Ever wondered how you could get over a broken heart and walk away from it all? Break ups can hurt a lot, but you do have the power to get over a broken heart and move on if you really make up your mind… and follow these tips.
If you’ve read the first six points on getting over a broken heart in the introduction, you’d see how important it is to actually stick to your decision and make a conscious effort to move on from an ex lover.
Here are a few pointers that can definitely help you forget your old flame and move on to a happier life.
How do I get over a broken heart #7 GET ACTIVE
Get your butt out and do something you used to enjoy doing, even if you don’t feel like it.
I know that staring at the wall with mild fascination and feeling sorry for yourself is very appealing at a time like this, but this is another thing you need to simply force yourself to avoid.
Start a project and make yourself complete it. Start exercising. Do something, do anything that takes attention and activity.
How do I get over a broken heart #8 THROW AWAY ALL REMINDERS
Let your ex’s name and memories be erased from your life forever. Of course, it’s hard, but a good start is by chucking all your ex’s memories outside your door.
You don’t have to throw old love letters or burn it all, but definitely hide pictures, gifts, clothing, letters, and e-mail out of your living area, or at least out of your line of vision.
A trunk with a big padlock, placed on the attic is a nice place to keep all those memories if you don’t wish to throw them all out. If that means giving away roughly half of your wardrobe to get rid of the memory of your ex, so be it.
As a rule of thumb, if the object reminds you of your ex, discard it. This can save your sanity.
How do I get over a broken heart #9 HANG OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS
Let your buddies give you a reality check on how your ex wasn’t all that great to begin with, and that there are more fish in the sea.
A little camaraderie or kitty party can go a long way towards getting your head straight. We’ve all been detonated in love before and most of us will likely get detonated again. So there’s nothing wrong in being dumped, is there? So talk, and talk until you feel better.
How do I get over a broken heart #10 WRITE A HATE LETTER
Sit down, take a pen and write down what exactly you feel about your ex. Write a letter pouring out your negative and weepy feelings, then disassociate them from yourself. Throw the letter away or burn it.
But definitely don’t send it to your ex, however much you feel like. It will not bring your ex back to you. You will only regret it. Your sweet ex will show their friends and their new partner. And they will all share a good laugh, at your expense!
How do I get over a broken heart #11 REMEMBER THE BAD TIMES
If you feel nostalgic, then think of all the times your partner hurt you. That should do it. Remember the time your ex started an argument in the mall and embarrassed you by calling you names in public?
Or the times when you caught your mate flirting with others behind your back? Nobody wants those moments back. Use those thoughts to bring yourself back to reality.
How do I get over a broken heart #12 USE YOUR FREEDOM
Freedom is always intoxicating. There’s a world of activities you can partake in that you were never able to enjoy because your “other half” didn’t approve. So indulge. Travel. Build a model ship. Go hiking. Hang out with your pals. Play games on your computer, or learn new recipes. Watch TV all weekend.
Do anything you want. Ideally, you should find an activity that allows you to release your anger and alleviate stress. And with all the free time, there’s always more time to stare and drool over hotties. Staring at good looking potentials is a great way to let yourself know that there are several good looking fishes all around you.
How do I get over a broken heart #13 DITCH THE NEGATIVE PEOPLE
The last bunch of people on the planet that you need to hang out with, are negative people. They love telling stories of depression and sadness. They extract the happiness off everything and anything.
If a friend tells you that the break up was hard and there is nothing for you to do about it. Stay away from that friend.
Hang out with people who believe that a break up is only a step towards better prospects in your love life. Spend more time with people who are optimistic and fun loving, despite the circumstances. You’d find it a lot easier to look at your break-up as a small part of your life, when you’re having fun.
How do I get over a broken heart #14 DON’T SHOW THAT YOU’RE UPSET
Very very important! The last thing that you want to do is show your ex that you’re in the drains, while your ex is having a great time in the arms of another. Your ex may be having fun, but the only way to show that your life is great, even though you’re hurting inside, is by pretending to have a great time everywhere you go.
The stronger you make yourself, the better you’d feel, and the easier it would be for you to get over your heartache. Wallowing in self pity and begging your ex to take you back will get you nowhere. Maybe you’d just make yourself look a lot more funnier and smaller in front of your ex and their new mate!
How do I get over a broken heart #15 DON’T IDOLIZE YOUR MATE
Your ex may have been prince charming or the snow princess in your eyes. But you know what, not everyone thinks the same about them. Your love for your mate is what made you overlook their imperfections and think that they were the best you could ever get. Get realistic, and take them off the pedestal in your head.
Stop idolizing them and treat them the same way you treat any of your other friends. Stop gazing lovingly at pictures of your old sweetheart.
Don’t jump to answer their email or phone calls. And definitely don’t go out of your way for your ex. They no longer deserve preferential treatment.
Now taking all these steps may seem difficult and heart wrenching. But it’s all for your good, and to help you in getting over a broken heart. As long as you follow these steps, you’ll forget your partner in no time.