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10 Most Important Tips to Write an Amazing Love Letter

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Writing a letter for your lover but not sure what to say? We’ve compiled a list of tips and tricks on how to pen the perfect note for your mate.

Do you and your lover have an anniversary looming, or do they have a landmark special occasion or birthday coming up? Whatever the reason, the fact is this: everyone loves getting letters. So what could be more perfect to spoil your girlfriend or boyfriend with, on her special day than a hand written love note?

With the age of the Internet destroying, or at the very least making physical communications with others somewhat scary, a hand written note is a rare find and marks the ultimate sign of romance in the digital age.

Yet, as much as you love your partner and as well as you may know them, many still get stumped on what to say or how to express their feelings when sitting down to write their note. Tutorials abound throughout the internet on step-by-step instructions on how to write something sweet for your sweetie. Seems a little impersonal, doesn’t it?

Tips on writing a love letter for your partner

Lucky for you, we’ve readied some great tips on how to write the perfect love letter for your beau.

#1 Compliments will get you everywhere. You heard me. It doesn’t matter the gender. Men and women love to be adored, so make sure you mention something *or several things!* you absolutely adore about your lover. [Read: 25 compliments your guy will never forget]

#2 Speak from the heart, not from a pre-written outline. Speaking from the heart is easier said than done, isn’t it? Strangely enough, expressing yourself to your partner may be one of the hardest parts of writing your letter.  Sure, you can say that you love your mate, appreciate them, never want to live without them, tell them they’re pretty and that they make you laugh… but then what? Those compliments aren’t exactly going to fill up an entire page’s worth of cursive.

This is why people commonly search the Internet for a template for letter writing. While this may work for wedding thank-you cards, or sympathy notes, looking for a pre-written love letter is a big romance no-no!

#3 Mention a specific experience. One of the best ways to connect in your letter is to mention a specific experience you’ve gone through together and how it made you stronger, made you laugh, or moved your heart. Not only will this give your partner something fond to look back on, but it’ll show that you wrote a letter that’s not just full of sweet yet generic niceties, but filled with things specifically about them. [Read: What to write in a love letter – The perfect examples to write about]

#4 Use a fantastic quote. Quotes are the perfect romantic addition to any letter. It’s a lovely little way of throwing some poetry into your letter, without giving up what makes it personal.

Famous 1920s writer F. Scott Fitzgerald is highly quoteable. His romantic gems such as: “They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered” or “You are the finest, loveliest, tenderest, and most beautiful person I have ever known – and even that is an understatement,” is sure to have your lover swooning.

If old writers aren’t your thing, use funny or romantic quotes from shows or movies you both enjoy, like Woody Allen’s lighthearted narrative: “I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love, or I had smallpox.” [Read: 55 funny quotes that are all about love]

#5 Talk about their achievements. Make sure you mention at least one of their achievements in your letter. If your letter is congratulating them on a new job, talk about all the hard work they put into getting to where they are now in their professional life.

If the letter or card is for their birthday, throw in something funny like: “I can’t believe you’re still kicking around after *hilarious inside-joke.*” If you are writing a letter or card because of an anniversary, talk about anything they’ve sacrificed, be it family relationships, fights with friends, putting up with your bad habits or serious conditions. Mention key things they’ve done for your relationship and be sure to tell them how much you appreciate it.

#6 Don’t force yourself to write a novel. If you want to write your partner a letter, but you aren’t a man of many words, then by all means keep it short. Even if you simply tell her you love her and the last “X-many-years” have been the happiest of your life, she’s sure to love it, so long as it’s from your heart.

Don’t feel the need to write an expansive letter just to prove your love. Odds are if you’re forcing it, she’ll be able to tell. Keep it short and sweet if that’s your style.

Little gimmicks to make letter writing easier

Gimmicks may seem impersonal at first, but trust me, they work. Have you been with your partner for years now? If so, they’ve probably received dozens of cards from you and after a while, a simple love note unfortunately doesn’t contain that “wow” factor anymore. Instead of sprouting out a plain and simple “Happy Anniversary!” on a note card, try something a little different this year such as:

#1 I love you in every language card. Celebrating your two year anniversary? That’s 24 blissful months of love and togetherness. Instead of a card, why not write a love letter displaying the phrase: “I Love You” in 24 different languages.

At the end of the card write something personal, and then say “I love you in every language.” Obviously feel free to bump up or down the months or languages, depending on how long you’ve actually been together. [Read: 25 super sweet gestures to make your partner swoon]

#2 Scrapbook letter writing. Girls love scrapbooking, and what’s not to love? Simply grab some card stock with a pretty pattern and glue your notebook paper over top of it so that it takes up only a small portion of the page. After that’s set, start gluing personal trinkets onto the page, such as photos of the two of you, the receipt from your first date, ticket stubs or anything sentimental between the two of you.

#3 “52 reasons I love you” deck of cards. Take a standard deck of playing cards and grab a sharpie. On each card, write a different reason why you love your partner. After all your reasons are done, start gluing different pictures, stickers, and trinkets to the card.

For example: “I love it when you call me Pooh-Bear!” and on goes an adorable picture of Winnie the Pooh. It’s cute, sweet, and though it can be a little embarrassing to show other people, your partner will definitely look back at the cards when he or she is feeling down.

#4 Puzzle piece letter. This is a simple spin on a regular letter. Once you’ve finished your love letter, glue it to some card stock. Once dried, draw out a series of puzzle pieces on the back of it as a guide, and start cutting out your letter. When your lover gets the note she’ll be able to piece it together like her own special jigsaw puzzle.

[Read: 10 adorable ways to say “I love you” to someone special]

Still not sure what to write in your letter to your lover? You don’t have to write the next great American novel to your loved one, so if all you have to say is a short and sweet “You’re awesome, I love you” at the end of a card, then so be it. Just remember with whatever you come up with, write it from your heart and she’s sure to love it.

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5 thoughts on “10 Most Important Tips to Write an Amazing Love Letter”

  1. Willow says:

    I actually love to write from poetry to letters. I think the written word is the best expression other than making love. I even enjoy making it super creative and can put my feelings on paper better than I can express it verbally. I love to receive love letters and have many that I have kept for many years. I love using quotes or special sayings to underscore my feelings and how that person either makes me feel or what they have that makes me realize how special they are. It is very important in a love letter to point out your loves special qualities you realize they have and even physical attributes. It is all important to your relationship.

  2. love you says:

    I really think love letters nowadays are take for granted. The new millennials won’t realize how important love letters were before a few generations back. Love letters were the essence of starting a relationship with somebody. It was a form of pouring your heart out to someone. Now, with the advancement of technology most of them take letters for granted because they receive them everyday in the mail. Those are bills guys. There used to be mail that was sent to make you happy, a love letter from the person who loves you.

  3. Maggie says:

    Love letters are a dying idea. I like that this article speaks to keep them alive. My fiance and I had a very long distance relationship for quite some time and we would write letters to each other. First off, getting mail that isn’t a bill is always nice and secondly, it is nice to read how much someone loves you. I like that the author mentioned speaking from the heart. Some of the letters that I wrote to him were a bunch of scattered thoughts, but they made his day to get them. That is truly all that mattered to me. Making someone’s day is such a good feeling!

  4. cristopher says:

    I always say you should write from the heart. I’ve always been making love letters to my wife ever since we started dating and I still give her love letters here and there just to make her feel special. I can say that with today’s advancement in technology, a lot of people take love letters for granted but it was actually the most major form of communication back in the day, you could say everything you want to your partner in a letter and it would really make her love you more because of the effort you put in to the letter. Girl’s like guys who put in extra effort. Not like the generation we have now where boys couldn’t think of anything else other than the things they could easily do to get their dick wet. The new generation doesn’t know anything about love letter, all they know is facebook, snapchat, tinder, those kinds of social media platforms. They use it to get their dicks and pussies wet and it’s all a never ending cycle where eventually, as the years go by, there wouldn’t be such a thing as true love anymore. It would all become so superficial and useless that that would become the new standard. The standard of love back in the day was golden and it was respected. Now, black guys be texting girls some perverted ass shit and get away with it. Back in the day perverted piece of shits were hanged. I think they should consider lude and inappropriate texts to girls as attempted rape. They should go to hell, I mean jail for that. Well, hell would be a very nice place for them to live.

  5. Falling in love with you says:

    Me and a past girlfriend really got into sending each other letters when we were farther apart, bored, and saw less of each other. We handwrote letters and actually mailed them to each other. We’d just talk about our day, say hello, trade inside jokes, etc. She started drawing on the bottoms of the notes and soon enough it turned into a really nice way to fill an afternoon. Even when we were texting each other often, getting real, live mail is exciting and makes a person feel special. I always looked forward to the “I just checked the mail!” texts and we’d laugh and bond over whatever crazy stuff we’d sent each other. They make great keepsakes too. I still keep em in a box under my bed…

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