dame. YOU KNOW WHAT NOT DO AND SAY MY MAN! Use that to your advantage…From what I gathered in your comment, you have a heart, you’re a gentleman. There is no need to keep kicking yourself and looking for somebody else scraps. My GOD bro there are so many fish in the sea! Once you build that physical confidence and get your happy butt into shape. There is no force that can stop you!
4th: “Girls” at your age care about looks more than anything! I don’t care what anyone else says on this forum, that my friend is the TRUTH! You’re not going to marry the first girl you get laid by. If you do, you’re STUPID…yup the truth hurts..It’s called puppy love..
5th: Stop reading how to pick up woman, you already know how too..JUST BE YOURSELF..don’t be a jerk ( you still need a little cockiness though). Once your Acme is gone, and master your outer core, the inner core will build it self as well. EDUCATE YOURSELF, I repeat; EDUCATE YOURSELF..There is nothing more sexy to a “woman” than a man that can have a intellectual conversation. You need to now how to mind F**k a woman. Go to college, set yourself up for the future..create a career path..BECOME A NERD…US NERDS (yes I am one) will get all the QUALITY in the long run..Yes, at your age QUANTITY is your testosterone going ape sh!t.
Listen bro..if you ever read this..you are the creator of your own path. You dictate what happens and how it happens..not all the time, but the majority of the time. It all comes down too…”HOW YOU PLAY THE HAND THAT WAS DEALT TO YOU”…TAKE CARE MY MAN AND KEEP YOUR CHIN UP!!
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I read this with the voice from one of the guys from Jersey Shore. Completely ruined the situation for me.