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7 Easy Steps to be Blissfully Happy in a Relationship

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Learn the secret behind knowing how to be happy in a relationship. It takes just seven simple steps to bring love and happiness into a relationship.

Bringing happiness into a relationship is one of the simplest things couples can do.

But yet, several couples have a hard time keeping love and happiness alive, even if they did experience a lot of it in the first few months or years of the relationship.

Find out how to be happy in a relationship with these seven simple tips that can definitely change your life for the better.

How to be happy in a relationship

You don’t need a lot of money or extravagant gifts and lavish dinners to experience true love and happiness.

All you need to do is understand what really matters in love and how you can bring little changes in your daily interactions with your partner and change your lives.

Follow these seven steps, and you’ll see a happy and successful change in your relationship almost instantly.

Step #1 Communicate and understand each other

Remember those first few weeks when both of you were dating each other?

Can you remember all those incessant rounds of questions both of you asked each other to find out about your likes and dislikes?

Don’t stop asking those questions.

You may be in love with each other for several years, but as individuals, both of you are constantly changing all the time.

Learn to communicate and ask each other all those first date questions now and then, and try to have an active interest in each other’s lives and pursuits. It’ll help both of you understand each other better and bring both of you closer.

Always remember this. Misunderstandings in love don’t happen when you mishear each other, it happens most when you stop communicating with each other.

[Read: How to communicate in a relationship]

Step #2 End every argument as soon as possible

If you want to use these steps to change your life, both of you have to be aware of what it takes to be happy in a relationship and both of you have to work towards it. It just can’t be a one sided effort.

Confusions and petty arguments are at times inevitable even in the most happiest of relationships. And it’s alright to have a strong opinion once in a while. But no matter what the little disagreement is about or however angry or upset either of you are, make up as soon as you can.

And that means no wasting time on huffing, puffing or whining. You may be really angry, but learn to hold your partner’s hand and say “hey, I’m sorry we had a fight. Can we forget about it/talk about it some other time?”

What would work even better is a warm hug after a disagreement. Always understand that no matter what the differences are, both of you are in love each other. So whatever the issue, end it soon or talk about it when the tension isn’t so thick.

Step #3 Be willing to apologize

At times, you may just not want to apologize. You may be convinced that it’s not your fault and you don’t see any reason in humiliating yourself by offering an apology.

But that’s where you’re wrong.

What are you trying to prove after a fight? That you’re right and your partner is wrong? Why? Why do you have to show off that you’re right? Does it even matter who’s wrong or right when your lover is sad and upset?

In a relationship, there are no winners or losers. There are just happy couples or unhappy ones. If you want to know how to be happy in a relationship, learn to swallow your pride and apologize even if it’s not your fault. It’s for the sake of your relationship. Egos destroy relationships and both partners have to learn to apologize to each other even if it’s not their own fault.

Get rid of the ego and you’ll see how successful and happy your relationship can be.

Step #4 Learn to forgive

To err is human… and you know the rest of that quote. All of us make mistakes. In a happy relationship, both partners must learn to forgive each other.

It may be a petty mistake or even a huge one, but if you are willing to give your relationship a chance, learn to forgive, forget and move on. Unless, of course, your partner repeats the same act again, which would only mean your partner doesn’t love you or respect you enough to care about your feelings.

Unless it’s adultery or something just as heartbreaking, voice your opinion and forgive your partner. Holding grudges has never helped any relationship, and it never will.

Step #5 Respect each other as individuals

Your partner and you may truly love each other, but that doesn’t complete the recipe for a happy relationship. Do you respect your partner and trust them in your time of need? [Read: How to give space in a relationship]

Respecting each other is important for the success and happiness in any relationship. You may think your girlfriend is a hottie or you may know that your man’s a brawny hunk. But unless you respect them for their intellectuality and their personality, they’re nothing but your arm candy.

When you respect your lover, it shows that you trust them and can look to them for advice and help when it comes to making important decisions in the relationship. And the mutual respect that both of you share will bring more confidence into each other and happiness into your relationship.

Step #6 Look good in each other’s arms

The secret to knowing how to be happy in a relationship isn’t just about each other’s intellectual strength and the ability to compromise for the good of the relationship. Sometimes, happiness and fun in love comes from the desire to want each other.

Does your partner sexually excite you? Do you still excite your partner? Or have either of you put on a lot of weight or started dressing down and forgotten to clean yourselves up because it just doesn’t matter anymore? [Read: How to look sexy in bed]

For a relationship to be full of excitement and happiness, learn to never take each other for granted. Always try to impress your lover like you would if it was the first few weeks of the relationship.

Work out, dress well and look good. Win the admiration of your lover and the people around you and your partner will be attracted to you and will desire you more, even if you’ve been together for several years. [Read: What is the right age to get married?]

Step #7 Have an exciting sex life

Sex is pretty important in a happy relationship. In almost all relationships, it always starts off with sex every night and starts dwindling down to a few times a week after a few years and eventually, having sex once in a few weeks becomes a luxury.

But does that seem right?

If you met a crush you sexually desire or end up having an affair with someone else, wouldn’t you be banging the bed every night like a horse on heat? You do know that the sexual desire and the fire is within you, so do something about it!

You may be bored of seeing the same body parts all the time for years on end. But there are always ways to bring the excitement back into bed. Having an exciting and satisfying sex life is pretty important in understanding how to be happy in a relationship. Discuss about your sexual interests with each other and learn to innovate as both of you grow together. And if you do have a few sexually deviant ideas, talk about it.

[Read: Top sexual fantasies for men]

[Read: Top sexual fantasies for women]

At the end of the day, love and sex are as unique as the couple in love itself. So stop worrying about what’s taboo and what’s not. As long as both of you love it and it doesn’t bother the people around you, who cares!

[Read: How to stay in love forever]

Use these seven simple steps on how to be happy in a relationship and you’ll see how simple it can be to experience happiness in your love life for the rest of your lives.

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  • Thanks for this useful tips. When I read such articles it seems that everything is so easy and simple, but when it comes to relationships with a real person is very difficult to comply with these recommendations.

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  • mehak

    awesome! I applied them all to my relationship and u know what! They reaaaallly work! Love you lovepanky ! <3

  • mehak

    do call ur partner at least once a day..do text and do share with them.. Women..Be quiet when u find him saying sumthing wrong..just be quiet and see the magic..thats the only way to avoid bitter arguments which r inevitable..he will definitely cum up with a better attitude..

  • Suzume

    @mehak You are sooo right about being quiet when he says something wrong!!!! He said something really shallow and I checked him on it and now he’s acting as if I wronged him in the worst way imaginable!!! If I had just not said anything, this whole argument wouldn’t have happened and I wouldn’t have had to use Step #3 which I had a very hard time doing. Thanks for the good advice lovepanky and mehak!!!

  • Rena

    Lucky because my guy and I are very happy. Still. After 3 1/2 years. No plans to change our circumstances. Sure, we think about it from time to time, wishing we could travel together or even spend the night in each others arms. But we know it can’t happen and accept it. We find our happiness and joy in other places, when we can. He knows more about me than anyone else in my life. He knows about my kids, my marriage, my struggles, my joys. Everything. I know about his. The sex is even better now than it was when we started. We keep finding new ways to pleasure each other. We have no hang ups, no topic is off limits. If either of us wants to try something new, we can discuss it without embarrasment or fear of ridicule. I’ve never had that before with anyone. In fact, we look for ways to bring more passion and pleasure to lovemaking. Last time he did something that took the experience to a whole new level…and promises the next time it will be better still. How wonderful that is to be with someone who cares so much for my pleasure! I never knew making love could be so good, or last so long. Two hours is considered a “quickie” for us. Seriously. Granted, we can only manage time for sex every 3 or 4 weeks, but the wait is worth it. The build up is worth it. Oh yeah, and we see each other nearly every day. We work out together in the same gym five days a week. In fact, people who see us in there will always assume we are married, until we explain we are “only” workout buddies. We even manage to find time and a place to hug and kiss, and occasionally a little more. In addition, we will find opportunity to have lunch or at least a beer together once or twice a week. Always during the day, rarely at night. Luckily our schedules allow us that freedom. The rest of the time we email several times a day. Almost never call, and then its just a quick one to confirm plans. Never text message. He doesn’t know how, anyway! Nor does he want to learn. He always sends me my first email of the day. Sure, we’ve had our arguments, our disagreements about things. It’s only natural. But we always talk our way through them. He won’t let me pout or hide or get away with things. He knows me so well he can tell just by looking at me if I’m upset or out of sorts and will always ask about it. He wants to know, he wants to help. I love that. I’m not ignored by him. He picks up on clues…maybe not always, but enough! Sometimes too much. He can always make me smile. It’s really so simple; why don’t more men get it? The best thing he does for me, to make me feel loved, appreciated, cared for, desired, and oh so very special – he tells me he loves me. He tells me often that I’m cute. That I’m pretty. My body is beautiful and perfect (even though it’s not). That I have changed him (in a good way). He’s better than he was before knowing me. I make him want to be better: a better friend, a better lover. He’s on vacation right now and in an email said he misses me so much it’s almost painful. That he loves me more than I will ever know. What woman could resist that?