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What Should You Do After a Break Up To Feel Awesome?

things to do after a break up to feel awesome

So you’ve broken up. Now what? What should you do after a breakup to avoid feeling miserable or confused? Here are a few things you definitely should do.

So you’ve decided that it’s time to leave that no-good lover of yours on the curb.

Good for you!

But now what?

What do you do after a break up?

Sometimes, ending a relationship is the easy part.

[Read: How to let go of a relationship that’s bad for you]

The loneliness and weird confusion you feel after the break up is the tricky part.

It’s a lot like binge drinking.

It’s all nice and dandy until you feel the need to spend your night hugging the toilet seat.

What to do after a break up

There are no right things or wrong things to do after a break up.

But there are a few smart things and dumb things to do that’ll definitely make a difference to your life.

If you’ve broken up recently, or have been dumped by your dream squeeze, lift your chin up.

It’s not the end of the world.

In fact, it’s a whole new exciting start if you choose to see the bright side. You’re single, and you’re in control of your own life all over again. Doesn’t that feel nice? [Confession: I want to be single again!]

10 things to do after a break up

Here are ten things you really should do after breaking up with a lover. It’s a healing process, it’s fun and it’ll keep you occupied enough to say ‘do I know you…?’ the next time you walk past your ex flame.

#1 Don’t go crazy. Yes, you’re going to have a lot of free time on your hands. But look at the bright side, you have so much time to do the things you love. Don’t cut your hair off, don’t go having sex with anything that walks, and don’t drunk dial your ex all night long.

Lonely moments are inevitable when you experience a break up, even if you’re the one that ended the relationship. Your mind will convince you to go crazy, but try to avoid the urge by reasoning with yourself. You’re better off being single. No, no, really, you’re better off being single. Come on, you know you’re better off being single! See, it’s working already…

#2 Don’t feel sad. This is dumb, but completely inevitable too. When you break up with your sweetheart, you’d start to love sad, heart wrenching songs, and beautiful views of empty walls and half empty glasses. Stare at walls for a while, and then walk backwards slowly until the hypnotic effect of the blank walls wear away. Read books instead, or play silly games on your tablet.

#3 Remember the no contact rule. We love breaking rules, especially the no contact rule after we break up. When you were in the relationship, you were happier avoiding your lover. But now that you’re mentally restricted from contacting an ex, there’s a chance that you’d feel extremely affectionate towards your ex. Heck, you may even miss your ex. But the no contact rule exists for a reason. Follow it. [Read: The no contact rule and googling an ex]

#4 Keep yourself occupied doing things you love. It’ll reduce any chances of getting caught in a haze of confusion, love and lust. Everytime you miss your ex, slap yourself across the face. If that doesn’t work or your cheek turns patchy red, get out and shop, or watch movies or play engrossing games that can force time to fly past you in a hurry.

#5 Take some time off from love. But flirt a lot. Avoid falling in love. Remember, love’s a trap that eventually leads to unbearable pain. Believe in that idea for the moment. What do you like about a relationship? The flirting and the groping. So go out there and do both of that. Just don’t fall in love just yet.

#6 Do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Yes, you were so happy when you were in a relationship. But really, how many things did you sacrifice? You gave up those late night wet texts to your cute friend, gave up grinding with other sexy people, and gave up a lot of things you loved doing. Now that you’re free, stick your ass or front up against someone sexy on the dance floor, indulge in the things you love and get your own life back out of the closet. [Read: Signs your ex is thinking about you]

#7 Avoid places and activities that make you miss being a couple. You want to get away on a vacation? Don’t go to Bora Bora or Hawaii. Instead, head to Ibiza. If you can’t fly at your whims, go around town carefully avoiding all things that look like couples and red hearts. Just so you know, red hearts have buckets of blood in them. Eww!

#8 Pick up on old conversations. I mean, the naughty ones. Who was that hottie who almost made you orgasm while texting late at night? And where’s that crush of yours who is dating an ugly hag? Get in touch with all the right people who make you feel all sexy and fuzzy inside and continue the conversation where you left off. [Read: 20 dirty questions to ask a guy over text and seduce him]

#9 Party. Nothing beats the wild, sexy rush of sweaty parties. There’s groping, grinding, liquor flowing and sexy people dry humping. Can life get any better than that, especially for a single person on the flirty prowl? Down a few shooters and dance like there’s no tomorrow. And party like you’re still eighteen. Just a word of caution, avoid getting so drunk that you wake up with something you’re not going to be proud of. [Read: How to grind with a guy sexily and discreetly]

#10 Have a fling or a rebound. Nature’s best remedy for a broken heart. If you’re wondering what to do after a break up, go on out there and put yourself out in the market for a fling thing. Having a fling can bring back all the fuzzy buzz of infatuation and flirty love, and that’ll definitely make you forget your old love. A fling or a rebound relationship is the hair of the dog of the dating world.

[Read: The good side of rebound relationships]

Still wondering what to do after a break up? Just walk out right now. There’s a whole world waiting for you. And guess what, it’s a freakin’ happy place out there!

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20 thoughts on “What Should You Do After a Break Up To Feel Awesome?”

  1. bereakup girl says:

    Just do whatever you want to do, whether it was your fault or not you are on your own now.

  2. whitty says:

    This really helped me, thanks

  3. Erin says:

    I just broke up my boyfriend after reading this…i hope I can get over him soon…..

  4. Kingsmen says:

    I withdraw myself from her for the reason that everything was so wrong. I liked her and loved her for the last 3yrs. I confessed to her and I didn’t care if she said a yes or a no. All matters is that I confessed to her. We didn’t have any relationship. We stayed as close friends. It really sounds stupid but I needed to friendzone myself from her. The barrier is as big as the empire state building XD.

  5. krystal says:

    this realy helped me

  6. tanu says:

    but he fills up my mind every moment. It had been a 6 yr relationship. But if he does not care about me I think why should I. But I still love him. I cannot move forward without him.

  7. Silvia says:

    Yes, if you are not happy END IT, I avoided breaking up for years, ended up with a cheating husband and now I CANT use the No Contact rule even if I divorce him 🙁 too sad

  8. Manu says:


    I liked your views and ideas but what should one do if he’s feeling and shame about what all happened that led to an end of the relationship. Also what if the other person still feel something about you but is not willing to give you a chance?


  9. Jonathan says:

    The above mentioned will or can be a supplement to anyone but not me. My story starts with an outright rejection in the first place. I actually asked out my immediate Manager in office. Is there any possibility for me to follow the NO CONTACT rule?? Highly unrealistic. In my own personal space I removed her from Facebook but she told me to add back and then I tried not going and to speak to her I did not want to avoid her but tried to keep myself with certain boundaries but she wants me to speak with her and she never stops saying that we can be friends. Each night she will whatsapp me asking about anything even during the weekend. I

  10. Prateek says:

    It was all going well but one day I found that she was cheating on me the very next day my ex gf threw me out of her life like I didn’t meant nothing to her. And now I believe that every effort I took work on the relationship with her went into vain. Yeah aforesaid rules will help me heal I hope.

  11. Mercy says:

    It’s been 4months since we broke up!, at first it didn’t bother me but after 3months it began bothering me, I think about him every single night even after being my gals n doing what I like the most can’t get him out of my mind what do I do now?!

  12. Joe says:

    This sounds silly, but I put a rubberband on my wrist and everytime I’d think about her I’d snap it. Now she rarely enters my mind, and she was the only think I could think of all day and night.
    The only reason I’m thinking about her today is that she sent a group text out of the blue and it kinda set me back…my wrist is killing me today!

  13. Krishna says:

    been in 6 year relationship. She ditched me for another guy and i’m left alone with just promises and .. I wanna die.

  14. Ramon says:

    I feel your pain Krishna. I was dumped after 5 year relationship after I got off work and two months later I still feel the pain. I have accepted the break up and have forgive her in my heart only to release some of the pain. I tried to make her jealous using a friend of a girlfriend and that failed. I lost my love to another. I will not rebound. I seek peace before I force myself into moving on to another heartbreak. Slow and steady wins the race. Embrace the pain and cry your fing eyes out and do it again. Process that shiit bro. Start flirting that helps. I got mad women on my jock now. Just don’t move on till you are ready and pick and choose when your heart and head are clear.

  15. Anirudh says:

    This has helped me a lot but i cannot really follow the no contact rule as my ex is in my college and i see her almost everyday even when i really avoid seeing her and she is always with someone. what should i do.?

  16. preety says:

    Hi I broke up with my boyfriend because he had a crush or he liked someone else and that’s why I could not bear it and broke up I’m a girl so can’t go out or party because that’s not allowed in my family please help me get through this

  17. Jack says:

    Love is complex.

  18. Q says:

    These steps are extremely situational, written only for women, and don’t account for if one partner was stI’ll trying to make the relationship work when the other decided it was time to end it. It also doesn’t account for when you get left for someone else. There are some good points here, but a lot of these are bullshit

  19. Yo Yukio yonyul says:

    Ive been dumped by a guy cause his mother thinks i am too old (9 years in between. He is 21) i am dead inside and think im going crazy cause i love him so much. Now i see him like pics of other girls and i am going mentally insane. Is he already over me. I broke some rules by having contact. Looking trough social media accounts cause it is hard not to. The rule above says NOT HAVING SEX WITH EVERYTHING THAT WALKS and then it says look for a rebound…. Like wtf??! Believe me neither is good. Can somebody kill me please.

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