Have you been spying on your partner? Sometimes you may actually find something you don’t like, but what should you do about it if it’s a trivial issue that bothers you? Snooping on your partner can, at times, turn out to be a double edged sword.
Love is a lot about communication and less about most other things. If you feel insecure or unappreciated, tell your partner about it. If their late night habits piss you off, let them know. If you want to look through your partner’s cell phone messages (if you really really have to), then confront them instead of hiding under the bed and snooping with the cell. Communication will prevent a lot of fatal calamities in your relationship.
If you want to see a few positive changes in your partner, then mention it to them in a manner that won’t hurt their feelings, instead of running after someone else just to get back or get even!Kissing someone else while you’re in a relationship isn’t the answer. Remember, your partner is the one whom you chose for all the good qualities they have. Try not to overlook them and use it as an excuse to run into a fling. On the other hand, avoid snooping until you know you really have no other choice.
Should you confess that you snooped?
Let’s say you have a weak moment and you snoop. Fortunately or unfortunately, you find something that upsets you, flirty text from someone you know has the hots for your partner or something along those lines.
Or you might find some pictures or love letters from your partner’s previous relationship. It’s not too bad, but you know you don’t like it. It’s on your mind. Now what do you do? By telling your partner about it, you have to confess that you snooped.
On the other hand, if you don’t confess, you’d just end up snapping at your partner and getting really pissed off, much to the confusion of your loving partner. This situation is not easy to confront. You might feel jealous and burn, but at the same time, a part of you would know it’s just a stupid thought. It’s an emotional turmoil that’s not easy to pour out or hold on inside.
Although hanging on to the information and pretending like nothing is wrong can be really hard, it might be easier to reveal that you snooped and crossed the boundaries of your partner’s privacy. It’s better to put up with a few days of tension than break up over something that could mean nothing at all.
Respect for others
In a happy relationship, the respect you have for your partner is one of the building blocks that can take your love a long way. If there is no trust between your partner and you, then the relationship is bound to be doomed eventually. But then again, it’s not easy to blindly trust someone, especially if you’ve had a string of bad relationships or a previous episode of mistrust. It is always better to keep your partner aware of what’s going on in your life, and vice versa.
If both of you really do care about this relationship more than anything or anyone else, sharing a few passwords or telling each other about your past escapades and hidden secrets won’t really hurt you. In fact, it can even help you.