Why Do We Fall Out of Love?
Falling out of love can happen as naturally as falling into love. So do you want to fall out of love completely or do you want to reignite the spark of romance? It’s really all in your own hands. Why do we fall out of love and what can we do about it? Find out here.
As your relationship grows older, are you falling out of love with your partner?
People fall out of love all the time.
But the reasons behind it are simple and very revealing, right from the start.
Why do we fall out of love?
Where is your relationship heading? Are your minor squabbles just lovers’ tiffs or are they signs that you should think fast and work to improve your relationship and resolve the differences.
This may sound clichéd but it’s a fact that relationships are eternally based on the understanding between individuals.
The relationship between a man and a woman who are either seeing each other or are married, at the best of times, can be in complete conundrums.
The initial stages of any relationship are the defining moments that give an inkling of the direction in which the relationship will go.
It gives an insight to the path the partners would walk, a rose petal strewn one or one riddled with pot holes. [Read: How to know if you are in love]
Should your fall out of love or stay in love?
Love is indeed blind, because there are times when it’s difficult to understand whether we are into love or not, or whether we are even ready for it. Your better half may be a complete stranger or a fast friend before the both of you entered into a committed relationship. [Read: What is the right age to get married?]
An ideal mate is what everyone craves for. No one likes falling out of love. It’s annoying, depressing and a very sensitive issue.
The whole idea of a relationship like love is fantasized about these days and we must give all credit to the mush and chick flicks, which portrays the ‘picture perfect’ couples, living happily ever after.
But these movies, they fail to show the dark underbelly of this much glamorized relationship. [Read: How to fix a relationship]
In the beginning, everything seems to move smoothly in love. The understanding, love, care, mutual connectivity, compatibility and intimacy are at its best. You tend to expect the sun, the moon, the stars and everything nice from your partner. But happy relationships come with a price tag and the actual reactions of the chemistry between both of you shows its aftereffects when certain aspects of your relationship come under trial. [Read: Love at first sight – the real truth]
What you should know about falling out of love
The most important thought to ponder about when you fall out of love, is whether your relationship has outlived its time, or are there too many irreconcilable differences, lack of intimacy, etc. Only a few couples overcome these problems while most others flounder. It takes years to build relations but only a few seconds to break them and these days, young couples are increasingly facing the hurried-divorce syndrome.
Divorce today has become like the weather column which changes every day. Surprisingly, one cannot give a specific reason for the separation because there is plenty behind the scene, which adds to the misery and cause of divorce. [Read: Open relationships – the new fidelity in love]
Few egocentric couples fall in the trap of the easy divorce system, where neither of them is ready to give up or compromise. Self-esteem is a crucial part in any relationship but if it takes the form of an ego, then nothing but parting ways can keep the couple moving ahead in life. The words of your partner, which seemed like unadulterated honey dripping directly from the hive, would now sound like the hiss of a serpent.
When you’re falling out of love, every action of the individual would lead to an opposite reaction from the other one in the relationship.
Anger and falling out of love
Jealousy and insecurity are also the causes for a relationship to break down and make one stray and fall out of love. A partner may not be comfortable with their spouse’s overindulgence and interest in some other person. Insecurity carves a path for itself when there is a fear of losing the partner and this thought nags the mind of an individual. [Read: Is he the one for you?]
Jealousy and insecurity go hand in hand because the former breeds the latter. The compatibility of the couples should be so intense that such unwanted weeds should not crop up between them. Usually it’s these petty misunderstandings that lead to whale sized conflicts.
There are so many more reasons behind why people fall out of love.
And that’s why it’s crucial to communicate and come to an understanding before you fall out of love, and realize that it’s too late. Click here to read about compatibility in love and how it can make a huge difference when it comes to falling out of love.