When we’re in love, we don’t even see our partner’s faults. But as the infatuation wears off, consider these questions to ask your significant other.
In our society today, we are so focused on the fairy tale, the perfect wedding, and the happily ever after that we don’t really think about specifics. No one teaches us what is important in relationships. Instead, most of us have to learn through trial and error.
Our divorce rate is really, really, high. Too high. And why is that? Well, it could have a lot to do with the fact that most people don’t know that they should talk about deep things that will impact their future. In fact, in order to live happily ever after, there are some really important questions to ask your significant other.
25 important questions to ask your significant other
Dating is not just about sex and romance. It’s a time to test your compatibility with each other. Sure, it seems like you get along great in the beginning – it’s that way for everyone. But if you’re going to have a future with this person, then you need to get down to the basics. So, here are 25 important questions to ask your significant other if you want to be together for the long haul.
#6 If you want children, how many do you want? Ditto on this one. If one of you wants one child, and the other wants seven… ummm… big problem!
#7 Do you want the man to work and the woman to stay at home with the children? Or vice versa? Does your partner want to have traditional gender roles? Or do you want to go against mainstream expectations?
#8 Where do you want to live? Some people like the city, others the country or suburbs. Hopefully, you’ll both be on the same page about this one. If not, it’s going to be a long-distance relationship for you.
#10 Do you like to travel? Some people do, but not everyone. So, if you’re a traveler and your partner is not, you need to know. So this is why it’s one of the important questions to ask your significant other.
#11 If so, where would you like to travel during your lifetime? Do you like to travel around Europe or sit on a beach with a cocktail in your hand? Those are two very different types of travel experiences.
#12 How important is money to you? Well, sure, it’s important to us all on some level. But some people are more materialistic than others.
#13 What does money represent to you? Status? Freedom? Something else? Is your partner concerned with their public persona? Or do they just want the freedom to not have to look at the prices on a menu?
#23 Do you want to get married? This is an obvious question, I know. But so many people just make assumptions instead of asking directly. This is one of the most important questions to ask your significant other.
#24 What is your dream career? You should both support each other with your hopes and dreams. But you should at least know what they are first!
#25 Are you a “black and white” person or a “shades of grey” one? In other words, do they see life in terms of absolute rights and wrongs? Or are they more of a “it depends on the situation” kind of person?
Long term relationships are never easy, but with these questions to ask your significant other, you will be way ahead of most people. So, start asking your partner these questions today so you can really, truly, live happily ever after.
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Dr. Carol Morgan
Dr. Carol Morgan has a Ph.D. in communication and is a professor at Wright State University where she loves corrupting young minds. As a relationship and succes...