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How to Fall in Love Again after a Break Up

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You don’t have to fall in love immediately after a break up, but you need to accept the end. Read how to fall in love again after a break up to get back on your feet in no time and have a happier life.

Click here to read the first few steps on how to love again after being hurt.

Not all break ups hurt, but the ones that hurt can hurt bad.

If you’re suffering from a painful heartbreak, take solace in the fact that you at least had a chance to experience love at its purest best, even if it didn’t last as long as you wanted it to.

Knowing how to fall in love again doesn’t ever mean you should just jump from one relationship to another.

But by preparing yourself for love, it shows that you haven’t given up on finding it again.

A relationship can end when you least expect it, but that’s no reason to hate love or believe it doesn’t exist.

Don’t convince yourself never to fall in love again.

By doing that, you’re not hardening yourself up.

You’re only clinging on to a memory of love that you once experienced. And the worst part here, it didn’t end well for you. So give love another chance to reveal itself when the time comes.

And when love does come knocking on your door, open it wide and fall in love all over again.

How to fall in love again after a break up

Learning to fall in love again is all about understanding the steps involved so you can heal yourself and feel better. You’ve read the first three baby steps you need to take. Here are the next few steps for you.

#4 Get back on your feet

Don’t feel guilty about dusting yourself off and getting back on your feet as soon as you can. Flirting with friends may have been the third step, but it would help you understand that the world can still be a happy place, even if you’re heartbroken.

Go on out and meet old friends and make new friends. The best way to get over a break up and prepare yourself to fall in love again is by learning to bring the excitement back into your life. Once you see all the nice, attractive people who are eager to be with you, you’d have a lot of happy thoughts replacing the sad thoughts in no time.

#5 Fall in love with yourself

Break ups can be ego shattering especially if you’ve been dumped rather unceremoniously. [Read: A break up on facebook can end a life]

But learn to move on. You can’t please everyone in the world. And you can’t make every single person fall madly in love with you. But there’s one person who can love you no matter what, and that’s you! [Read: How to love yourself]

Grow your confidence and become a better person. You’ll attract much more dating potentials, and big chances are, they’re going to be a lot better than that loser of an ex you had. You may not think your ex is bad now, but you’ll see the flaws when you get over you ex.

#6 Get back into the dating game

Everyone likes a bit of attention from the opposite sex. You may not be looking for love immediately after a break up, but you would definitely want to fall in love again sometime, wouldn’t you?

When you were in a relationship, you couldn’t really flirt with anyone without thinking twice. But hey, now you can. You don’t need to look desperately for “the one” right from the start. Have fun dating new people and getting touchy feely with a few others. That special one will walk right into your life when you’re having the best time of your life, and make it a lot better.

[Read: Is he the one for you?]

[Read: Is she the one you’ve been looking for?]

#7 Your old relationship was an experience

Now, if you want to know how to fall in love again, you can’t shut out the memories of your old relationship. Instead, learn from it and use it as an experience to make yourself a better chooser of partners.

Always understand that you may have experienced a bad relationship and everyone around you may have terrible relationship stories too, but that doesn’t mean love is a bad thing. Perhaps, you’re surrounded by an unlucky few who aren’t looking in the right places. [Read: How to meet the one]

#8 Put yourself out in the playing friend

If you aren’t ready for love, you don’t need to fall in love again so soon. But put yourself out there and meet what the world has to offer to you. Jump into a rebound relationship with someone new (let them know it’s a rebound and not something serious), date a few people, flirt with new friends, and just have a ball!

Don’t go looking around desperately for love, instead just meet new people and see if you like spending time with them. Love has a way of surfacing when you least expect it, so look for a good time instead. Love will come along before you know it, just as long as you’re ready for it.

#9 It’s alright to remember your ex

When you’re walking out of a bad breakup and trying to fall in love again, it’s obvious that you’d be bothered by the memories of your past. At times, you may also be specifically looking for someone who reminds you of your ex, just so you can feel complete again.

Don’t remember your ex for all the wrong reasons. Remember your ex for the fact that they caused you more pain than you could bear, and you’re still trying to erase that memory and trying to replace it with new and happier memories. As long as you stay firm on your decision to never get back into that painful relationship, you will have the strength to avoid any let’s-get-back-together requests from your old flame.

[Read: The secret law of attraction in love]

#10 Take that leap of faith

While you’re out there, ready to fall in love and having a great time meeting new people, you may just come across someone who sweeps you off your feet or makes time stand still. It may be a chance meeting or a fixed date, but when you do meet that person who makes you feel special and cared for all over again, make an effort to test the waters, now that you know how to fall in love again after a break up.

It may take a while or it may happen sooner than you think, but as long as you’re having a great life anyways, who’s complaining?

Take a leap of faith and take that chance on true love when you feel like you’ve met the one you’ve been looking for. After all, isn’t that what love is all about, taking chances?!

[Read: Tips to start a perfect new relationship]

Understanding how to fall in love again after a break up may seem unthinkable, but it’s far easier than what people give it credit for. Prepare yourself for a happy life, and love will find its own way into your life.

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15 thoughts on “How to Fall in Love Again after a Break Up”

  1. inpain says:

    This is such BS! This is obviously written by someone who has never been so much in love that it hurts. I understand that this article is supposed to help, but for someone who really fell in love and lost that person, there is no band aid. I know myself that I will never love again. No if’s, and’s or but’s… I will die of a broken and lonely heart and there is no cure…

  2. kj says:

    >inpain. Look, I understand, my fiance and I just broke up two weeks ago and i’m having a harder time with this than any other breakup i’ve been through (two other serious relationships,one may R.I.P.) but, and I know it sounds corny, I have to take it one day at a time, focus on me, and there will be brighter days, I am in unbelievable pain right now , but time heals all. don’t reinforce the idea that you’ll never fall in love again. life’s too short and beautiful for that.

  3. bigNavySeal says:

    Not all that much wrong with this article, inpain. They gave some good and realistic advice. I’m 4 months post-breakup and it still hurts like f**k, but i (and you too) need to get myself back on my feet and the worse way to do that is wallow in self pity for too long. I hope for renewed sparks with a new flame or perhaps to patch things up with my ex some day…

  4. frank says:

    it is very hard to fall in love again after a breakup, and there are much more women today that are so very nasty with an attitude problem making it much more difficult for us serious straight men that are looking. women have certainly changed for the worse, unlike years ago when they were very committed to their men and accepted their men for who they were.

  5. Tanya says:

    Whoever wrote this BS has not a clue what it feels like to really love and to being dumped. I do not ever want to love again, not ever. The end.

  6. Tanya says:

    at kj, someone who is in unbelievable pain 2 weeks after a break up does not write what you wrote in your comment. You have no clue.

  7. TheTruthSays says:

    it is very extremely hard to fall in love again after a divorce, especially that much more women are cheating nowadays and just can’t seem to stay with only one man anymore.

  8. Claire says:

    My fiance and I broke up 4 years ago. Still in pain, still missing him. I haven’t dated anyone since the break-up, though there are quite a few suitors.

  9. Sara says:

    My breakup was 3 months ago. Just went out on a date last night. The guy was really sweet. Brought me a dozen roses, nice restaurant, good conversation. He wants to meet again today and I had to tell him to slow down because he’s moving too fast for me. I hope I didn’t push him away but I need to move slowly now. A small part of me is hoping my ex will contact me on my birthday in a few weeks and maybe we can get back together. I know I may be a little delusional but it’s harder to move past a breakup when you fall in love with someone who makes you feel something you’ve never felt before. I’ve been in love before but not like the last one. It was deeper for me and I thought it was for him as well but I guess not. I believe that there is a certain level of chemistry that you have with someone that really moves us. You can love different people but not in equal amounts. There are some people that literally touch your soul and leave such a mark that it takes a very long time to move forward. The guy I went out with last nite was sweet but I still feel like I belong to my ex and he belongs to me. I have no other choice but to move on and hope I fall in love with someone that’s even better than what I had before. I’m a good woman and a nice person and I like to think that my ex thinks of me often and remembers how well I treated him and at least acknowldege that I was different and special from all of the others. The dating world has turned into such a sesspool with embittered, angry people with so much baggage. I don’t want to be one of those people. I’m a Christian and I believe that if you are a nice person who fulfills something in someone or touch them in their hearts, they never really leave you. If they can leave after experiencing something sweet then maybe they weren’t really nice people to begin with.

  10. Aileen says:

    Myself and my boyfriend had split up a few days ago after a very stressful few months, I was starting to grieve for the relationship for 3 days then I met up wit him to collect my stuff! We talked cried and somehow I suggested about taking to weeks apart with no contact and asked him if he wanted to save our 5 year relationship .. He said yes. Now keepin in mind that he also said that he fell out of love over the last few months. We have been thru everything together and I just Dnt know what to expect anymore! My grieving has subsided but I do kno that the outcome may not be us getting back together. Any thoughts/advice?

  11. endless smiles says:

    Right person in a wrong time…will make you again happy…just live practically … Not always in dream…like filmy drama…find your own way and carrier…love will again find you.. 🙂

  12. Salman Kashmiri says:

    I was also in true luv with one girl, i did breakup but 1 months i was suffering in badly pain .but at last heart told to move on and now im in again luv wit new girl very happily

  13. f says:

    clearly, a few honest responders here know how to really love someone, as for the author, not so much…
    i imagine it’s quite easy for a fun seeking, light hearted individual to move on and find someone new after so-called heartbreak, as for the rest of us- the truly genuine, we know better.
    Love is not about glibness, flirting, sex, cocktail parties, romantic dinners, friendships or hardships, love is everything- it’s the ultimate intimacy that means only giving, totally giving yourself to another that wants who you are and who gives you themselves in return. People living in love, live for each other, they share one life, they don’t chose to be in love, love choses them. Some call it obsession, i’d say that is somewhat true, but a healthy obsession if one is only obsessed with loving the other in good will, charity and acceptance. Love is the food that makes all things possible, when real love is lost, seemingly, all things become impossible for a very long time, maybe forever..i don’t know, but i know what love feels like.
    In my view, only the truly heartbroken know the meaning of love..

    “there is nothing as whole as a broken heart”..i can’t remember who said this…

    i’m sorry Tanya, Clair, Frank, Sara, Inpain- and for me..(2 1/2 years since my girl admitted she could not love me as much as i did her- and let me go..i still cry every morning for her, and for me)

    Aileen, if you really love your Ex, you would not be dating, even sweet men- why would you want to risk hurting some other man by being with him and thinking of another?..imo..

  14. f says:

    pardon me for the above, i confused Aileen, with Sara.. my apologies to both.

    good luck to all!

  15. Paul says:

    You can’t turn a slut (most westernised women today) into a house wife!

    Only safe bet after doing years of research is a family oriented woman or foreign woman. 20% chance of divorce compare to 80% for westernised women who take your house, car, money and kids that u never see again.

    Go for a woman that has less than 5 sexual partners which where all long term.

    Relationship break ups are a tramantic experience, be very clear full who u fall in love with!

    50% of male suicidal are due to relationship breakups. Mainly cause we get raped in the family courts.

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