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When to Kiss a Girl: 15 Subtle Signs to Predict the Magic Moment

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If you think you can just kiss a girl whenever you feel like it for the first time, you’re mistaken. Here’s when to kiss a girl to make it count.

Girls are confusing creatures. I know. I am a girl and I still barely understand us. That being said, knowing when to kiss a girl is made even more difficult when it’s the first kiss. You may think you’re reading all the signs right only to end up rejected – or worse – slapped.

When you’re dating a new girl, you need to know when the right time is to kiss her so you don’t screw up the first kiss. Since you’re not mind readers, this is extremely difficult to do. But luckily, we have some tips that may help.

Why the first kiss is important

The first kiss basically sets the stage for you. When you spend an entire date getting to know someone and building up that chemistry, it all comes down to that very first kiss. If it’s not good, it can ruin your chances of securing a relationship with a girl.

That’s why the very first kiss is super important. You want to make sure you do it right and at just the right time. Knowing when to kiss a girl for the first time can mean the difference between her becoming your girlfriend or her disappearing from your life for good. [Read: 15 ways to make your first kiss more memorable]

When to kiss a girl for a successful first kiss

That first kiss is something she’ll remember forever and it’s a story she’ll be telling her friends about for the entirety of your relationship. That’s why you have to make it count by knowing just when to kiss her.

If you’re really not sure when the best time to kiss a girl is, we’re here to help you out. The next time you’re on a first date or getting closer to a girl you really like, here’s what to do.

#1 After the entire date is done. Some people make the mistake of kissing a girl too early in the date and it can make it awkward and uncomfortable. Even if you know this girl really well already, let the entire date go by before making your move. [Read: 50 incredible first date ideas to wow your new fling]

#2 When you feel like you know her well. Sometimes one date just isn’t enough time to get to know someone well enough to kiss them. Some people even think you should wait until 3 dates before kissing a girl. Our tip is simply to make sure you know her well enough to want to be swapping spit with her.

#3 When she’s giving you all the signs. Girls put out very obvious signs that they want to be kissed. When she’s leaning in really close, if she’s giggling a lot, and even when she’s biting her lip. These are all telling you it’s time to kiss her. So go for it! [Read: All the signs she’s ready for you to kiss her]

#4 When you’re both alone. Kissing a girl in public for the first time is just not a good idea in general. She doesn’t want her first kiss from you to be displayed to a bunch of strangers.

Knowing when to kiss a girl also involves knowing when not to kiss a girl. And in this case, you have to realize that PDA is a big no-no when it’s the first kiss between you two. Wait until you’re alone and have some privacy.

#5 If she’s leaning in. This is the biggest sign you should kiss her. When a girl is leaning in and even has her eyes mostly closed, she wants you to make your move. She’s basically handing you a free opportunity to plant one on her – so take it! [Read: When she leans in close and 14 other signs she’s into you]

#6 When she’s glancing from your eyes to your lips. Another way to know when to kiss a girl is if she’s eyeing up your lips. People tend to look at someone else’s lips an awful lot when they want to kiss them. So if her eyes are shifting from your own eyes to your lips, it’s time to move in.

#7 After an emotionally intimate moment. If you’re not even on a date with a girl but you’re just talking very openly about important things to the both of you, it’s usually a good time to kiss her. When you both have shared something intimate and vulnerable, you should definitely kiss her. [Read: How to arouse a girl and make her horny while sitting next to her]

#8 When you know you want to make her your girlfriend. Don’t just go around kissing a bunch of girls you don’t even want to date. You should know how you feel about her first. When you know that you want a girl to be your girlfriend, you can make your move.

#9 After she initiates a lot of physical contact. Another great way to know when to kiss a girl is if she’s really touchy-feely with you. This shows her level of comfort and also makes her move in really close to you. It’s the perfect opportunity. [Read: 20 types of physical touches and what they mean]

#10 When she says you can. If you’re really shy, just wait for her to tell you to kiss her. Sometimes girls are very bold and will just come out and say it. If she does, then you better go for it!

How to make it count

Like I’ve said many times already, your first kiss is everything. Here are a few tips to make sure you make the most of your special moment with her. [Read: 19 types of gross kisses you should never give]

#1 Check your breath. Gross breath can really ruin a great kiss. Even if you’re a great kisser, if she can smell your breath before you even plant your lips on hers, it’s really not good. Have some gum and mints with you at all times.

#2 Keep your lips nice and moisturized. Another thing that can make a great kiss horrible is dry, cracked lips. Girls don’t really want to feel your rough lips scraping against hers when she’s trying to enjoy a kiss. So just make sure you’re using a lip moisturizer regularly.

#3 Do it slowly. Diving in for a fast kiss usually isn’t the best idea when it’s the first one. When you kiss a girl, do it in a slow manner so if she’s not ready, she has plenty of time to back out. Take your time and lean into her smoothly for the first kiss. [Read: 12 slow kissing tips for a perfect smooch]

#4 Leave her wanting more. Don’t just mac on her for an hour. Give her one, smooth kiss and then pull away. She’ll come to you if she wants more. This takes the pressure off you and puts the ball in her court. It also ensures that you’re not making her too uncomfortable with your affection.

#5 Don’t overthink it too much. I know this is a lot of information and you might be keeping it all in your head while you’re getting ready to kiss her, but don’t think about it too much. Keep these points in mind, but go with the flow and go with your gut instinct.

 [Read: 22 tips to make the first kiss oh-so-amazing]

The first kiss with someone new really sets the stage for your relationship. Knowing when to kiss a girl can help save you from making a huge mistake and ruining everything with her. These tips will help you get it right.

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Bella Pope
Bella Pope
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